how to get a girlfriend

[Mikki Mars]

how do you get a girlfriend, and do it fast? I wanna just have someone I go to and wrap myself in her, that I can get sex and sex favours from, who always wants to be with me. How do I do this? Do I also have to make more close guy friends, like is not having a ton of close male friends as a male a disadvantage?

[Steelrain21]

By having about the complete opposite mindset of what you just said in your post. Don't go looking hard for a gf, nothing good tends to come out of that. Either you'll end up lowering your standards or more likely the girl will sense how eager you are and get scared away. Girls are very good at sensing if a guy is trying too hard or trying to force something. If they sense this, 99% of the time they will turn for the hills and run as fast as they can. Let things happen naturally. If there's chemistry between you and a girl, things will more than likely seem to just fall into place by themselves.

 

Don't treat every girl that shows interest in you like she's your last ticket for a chance to be with someone. There are TONS of girls out there, and if things don't work out with one, another one will pop into your life when you least suspect it. Just relax and let it happen. Don't look at every attractive female in public thinking that she's a possibilty of someone to date. Talk and get to know girls with no expectations. If there's something there then go for it. If not, no big deal. That will take the pressure both off of you and her.

[Mikki Mars]

By having about the complete opposite mindset of what you just said in your post. Don't go looking hard for a gf, nothing good tends to come out of that. Either you'll end up lowering your standards or more likely the girl will sense how eager you are and get scared away. Girls are very good at sensing if a guy is trying too hard or trying to force something. If they sense this, 99% of the time they will turn for the hills and run as fast as they can. Let things happen naturally. If there's chemistry between you and a girl, things will more than likely seem to just fall into place by themselves.

 

Don't treat every girl that shows interest in you like she's your last ticket for a chance to be with someone. There are TONS of girls out there, and if things don't work out with one, another one will pop into your life when you least suspect it. Just relax and let it happen. Don't look at every attractive female in public thinking that she's a possibilty of someone to date. Talk and get to know girls with no expectations. If there's something there then go for it. If not, no big deal. That will take the pressure both off of you and her.

but why can't girls just love a guy who wants to love them? I know I hear how girls don't like "needy guys" but why??

[SuperMatt]

but why can't girls just love a guy who wants to love them? I know I hear how girls don't like "needy guys" but why??

The reason they don't go after those guys is because it shows you have to have someone around. Which shows your needy and not self confident about yourself. The number one rule of finding a new girlfriend is fixing yourself confidence! If you view yourself as being totally fine with or without a girlfriend and just do the things you like in life you WILL FIND SOMEONE.

 

If your trying to quicken the process up first off I find there are 3 general ways I find (good) girlfriends

 

1. Through Friends (if there like your friends then you'll problem like them)

2. At School (strike up a conversation, hell your in the same class, tell them how the teacher has stick up there butt )

3. Through your hobbies (sports, activities, clubs)

 

if your trying to jump start a good friends circle join activities and clubs. In addition you can go to web sites like meetup.com and type in your hobby.

 

Have fun and Get your butt out there!

[Nightsky]

I can give you some general advice but you really need to go out there yourself and try bold brilliant things if you want a gf.

 

1. Be in shape. You don’t have to be a body builder, but take care of your body. Work out regularly. Read books and talk to people at the gym about fitness. Look your best.

 

2. Don’t be lazy. Work hard for the things you want in life. Don’t just settle for some lame job, but live life.

 

3. Be confident. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. If you are out and about and you see a girl in line at the bank, go talk to her if you like her. Don’t be unconfident and think up excuses not to. It matters less what you say and more what you do and feel.

 

4. Enjoy the journey, and don’t be afraid of failure. We can learn more from our mistakes then victories.

 

When you come back here I want you to be telling us about how you are training to be in shape, you are working toward your dreams, and you’ve at least tried some bold moves with women you found attractive. My guess is at this time even if you are in shape and chasing your dreams you haven’t been actually hitting on any women. Its easy to make excuses but as soon as you actually start trying you’ll find success. It’s a mental block most people have, they don’t even try.

[dazzle22]

but why can't girls just love a guy who wants to love them? I know I hear how girls don't like "needy guys" but why??

 

 

Because all relationships, when you break them down to the basic elements, are based on 'give and take'.

 

Giving, but also getting something, and vice versa. Like a 'teeter totter', there has to be a balance of the two.

 

When you are with someone whom you feel 'gives too much' it makes you uncomfortable, like you are then obligated, like you 'owe' something to even things out.

 

When you are with someone who 'takes too much' or 'needs too much', well, that doesn't feel good either. Everyone wants to be with someone who 'makes them feel good about themselves', bottom line.

 

Also, try not to frame your desires as 'wanting sexual favors'. That sounds like sex involving a monetary transaction....

[Mikki Mars]

I can give you some general advice but you really need to go out there yourself and try bold brilliant things if you want a gf.

 

1. Be in shape. You don’t have to be a body builder, but take care of your body. Work out regularly. Read books and talk to people at the gym about fitness. Look your best.

 

2. Don’t be lazy. Work hard for the things you want in life. Don’t just settle for some lame job, but live life.

 

3. Be confident. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. If you are out and about and you see a girl in line at the bank, go talk to her if you like her. Don’t be unconfident and think up excuses not to. It matters less what you say and more what you do and feel.

 

4. Enjoy the journey, and don’t be afraid of failure. We can learn more from our mistakes then victories.

 

When you come back here I want you to be telling us about how you are training to be in shape, you are working toward your dreams, and you’ve at least tried some bold moves with women you found attractive. My guess is at this time even if you are in shape and chasing your dreams you haven’t been actually hitting on any women. Its easy to make excuses but as soon as you actually start trying you’ll find success. It’s a mental block most people have, they don’t even try.

but I hit on many girls, and few show any interest. I mean I feel like I've made some mistakes at school, getting too drunk and then acting creepish, but not that much. But I'm generally sober unless I'm at a party, and I try to hit on girls in classes, and at parties even when I'm not very drunk, and it never seems to work. Some have said I "come on too strong" or I "overthink things."

 

My last semi-successful encounter was 2 weeks ago, I met a girl at an event, brought her to a party that night, and hooked up with her when I brought her back to her room, then left, nothing more. She said to text her the next day. I did. She was busy. She then didn't respond to my text the next day asking her how her monday went. Then I texted her on a saturday, she did respond. I then texted her this Friday, she was here during easter break she said, but then turned me down the next day when I asked her to hang out. My friend who is also friends with her and then told me yesterday that she told him "I don't see him 'that way.'" I'm heartbroken, I could have had something.

 

What am I doing wrong??????

[Steelrain21]

but I hit on many girls, and few show any interest. I mean I feel like I've made some mistakes at school, getting too drunk and then acting creepish, but not that much. But I'm generally sober unless I'm at a party, and I try to hit on girls in classes, and at parties even when I'm not very drunk, and it never seems to work. Some have said I "come on too strong" or I "overthink things."

 

My last semi-successful encounter was 2 weeks ago, I met a girl at an event, brought her to a party that night, and hooked up with her when I brought her back to her room, then left, nothing more. She said to text her the next day. I did. She was busy. She then didn't respond to my text the next day asking her how her monday went. Then I texted her on a saturday, she did respond. I then texted her this Friday, she was here during easter break she said, but then turned me down the next day when I asked her to hang out. My friend who is also friends with her and then told me yesterday that she told him "I don't see him 'that way.'" I'm heartbroken, I could have had something.

 

What am I doing wrong??????

 

 

You answered your own question when you stated that often girls will tell you that you come on too strong. That's only the girls that actually came out and honestly told you that too, I guarantee there were probably many more that thought the same but said something else to try and spare your feelings. I can clearly see that your biggest problem is that you need to relax, be more confident, and not seem so eager when you deal with girls. You aren't having much luck with flirting probably because the girls can sense that you are too eager or are overly nervous. Women are 10 times better at reading body language than men are. Just be yourself and talk to girls just like you'd talk to any other human being.

 

You're going to end up getting hurt a lot of you keep having the attitude about dating that you have. You shouldn't be "heartbroken" because a girl you hooked up with isn't interested anymore, that's just part of life. From your story, you didn't seem to hardly know that girl so why are you already thinking that she could be a gf? Don't have those expectations so early are you will definitely be getting a hurt a lot.

[spiderowl]

You know, if you start out with an attitude of getting sex and sex favours from a girl, then she's going to sense that and not be very impressed. What have you got to offer a girl, apart from sex? That's what you should be thinking about. Are you good company, fun? Are you easy to talk to or are you the intense, silent type or the talking all about yourself type?

 

I don't think you need lots of close guy friends to get to know a girl. You do need some relationship skills. You need to be able to talk to her, for a start off.

 

Here is a list of things you could consider which, I believe, would improve your chances of meeting and then getting closer to a girl. Many of them are overlooked by men or not thought relevant. Believe me, they matter! I am a girl (well, woman) and I know!

 

Meeting a girl - maximise your chances of meeting a girl. Go where girls go. Network - get to know lots of people, all ages, talk to them, drop hints that you're interested in finding a lovely lady to love. Change your usual pattern/routine. Go out earlier or later. Go to places you don't normally go. Do things you don't normally do.

 

Make contact with a girl - talk to lots of people. Think of the first encounter as simply making a point of contact. If you walk past a girl you like, smile. If she's someone you see regularly, smile first time, next time you pass her, nod. Next time you pass her, say hello. Next time you pass her, stop and ask her something. The aim is to get her used to interacting with you in small ways at first, so that you become a familiar and welcome figure. Gradually go from this start to talking.

 

Wherever you are, make sure you make contact with people. Don't just walk in and walk out of the shop, bus, train. Say hello to someone. Ask them about the story they are reading. Ask them if they know how to get a bus to ? Ask them what they are listening to (if they have an iPod or similar). Ask them anything to make contact. Just practice this. Build on it slowly, if possible. Get the person to feel as if they know you in a fairly short space of time. You can do this anywhere, with reason, just don't approach women in places where they might feel unsafe - a dark street is not a good place to start talking to a strange woman, for example.

 

Getting closer

 

Once you've started talking to the girl you are interested in, you need to make your interest in her (as a person first) known. Find out what her interests are, what her hobbies are. Find something of mutual interest. Listen to her telling you about herself. Everything people say is significant and tells you something about them, so pay attention. When you've found something you both like, suggest going together some time. Put it across as a fun event, not serious, and that you like her company. Don't spook her by being intense and serious.

 

Once you get time to speak to her alone, you need to get closer emotionally. This is something some men are very good at and most are really, really hopeless at. It's a vital skill. How can you get close to a woman if you can't communicate with her? It's not possible. So, this is where you need to make the conversation more personal. Ask about her interests, her hopes and dreams, the things that matter to her. Listen, don't just start off on your own ramble about whatever it brought to mind. If you are talking more than her, you are probably talking too much. At least try to keep it even. When she talks about things that matter to her, however difficult a topic or if she seems emotionally affected in some way, don't panic and start talking about how clever your iPhone is! Geeks tend to rush back to things they are comfortable with and I guess many men do something similar and flip back to more comfortable topics, such as cars, achievements, football, the lads. Do not opt out at this stage. This is how you get emotionally close to someone, you stick with them when they talk about things that matter. I can't stress enough how important this is. This is where most men give up and lose out. If they bale on a woman who is telling them something of emotional significance, then they are proving they cannot be trusted as a friend and that they are shallow and insensitive. OK, you might not be, but that's what you'd be indicating to her.

 

When your girl is happy talking about almost anything with you, she will be trusting you. She will feel close to you. She will spend time alone with you and she will be considering other possibilities with you. Don't assume you are consigned to the friends zone because she talks about important things with you; this is a myth.

 

What you mustn't do, though, is ever give her the idea that you want to be just a friend. Make it clear you are attracted to her and that you'd like a relationship with her. But also make it clear you like her as a person and want time alone with her for that reason too. At each point in this relationship, you can increase physical contact. Fun, casual touches at first, arm round cuddles later, gentle brushing back of hair or arranging of necklace, as you get closer, and when she's comfortable with all these things, hand holding and after a while a kiss. The rest is up to you, but don't rush anything! Take your time, pace things, but steadily move forward. At some point, you or she may feel things are moving too fast and need to stop or take a step backwards. Don't panic too much about doing this. If you are scaring her in some way by being too possessive or demanding, then cool it, step back a little, maintain friendly contact, show your interest and concern, then wait until she's comfortable with you again before progressing.

 

There are a few things I'd like to add which are dead important. Forget these and you may as well not bother. Others may disagree but these are things that matter to me (and most women):

 

o Be clean, have clean clothes, clean, combed hair, clean-smelling body, preferably with deodorant, fresh-smelling breath (and keep it that way through the day, not just once);

 

o Show good manners, open doors, carry heavy things, say please and thank you, ask her what she'd like, ask her opinion, consult her about important matters, treat other people well too, pay for things if you've invited her, offer to if you haven't (though she may well refuse your offer)

 

o Be gentle, do not squeeze, pull, push, or physically force anything on her. I'm not suggesting you'd rape the girl, but men tend to forget they are physically stronger and think nothing of lifting girls off their feet, for example. This can be disturbing and controlling, so it's inadvisable unless she actually requests it. Remember women like soft touches and caresses, not grabbing and pain!

 

o Listen to her and respond to what she's saying. Many men make the mistake of talking about things that they want to talk about and don't listen to the woman.

 

o Don't assume anything. Don't assume you are in a relationship with her, that she likes/dislikes you, that she's only interested in sex because you are, that she must fancy you because she's chatting to you, that if she twirls her hair it's because she's attracted, that because you are attracted to her she must share that same feeling of wanting to rush things, that she shares the same morals or views on religion, that you are ideally suited to her, that if she's not interested it's because she doesn't know her own mind. Men inadvertently patronise women by assuming they know what's best for them. Don't assume anything - ask.

 

Well, lots to think about. You can be yourself - honestly - you may just need to learn some of the skills above to maximise your chances with girls. Good luck!

[Mikki Mars]

You know, if you start out with an attitude of getting sex and sex favours from a girl, then she's going to sense that and not be very impressed. What have you got to offer a girl, apart from sex? That's what you should be thinking about. Are you good company, fun? Are you easy to talk to or are you the intense, silent type or the talking all about yourself type?

 

I don't think you need lots of close guy friends to get to know a girl. You do need some relationship skills. You need to be able to talk to her, for a start off.

 

Here is a list of things you could consider which, I believe, would improve your chances of meeting and then getting closer to a girl. Many of them are overlooked by men or not thought relevant. Believe me, they matter! I am a girl (well, woman) and I know!

 

Meeting a girl - maximise your chances of meeting a girl. Go where girls go. Network - get to know lots of people, all ages, talk to them, drop hints that you're interested in finding a lovely lady to love. Change your usual pattern/routine. Go out earlier or later. Go to places you don't normally go. Do things you don't normally do.

 

Make contact with a girl - talk to lots of people. Think of the first encounter as simply making a point of contact. If you walk past a girl you like, smile. If she's someone you see regularly, smile first time, next time you pass her, nod. Next time you pass her, say hello. Next time you pass her, stop and ask her something. The aim is to get her used to interacting with you in small ways at first, so that you become a familiar and welcome figure. Gradually go from this start to talking.

 

Wherever you are, make sure you make contact with people. Don't just walk in and walk out of the shop, bus, train. Say hello to someone. Ask them about the story they are reading. Ask them if they know how to get a bus to ? Ask them what they are listening to (if they have an iPod or similar). Ask them anything to make contact. Just practice this. Build on it slowly, if possible. Get the person to feel as if they know you in a fairly short space of time. You can do this anywhere, with reason, just don't approach women in places where they might feel unsafe - a dark street is not a good place to start talking to a strange woman, for example.

 

Getting closer

 

Once you've started talking to the girl you are interested in, you need to make your interest in her (as a person first) known. Find out what her interests are, what her hobbies are. Find something of mutual interest. Listen to her telling you about herself. Everything people say is significant and tells you something about them, so pay attention. When you've found something you both like, suggest going together some time. Put it across as a fun event, not serious, and that you like her company. Don't spook her by being intense and serious.

 

Once you get time to speak to her alone, you need to get closer emotionally. This is something some men are very good at and most are really, really hopeless at. It's a vital skill. How can you get close to a woman if you can't communicate with her? It's not possible. So, this is where you need to make the conversation more personal. Ask about her interests, her hopes and dreams, the things that matter to her. Listen, don't just start off on your own ramble about whatever it brought to mind. If you are talking more than her, you are probably talking too much. At least try to keep it even. When she talks about things that matter to her, however difficult a topic or if she seems emotionally affected in some way, don't panic and start talking about how clever your iPhone is! Geeks tend to rush back to things they are comfortable with and I guess many men do something similar and flip back to more comfortable topics, such as cars, achievements, football, the lads. Do not opt out at this stage. This is how you get emotionally close to someone, you stick with them when they talk about things that matter. I can't stress enough how important this is. This is where most men give up and lose out. If they bale on a woman who is telling them something of emotional significance, then they are proving they cannot be trusted as a friend and that they are shallow and insensitive. OK, you might not be, but that's what you'd be indicating to her.

 

When your girl is happy talking about almost anything with you, she will be trusting you. She will feel close to you. She will spend time alone with you and she will be considering other possibilities with you. Don't assume you are consigned to the friends zone because she talks about important things with you; this is a myth.

 

What you mustn't do, though, is ever give her the idea that you want to be just a friend. Make it clear you are attracted to her and that you'd like a relationship with her. But also make it clear you like her as a person and want time alone with her for that reason too. At each point in this relationship, you can increase physical contact. Fun, casual touches at first, arm round cuddles later, gentle brushing back of hair or arranging of necklace, as you get closer, and when she's comfortable with all these things, hand holding and after a while a kiss. The rest is up to you, but don't rush anything! Take your time, pace things, but steadily move forward. At some point, you or she may feel things are moving too fast and need to stop or take a step backwards. Don't panic too much about doing this. If you are scaring her in some way by being too possessive or demanding, then cool it, step back a little, maintain friendly contact, show your interest and concern, then wait until she's comfortable with you again before progressing.

 

There are a few things I'd like to add which are dead important. Forget these and you may as well not bother. Others may disagree but these are things that matter to me (and most women):

 

o Be clean, have clean clothes, clean, combed hair, clean-smelling body, preferably with deodorant, fresh-smelling breath (and keep it that way through the day, not just once);

 

o Show good manners, open doors, carry heavy things, say please and thank you, ask her what she'd like, ask her opinion, consult her about important matters, treat other people well too, pay for things if you've invited her, offer to if you haven't (though she may well refuse your offer)

 

o Be gentle, do not squeeze, pull, push, or physically force anything on her. I'm not suggesting you'd rape the girl, but men tend to forget they are physically stronger and think nothing of lifting girls off their feet, for example. This can be disturbing and controlling, so it's inadvisable unless she actually requests it. Remember women like soft touches and caresses, not grabbing and pain!

 

o Listen to her and respond to what she's saying. Many men make the mistake of talking about things that they want to talk about and don't listen to the woman.

 

o Don't assume anything. Don't assume you are in a relationship with her, that she likes/dislikes you, that she's only interested in sex because you are, that she must fancy you because she's chatting to you, that if she twirls her hair it's because she's attracted, that because you are attracted to her she must share that same feeling of wanting to rush things, that she shares the same morals or views on religion, that you are ideally suited to her, that if she's not interested it's because she doesn't know her own mind. Men inadvertently patronise women by assuming they know what's best for them. Don't assume anything - ask.

 

Well, lots to think about. You can be yourself - honestly - you may just need to learn some of the skills above to maximise your chances with girls. Good luck!

how long does this take? How long, days, weeks, months, to get anywhere?

[dazzle22]

Wish we could see you in action. Could probably tell you within 5 minutes what is going on. You could ask a close friend for an honest opinion as to how you "come across".?

[spiderowl]

It takes a while to get to know someone and feel comfortable with them. It can take from a few days to years, depending on the person. What is the hurry? Are you just desperate for sex or something? A relationship is an investment. It doesn't sound like you are willing to invest without immediate reward. A girlfriend isn't just a sex machine or a trophy you can pick up off a shelf, she's a person. If you are just looking for a quick encounter, try the intimate encounter websites instead.

[Mikki Mars]

It takes a while to get to know someone and feel comfortable with them. It can take from a few days to years, depending on the person. What is the hurry? Are you just desperate for sex or something? A relationship is an investment. It doesn't sound like you are willing to invest without immediate reward. A girlfriend isn't just a sex machine or a trophy you can pick up off a shelf, she's a person. If you are just looking for a quick encounter, try the intimate encounter websites instead.

well I am a 21-year old virgin and sick of feeling and obviously being an inferior product. But paying for sex is not sex to me. To be honest, there have been 4 times in my life where I have payed for a specific erotic favor (not intercourse), and each time, it feels awful because I know I didn't do anything to deserve it except give green pieces of cotton and paper to someone who would do it for anyone who would also give her money, meaning my boner is nowhere near as strong, and I felt bad about myself when I've done that. Rape is never an option.

 

I need physical affection from a woman, something I've never had in my life (and family doesn't count.) I know my face isn't terrible looking, people have rated it as high as a 7, but my height hurts at 5'2''. I feel being in a relationship is the sure fire way to get the physical affection is desperately need and deserve. I am a friendly, intelligent, talented dude.

 

I really do want genuine love and affection. I want someone whose arms I can always jump into, someone who always wants me around, texts me, writes on my facebook wall unprovoked, and someone I can always feel happy to be around, as if I'm in heaven.

[Nightsky]

but I hit on many girls, and few show any interest. I mean I feel like I've made some mistakes at school, getting too drunk and then acting creepish, but not that much. But I'm generally sober unless I'm at a party, and I try to hit on girls in classes, and at parties even when I'm not very drunk, and it never seems to work. Some have said I "come on too strong" or I "overthink things."

 

My last semi-successful encounter was 2 weeks ago, I met a girl at an event, brought her to a party that night, and hooked up with her when I brought her back to her room, then left, nothing more. She said to text her the next day. I did. She was busy. She then didn't respond to my text the next day asking her how her monday went. Then I texted her on a saturday, she did respond. I then texted her this Friday, she was here during easter break she said, but then turned me down the next day when I asked her to hang out. My friend who is also friends with her and then told me yesterday that she told him "I don't see him 'that way.'" I'm heartbroken, I could have had something.

 

What am I doing wrong??????

 

When you hooked up with the girl back in her room, what does that mean? Did you guys make out?

 

Are you in good shape? If not work out! Are you taking steps toward your dreams in life? Well, what are you waiting for?

 

Look, I was actually surprised that you’ve been out there trying. That’s great, but you need to have a better attitude about it. Enjoy your interaction with women, even if it doesn’t lead to anything. Stop expecting everything to happen in such a clear cut way, and learn to be genuine and enjoy the moment. You may want a gf so bad you are possibly coming off as fake and need to the women.

 

The truth is as long as you are trying, and getting shot down you aren’t doing anything wrong. You’re a single guy feel free to jokingly flirt and ask out as many attractive girls as you encounter throughout the week. Then it’s your job to kiss them, and do things that will get you slapped in the face. When you find a girl you can’t screw up with there is your woman.

[Mikki Mars]

When you hooked up with the girl back in her room, what does that mean? Did you guys make out?

 

Are you in good shape? If not work out! Are you taking steps toward your dreams in life? Well, what are you waiting for?

 

Look, I was actually surprised that you’ve been out there trying. That’s great, but you need to have a better attitude about it. Enjoy your interaction with women, even if it doesn’t lead to anything. Stop expecting everything to happen in such a clear cut way, and learn to be genuine and enjoy the moment. You may want a gf so bad you are possibly coming off as fake and need to the women.

 

The truth is as long as you are trying, and getting shot down you aren’t doing anything wrong. You’re a single guy feel free to jokingly flirt and ask out as many attractive girls as you encounter throughout the week. Then it’s your job to kiss them, and do things that will get you slapped in the face. When you find a girl you can’t screw up with there is your woman.

It was outside her room, and she had just gotten her sober friend out of her room and she was watching us. I am in very good shape. Before this school year began, I weight 172 lbs. Now I weight 148 lbs, and work out consistently. You say ask as many girls out during a week as possible, but how do I do it without being a creeper? How do I do it if I keep getting rejected, like can the rejecter and I still be at least friends?

[Nightsky]

It was outside her room, and she had just gotten her sober friend out of her room and she was watching us. I am in very good shape. Before this school year began, I weight 172 lbs. Now I weight 148 lbs, and work out consistently. You say ask as many girls out during a week as possible, but how do I do it without being a creeper? How do I do it if I keep getting rejected, like can the rejecter and I still be at least friends?

 

You ask a lot of good questions. For the most part you have to find the answer for yourself.

 

When I became a more confident person I stopped caring if people thought I was a creep. Just be yourself, and don't worry if people think you are a creep.

 

Would you rather be a creep with a gf you really like or single and not have bothered anyone?

[Odyssey]

OP, some very sound advice given here. But it comes down to one thing...

...you gotta be willing to try! I'm sure most of your questions will be answered when you do. Don't fear rejection man. Rejection and failure are part of life.

 

Good luck.

[Engadget]

When you're not looking is when it happens. Right now I'm lonely and want someone, and I know it won't happen because of it.

[mixwell]

how do you get a girlfriend, and do it fast? I wanna just have someone I go to and wrap myself in her, that I can get sex and sex favours from, who always wants to be with me. How do I do this? Do I also have to make more close guy friends, like is not having a ton of close male friends as a male a disadvantage?

 

 

Wow dude with all your posts I must say there is no key to getting a girlfriend so stop asking... The only way is to get out there and start communicating with girls.. You will learn with experience how to read females better and gauge interest... There is no key to finding the right person or none of us would be on loveshack.... Having a lot or no guy friends doesn't matter.. just get out there and talk to women and start playing the field.. I'm not trying to be mean but seriously every thread you post is how to instantly get a girl or get a girl to like you.. THERE IS NO KEY.

 

Basic tips are this...

 

1. Be confident

2. Try to make the best of yourself.. mentally, physically, personality..

3. Not EVERY girl is going to be into you

4. dont take anything personal

5. be yourself

6 .worry about your own self before others

7 .STOP CARING SO MUCH ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU.

 

Just get out there and start experience the world of females.. There is no set rule of dating or going after someone you like.. its all trial and error and you will learn and become wiser from your experiences...

 

Stop asking for the perfect remedy because their isn't one.....