totally confused Posted July 5, 2000 Share Posted July 5, 2000 lately i have noticed my b'f being rude and obnoxious. i think i am out growing him anyway, yet it breaks my heart to think of never seeing, holding, kissing or being with him again. yet i feel i want to move on. if it didn't hurt so much i think i'd leave "now!" i don't know if i can handle the hurt right now, yet i can't handle the lit'l jabs he takes at me either. what can i do? confused Link to post Share on other sites
billy the kid Posted July 5, 2000 Share Posted July 5, 2000 are you the old totally confused, well if so welcome back, if not well girl only you know what you want and can take from him... know one should have to take tit'l or big jabs constantly.. and being rude and obnoxious isn't cool either, so it sounds to me like he is kinda p.o.ed at you for some reason and it also sounds like you could really walk with out hurting too much so you decide... personaly I do not put up with jabs or rude or obnoxious behavior from male or female friends, esp. girlfriends... lately i have noticed my b'f being rude and obnoxious. i think i am out growing him anyway, yet it breaks my heart to think of never seeing, holding, kissing or being with him again. yet i feel i want to move on. if it didn't hurt so much i think i'd leave "now!" i don't know if i can handle the hurt right now, yet i can't handle the lit'l jabs he takes at me either. what can i do? confused Link to post Share on other sites
Randy Posted July 6, 2000 Share Posted July 6, 2000 The following are selected lyrics to a song, "Knowing When To Leave," written by Burt Bacarach and Hal David. Helen Reddy did a pretty good recording of it: "Go while the going is good, Knowing when to leave may be the smartest thing that anyone can ever learn, go. I'm afraid my heart isn't very smart. Fly while you still have your wings, Knowing when to leave won't ever let you reach the point of no return, fly. Foolish as it seems, I still have my dreams. When someone walks in your life you just better be sure he's right 'cause if he's wrong there are heartaches and tears that you must pay. Keep both your eyes on the door, never let it get out of sight, Just be prepared when the time has come for you to run away. Sail when the wind starts to blow, But like a fool I don't know... When to dream, when to leave, when to leave" You have to go with your feelings. The purpose of dating someone is to see if they are the one to spend a lifetime with. Your heart is giving you a message here. It is incongruous to be rude, obnoxious towards and jab at someone you love dearly. If you can't help him get to the root of his unhappiness with himself, listen to your heart even more. Only you can know when to leave. You say "if it didn't hurt so much I think I'd leave now." Would you live with a nail through your foot for the rest of your life because removing it would hurt. Getting a root canal now could save a very nice tooth in the longrun. Link to post Share on other sites
magicklady Posted July 6, 2000 Share Posted July 6, 2000 MOVE on with your life.. you will meet the right person that way. If you stay with this guy you will never be able to meet the Right person... You will be with the wrong man. Right now the thought of not being with him again might hurt, but believe me once you have gained that freedom ... You will not miss it at all... Plus you are just going to hurt his feelings more by staying with him an prolonging this.. Link to post Share on other sites
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