What does he mean? PLAYING GAMES or wah?

[Aliyah21]

Hey,

 

I have a question regarding this one dude whether hes playing games or what not. I met this guy through my cousin and we swapped numbers so just recently he had texted me saying hi, so we talked but then half way during the conversation he just randomly popped the question of whether I was interested in knowing him?. I just replied saying okay I don't mind in getting to know him but then he started telling me how his sisters are looking for a wife for him and that he doesnt have any interest in the girls they found for him. He said he wanted to know somethings about me and just started asking about: What I do? If I had a man? What my likes and dislikes are?, but the thing is when I asked him questions he never responded to any but just told me that he was single. Then he just asked me: "Did you tell anyone that we talk?", Im like no. Then he was like okay good because I dont want people getting the wrong idea? Im like what wrong idea? He replied: "Look does me wanting to know and you talk mean anything?, it doesnt Right?". Im like yeah it does, it means you wish to know me, idk wth ur trying to say?. But then hes like here are my rules on being my friend you cant involve anyone like your friends, family or cousins about us talking. He had brought that up more then once in that conversation. I just dont seem to understand wth his deal is and he just kept saying Im interested in you but dont tell pplz we talk and that I dont want pplz getting the wrong idea. He was like I rather talk to you alone and in person so do you wish to come out with me. I just didnt reply because I was so confused. But before this the many times we met I never spoke to him and he would just stare at me and just bump into every chance he got.

 

PLEASE HELP.

Edited April 4, 2010 by Aliyah21

[JamieA]

I think you should just like post this in the like General Relationship forum where you could like get more to read it. Coz this section is like the forum where you like ask questions about the whole site. I hope you like know what I like am like trying to say like.

[whichwayisup]

But then hes like here are my rules on being my friend you cant involve anyone like your friends, family or cousins about us talking.

 

Don't spend another minute on this idiot! He isn't worth the effort. ANY man who would say this, deserves to be dumped and forgotten about.

[spiderowl]

It sounds like he's an idiot and controlling. Who is he to tell you who you can talk to about anything? He's not in a relationship with you. If he doesn't want people to know you are texting each other, then you must ask yourself who is he trying to hide from. Has he got a girlfriend somewhere or something?

 

He may want to know you better: he is asking a lot of questions, but why are you answering him? He is being very controlling - he wants to be able to ask you things but doesn't reveal anything about himself other than that he is single. He wants you to dance to his tune all the way. Honestly, if it was me, I'd drop the guy like a hot cake; he sounds like a load of weird trouble to me and I don't feel he's got your best interests at heart at all.

 

What do you know about this guy anyway, other than that someone you know knows him? He could be anyone, in any relationship status, with any kind of work, social, relationship history. Make sure you find out a whole lot more about him before you ever consider meeting this guy. I feel concerned you might be at risk from him.

[stillafool]

Boy, he really thinks he's something doesn't he? Lose that guy quickly, he is only concerned about his wants and needs.

[mixwell]

As the others have said I would avoid this guy.. How the hell does he think he can lay down ground rules with someone that isn't even a friend let along a girlfriend.. Are you guys from a strict ethnic background or belief system where it is taboo to do what you're doing ? I feel that may be the case but still if this guy is already trying to be secretive about things and you two aren't anything but just txting then I would look elsewhere or ask him straight up why he is being the way he is and demand an answer.. If cannot provide you a straight up reason on why he is acting the way he is then I would say ignore him and stop wasting your time...

[Aliyah21]

Eww, lol with me everything is straight forward no stupid secrets. Like Im pretty blunt about the way I am with peoples and everyone knows pratically everything about and what Im doing. I like dont do stuff in secret or like live a double life but from the way he was acting with me I was just super pissed. But the think is I seem as if hes like trying to keep himself looking available while keeping me in the faded background. I did ask him straight up but like he never replied back I was just like okay but I swear it felt like something more. Idk like I was recently hearing stuff about him and his sisters approaching me saying that I like broke off his thing with his gf. Which I think is pretty bizarre because its his choice to talk to me not mine. Its not like Im in his face or upfront where he has to be nice and talk. Like he texted me and messaged me on msn plus he would always like punch my shoulder when passing by. So I thought I would give him a chance but seriously I think he just got cocky. FYI Im like 19 while hes 26, but like I wasnt looking for a relationship I just thought of being nice and talking to him like how I talk to his friends but hes like a total freak show. The reason why I posted this issue up was because I need some real opinions from guys and girls just make sure Im not mistaking him for being wrong. But overall everyone has said hes like weird and doesnt have good intentions. Seriously ty for actually reading and posting up a nice sincere comment. Thank again. Hope to hear what you have to say but yea no I dnt have strict rules like my parents know everything about me. I swear hes like 26 and umm hes like laying rules down for the first time he ever talked to me and that sorta pisssed me of cuz I dnt like taking pplz ****.