Soul mate vs. True love

[Leia]

True love - I'm not too sure about this too, right now. Is true love something you share with a particular person over the years and after several break ups [inevitable reasons], you end up together again and still feel the same, even more than before and everything just feels good with one another? Even after working through the tough phases and find it easier to deal with the second or third time around, no feeling of boredom with one another ... is that true love?

 

crazycatlady, what do you think of the above? What kind of love is that, if that isn't true love? I know I've heard of this sort of love before. Just curious what others think of this.

[txsilkysmoothe]

I don't believe either exist.

 

I once believed and thought I had found my soulmate - seriously thought God had created me specifically for him. That was until he, at the age of 30, cheated on me with a 16 year old high schoold cheerleader. Never again!

[Leia]

I don't believe either exist.

 

I once believed and thought I had found my soulmate - seriously thought God had created me specifically for him. That was until he, at the age of 30, cheated on me with a 16 year old high schoold cheerleader. Never again!

 

Oh s***f***! I'm so sorry to hear about that. 16 year old?! WTF. Sick

 

I'm starting to believe that I am better off being alone!

[skydiveaddict]

Oh s***f***! I'm so sorry to hear about that. 16 year old?! WTF. Sick

 

I'm starting to believe that I am better off being alone!

 

 

No you're better off with somebody, believe me

[SaintDragon]

No you're better off with somebody, believe me

 

 

Why?.....

 

Being alone doesn't have to be the end of everything. Just keep some good friends around you and have fun with life without the restrictions and PITA of being hitched.

 

I do know it sucks worse to be a single male though.

[Citizen Erased]

Oh s***f***! I'm so sorry to hear about that. 16 year old?! WTF. Sick

 

I'm starting to believe that I am better off being alone!

Some people are pretty sick in the head.

 

Hopefully the person God created for me doesn't have a thing for 16 year old cheerleaders.

 

You will find someone Leia, look at you. You're beautiful and funny, sweet and very intelligent. If you can't find someone, what luck does everyone else have?

[skydiveaddict]

Why?.....

 

Being alone doesn't have to be the end of everything. Just keep some good friends around you and have fun with life without the restrictions and PITA of being hitched.

 

I do know it sucks worse to be a single male though.

 

 

It gets old quickly my friend

[SaintDragon]

It gets old quickly my friend

 

Oh you don't have to tell me that:laugh:

 

Alone for 35 years and counting. However the more I see of stupid crap that happens in relationships, people skipping out of their dreams for a "man" only to flounder into a cesspool of termoil and suspense....I feel better about being alone:D

 

Leia is smart....she doesn't need some man to make her complete.. I'm just saying..don't rule your life over another person...I really believe that now , but before I had not..I too was caught in the "must be in a relationship" trap.. screw it.

 

Seems these days it's like playing the lottery.... winning a perfect, faithful and loving mate is truly one in a million. Even if you do find one..it's no guarantee it's forever.. I couldn't handle those thoughts... If I were cheated on..I could not live with that.

 

So yes..for some like me...I'm better alone and avoid those emotions I know I couldn't handle. To people that make it work..they have my respect and amazement....

[skydiveaddict]

wise words. I bet Leia has a guy though

[Woggle]

True love is a dead concept these days. I have pretty much given up on ever finding it.

[skydiveaddict]

True love is a dead concept these days. I have pretty much given up on ever finding it.

 

 

you and me both

[Citizen Erased]

True love is a dead concept these days. I have pretty much given up on ever finding it.

And you married your wife because...?

[Leia]

You will find someone Leia, look at you. You're beautiful and funny, sweet and very intelligent. If you can't find someone, what luck does everyone else have?

 

:love: Thanks. If Lyss were around, she'd say the same thing

 

No luck, my friend, no luck ... I almost had what you and Pyro have right now. I think I'll start online dating with someone from another country. Another planet would be even better!

 

It gets old quickly my friend

 

It does!!!!

 

Leia is smart....she doesn't need some man to make her complete.. I'm just saying..don't rule your life over another person...I really believe that now , but before I had not..I too was caught in the "must be in a relationship" trap.. screw it.

 

Thanks. I don't need a man to make me feel complete. But having one around would be nice so that we can do the lovey-dovey things couple do. Even the mushy ones I wouldn't want to.

 

wise words. I bet Leia has a guy though

 

Yes ... with an expiry date too

 

True love is a dead concept these days. I have pretty much given up on ever finding it.

 

Aren't you married? Good Lord, you're not going to turn my thread into yours, are you?!

[Woggle]

And you married your wife because...?

 

I don't know.

[skydiveaddict]

Woggle, you're not really married are you?

[Woggle]

Woggle, you're not really married are you?

 

I am and let's not make this thread about that.

[SaintDragon]

Thanks. I don't need a man to make me feel complete. But having one around would be nice so that we can do the lovey-dovey things couple do. Even the mushy ones I wouldn't want to

 

 

Sometimes we wish we had that other around....watching them make the taters or help them in the garden....Talk in bed softly on a hot, summer, night with nothing but moonlight..

 

I get it, Leia....I really do.

[Citizen Erased]

:love: Thanks. If Lyss were around, she'd say the same thing

 

No luck, my friend, no luck ... I almost had what you and Pyro have right now. I think I'll start online dating with someone from another country. Another planet would be even better!

Of course she would!

 

I've always thought it was ridiculous when people said they had found their soul mate when they lived down the street from them, high school sweethearts etc etc. It's like out of the billions of people on Earth their soul mate happens to be conveniently right there? Mmmhmm. My ex wasn't happy to hear that theory of mine. Well now...if what I have now isn't all that mushy lovey dovey happily ever after stuff, I doubt I'd ever find it.

 

But then I always thought long distance was ridiculous. So I'm mostly full of it I guess.

 

Hmm I know someone from another country I'd love to see you with. But that's our little secret.

[Leia]

Soul mates. Really? I have a few friends that keep saying "he is my soul mate" with the dopey eye look on her face. She keeps saying that to every guy she dates! Are you for real, girl?! The same thing with the rest of them. I don't get those who think chick flick endings are real. You can actually get that in real life. Yea sure you can I believe in love but come on now, don't be stupid.

 

LDR is ridiculous. It's insane. But am willing to try if you let me know who that 'someone' is!!

 

Of course she would!

 

I've always thought it was ridiculous when people said they had found their soul mate when they lived down the street from them, high school sweethearts etc etc. It's like out of the billions of people on Earth their soul mate happens to be conveniently right there? Mmmhmm. My ex wasn't happy to hear that theory of mine. Well now...if what I have now isn't all that mushy lovey dovey happily ever after stuff, I doubt I'd ever find it.

 

But then I always thought long distance was ridiculous. So I'm mostly full of it I guess.

 

Hmm I know someone from another country I'd love to see you with. But that's our little secret.

[Citizen Erased]

Soul mates. Really? I have a few friends that keep saying "he is my soul mate" with the dopey eye look on her face. She keeps saying that to every guy she dates! Are you for real, girl?! The same thing with the rest of them. I don't get those who think chick flick endings are real. You can actually get that in real life. Yea sure you can I believe in love but come on now, don't be stupid.

 

LDR is ridiculous. It's insane. But am willing to try if you let me know who that 'someone' is!!

 

Well you and I are on the same page with chick flicks, that's for sure! To be clear, I don't even believe we have souls so the concept is foreign to me of having one person your soul recognises as your true love blah blah etc etc. There are no perfect endings, someone can be perfect FOR you, they can make you happy and you can share a beautiful life with them but it's never going to be sunshine and happiness 24/7. People that expect that from their partner are only going to be like your friend and trying to fit the person they're with into the mold they want to fill. Inevitably being disappointed and going onto their next "soul mate". They're more than likely be the grass is always greener kind and miss out on the person they'd be happiest with.

 

What I have now is great and the point I was making before was how he is, the person he is, is what I want and need in my life. That doesn't mean God created us to find each other one day and live happily ever after. How...arrogant to assume that. I'm sure He has better things to do. Not to mention that is a lot of pressure! If you told people on their first date that were going to marry that other person and they will be together until they leave this Earth most people would run screaming.

 

I think you know.

[Meaplus3]

Do you subscribe the whole 'soul mate' thing?

 

How about 'true love'? Have you found yours?

 

Is there a difference between your TRUE LOVE and your SOUL MATE?

 

Can you find one and not find the other?

 

Is it supposed to be the same person?

 

I'm interested to know your opinions on this. Thanks!

 

Well, I look at it this way. I believe there is someone out there for everyone. Now, if that means a soul mate so be it. As for finding my true love........... Yes.. I believe I have after many years.

 

Mea:)

[NoIDidn't]

Both are myths, and unhealthy ones at that.

 

The term "soulmate" suggests that there is one special person out there for you, that you need to wait for The One. Well, guesss what? The One doesn't exist. The One is a lie. No two people are that perfectly compatible. Relationships don't work because you find the perfect person. They work because you put in the effort to make them work.

 

"True love" is a similar bit of adolescent nonsense. No one can feel madly in love all the time. Even people we love dearly drive nuts sometimes, or bore us, or annoy us. We'd all be much better off if we'd learn to outgrow these silly ideas.

 

I wholeheartedly agree. I don't ascribe to these notions either.

 

And yet, I feel that I have both of those things in my husband.

 

I won't get into how we met, but he is from another country and our meeting was purely a chance happening. He's my guy.

 

I can't imagine being with another. But I don't believe in soulmates or "true" love.

 

I do believe in "real" love, though. And "real" love is something you work at, most days, if not everyday.

 

(I hope someone can understand what I am trying to say.)

[You Go Girl]

If you told people on their first date that were going to marry that other person and they will be together until they leave this Earth most people would run screaming.

 

 

haha...thanks for making me laugh this morning! Quite the visual...

[crazycatlady]

Well you and I are on the same page with chick flicks, that's for sure! To be clear, I don't even believe we have souls so the concept is foreign to me of having one person your soul recognises as your true love blah blah etc etc. There are no perfect endings, someone can be perfect FOR you, they can make you happy and you can share a beautiful life with them but it's never going to be sunshine and happiness 24/7. People that expect that from their partner are only going to be like your friend and trying to fit the person they're with into the mold they want to fill. Inevitably being disappointed and going onto their next "soul mate". They're more than likely be the grass is always greener kind and miss out on the person they'd be happiest with.

 

What I have now is great and the point I was making before was how he is, the person he is, is what I want and need in my life. That doesn't mean God created us to find each other one day and live happily ever after. How...arrogant to assume that. I'm sure He has better things to do. Not to mention that is a lot of pressure! If you told people on their first date that were going to marry that other person and they will be together until they leave this Earth most people would run screaming.

 

I think you know.

 

My H told me on the first date that we were going to get married. The second date he named our son.

 

I will admit that I was and figured he was a bit weird. But since he was cute, fun, great in bed (I was so easy back then I'll admit it) I didn't kick him to the curb.

 

He said when I opened the door he was hit with the feeling of "this is who I'm meant to be with for the rest of my life".

 

We have had our ups and downs. That's why I have a hard time not believe in soulmates. True love....still think its just my kids lol. True love has to be pure love, and nothing is pure like that of a parent for their child.

 

CCL

[SaintDragon]

its just my kids lol. True love has to be pure love, and nothing is pure like that of a parent for their child.

 

CCL

 

 

 

You have that right lol.. When I go over to mom's she will still pull my pants up if my "waistband" is showing lmao... She always "inspects" my place when she is over..for clean...that can get pretty annoying.

 

I'm 35:o