Mikki Mars Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 like if there's a girl I'm interested in who shows some interest back, but a friend or a few of them don't like me and say bad things about me, does that mean I'm screwed? Or if a kid or a few call me a "creeper" or a "weirdo" or if they ruminate on my height of 5'2'' to her, does that also mean I'm ****ed? I mean my reputation at my school is good with many people, but with a few, isn't too good. Its a school of 6000 undergrads, over 60 percent girls. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperMatt Posted April 5, 2010 Share Posted April 5, 2010 like if there's a girl I'm interested in who shows some interest back, but a friend or a few of them don't like me and say bad things about me, does that mean I'm screwed? Or if a kid or a few call me a "creeper" or a "weirdo" or if they ruminate on my height of 5'2'' to her, does that also mean I'm ****ed? I mean my reputation at my school is good with many people, but with a few, isn't too good. Its a school of 6000 undergrads, over 60 percent girls. No your not screwed, just deflect those comments if someone doesn't like you thats there deal. You know your an awesome person no matter what other people think. They don't know you very well and I bet if they got to know you the name calling would stop. Also don't worry about your height I have dated a couple of girls that are my height or taller and as long as you don't mind they wont mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mikki Mars Posted April 5, 2010 Author Share Posted April 5, 2010 No your not screwed, just deflect those comments if someone doesn't like you thats there deal. You know your an awesome person no matter what other people think. They don't know you very well and I bet if they got to know you the name calling would stop. Also don't worry about your height I have dated a couple of girls that are my height or taller and as long as you don't mind they wont mind. are you telling me the attitude I SHOULD have, or what actually occurs. It seems girls are very easily infuenced by others. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperMatt Posted April 5, 2010 Share Posted April 5, 2010 Well I think its the attitude you should have about when people talking about you. Care about people, but don't care what they think about you. Its true everyone gets influenced by others but is there a reason why your reputation is not good with some people? Link to post Share on other sites
Odyssey Posted April 6, 2010 Share Posted April 6, 2010 Worry about your character, not your reputation. Because your character is who you are, your reputation is what people think you are. i.e. no you're not screwed. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted April 6, 2010 Share Posted April 6, 2010 I won't lie, it's possible you're screwed. Some chicks will cave to influence, and others simply value the opinions of their friends. Girls may not want to date you for fear of being ostracized by the pack. Link to post Share on other sites
mixwell Posted April 11, 2010 Share Posted April 11, 2010 Trust me you do not want a girl that judges you by what other people think about you.. As another person said- character is who you are and reputation is who people THINK you are.. If someone is going to judge you by other people's ideology then that is the wrong person for you... In a relationship you should give a toss about what others think of you you but what the person you want to be in a relationship with thinks of you... Honestly after reading a few of your other posts it seems like you care to much on what other people think of you.. Stop caring some much about what other people think and worry about what you think... If you're happy with yourself then **** what other people think about you because in the end what do those people have to do with your overall future ? NOTHING !!.. I will make the assumption again that you're in highschool but this advice I give you will become embedded in your mind once you're into your early to mid 20's.. Highschool BS doesn't matter so seriously stop caring about what other people think about you and worry about your own appearance as a person.... Link to post Share on other sites
MichelleZB Posted April 19, 2010 Share Posted April 19, 2010 (edited) Actually, someone's social network can have a big influence on their dating. So, yes, you are unlikely to be able to make it with a girl whose friends all hate you. Perhaps see if you can find someone with nicer friends. If there are 60% girls on your campus, the good guys should be in demand. Good luck. Edited April 19, 2010 by MichelleZB Link to post Share on other sites
Peaceful Guy Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 " ...if someone doesn't like you thats there deal. ...You know your an awesome person no matter what other people think. ...I bet if they got to know you the name calling would stop. ...don't worry about your height..as long as you don't mind they wont mind. ...Care about people, but don't care what they think about you. " **supermatt is da zen masta!!! ** Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 as far as i've observed, women seem to be much more socially conscious than men (on average); and are certainly more inclined to take on peer opinions to heart. what can ya do, right ? Link to post Share on other sites
confused and broken Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 I don't think your screwed... If she likes you enough then she will still date you I've dated guys my friends didn't like before I think there is this unwritten rule that your friends don't have to like the guys you date... It will make her question whether she wants to date you more, but in the end what she really wants to do should win I just hope you prove her friends wrong lol Link to post Share on other sites
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