Engadget Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 I mean I've got a small handful of friends, but for the most part people my age I meet just baffle me. I feel more mature than almost everyone, and all they seem to want to do is party and drink. These are alright once in a while, but it's ALL they do! I drank plenty when I was a teen, but once I hit 21 it came to a slow stop, I just got bored of it. This will sound arrogant and I don't mean it to, but I feel smarter than most of these people too. It goes beyond just finding people that share the same hobbies/interests too, it's just a state of mind. Some girls I've met and tried to be friends with were so vapid, obsessed with shopping...just ugh. I'm not materialistic at all so that bugs me. I'm looking for something I can't really describe, but my cousin is a good example. Him and I are so alike it's funny, and we both have the same issue with other people. Even in high school I hung out with Juniors and Seniors when I was a Freshman. Maybe I need to meet people in their 30's or older, including in the dating scene as well. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 dude you need to join the army Link to post Share on other sites
Author Engadget Posted April 4, 2010 Author Share Posted April 4, 2010 dude you need to join the army I was going to a few years ago but numerous medical problems sidelined me. They wouldn't take me even if I tried. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 I was going to a few years ago but numerous medical problems sidelined me. They wouldn't take me even if I tried. Ok then , everybody laughs @ me for saying this, but go skydiving. Your social network will expand tremendously. You will meet tons of new people, and we dont just skydive. BBq's, parties,all kinds of social events. Give it a try Link to post Share on other sites
Rittenhouse Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 I don't know if this helps, or makes it worse, but I'm 45 and have had these same problems all my life. When I was in my early 20's I couldn't relate at all to my peers, and usually dated women who were older than me. At least you have your cousin. I would say just keep trying to find online and especially off-line groups of people who share your interests. Or talk to us! I'm listening. BTW, your handle sounds really familiar, I'm trying to remember where I've seen it. Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 I have a similar problem. I'm in my early 40s, and most of the single people I've met either want to live for the moment by partying and drinking as much as they can, or they just want to be Mr. or Ms. Power Tie. I guess homesteading is pretty dead in this country... I'd like a decent woman with a demure personality who wants to get married and settle down, like in that Rosemary Clooney song, "Give Me the Simple Life". Power Tie folks can't take all the money they've made with them when they die... and as for the partygoers, unless they're going to write their autobiographies telling about all the highs that made their lives wonderful, then it probably isn't worth it. One of life's most basic needs is the need to be loved. That is the one necessity I have thus far been unable to obtain. Link to post Share on other sites
Nikki Sahagin Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 I feel the same and i'm 20. I just find myself feeling allienated around the majority of people of my own age group especially for the exact same reasons you've mentioned; they all want to party and drink and that is ALL. It goes deeper than that though; I find them boring, shallow, boastful. Sometimes I don't know if they are just really annoying or if i'm just really spiteful. I guess try to make friends with older people. It is hard to find connections. Most overly social people are not actually connected with many; they just have quite hollow, superficial friendships. True connections are very rare and hard to find unless you are a lucky person who is easily pleased. Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 Some people are just used to giving and getting a lot more than others, sort of like being a rich big spender with emotions instead of money. Unfortunately, Nikki, most people in this country treat friendship more casually than you and I do. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 (edited) I have the same problem - the only solution I've found to it is that when I do find someone I connect with (once in a blue moon), I treasure them like gold. Unfortunately, despite my best efforts, even those few people have somewhat drifted apart from me due to distance (everyone going abroad for studies and such), but hopefully sometime in the future I'll be able to rebuild that. Those people were for the most part older than me, now that you mention it. One of the people whom I connected with amazingly in the past was 11 years older than me, but we drifted apart when he got himself a steady girlfriend (he's now married). Another was 7 years older than me. Of course, I dated neither due to various reasons, but the mental connection was undeniable. Edited April 4, 2010 by Elswyth Link to post Share on other sites
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