Hazyhead Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 I reckon you are right. I am so lonely, and lost and I don't know what to do and I'm sad... There, back on topic.... ... and now I'm sad too, for you. I'm sorry that you're so down right now. Maybe, in a way, the divorce is clearing everything out for you... you know like when you detox you get all ill and spotty and stuff as the toxins are leaving your body, before you start feeling better than ever? (Or is that just me? God knows, I don't do it often.) Maybe it's a bit like that. I hope so because I for one miss your lively personality and I'll bet I'm not the only one. You've been through a lot with her and the negatives of knowing her right now, are far outweighing the positives. I think you need to get back to who you are without her and her problems, get back to what's great about you, and that's a lot. It's definitely her loss. Look! Here's the hugs again! (((((Tex))))) I'm well generous with them today.
Hazyhead Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 What good news, look at that... quick recovery! Both of your 'lively selves' and all. Seriously for a second, post here when you do feel low. Since you got a lotta love to give you should share it here instead. Now... as you were...
Hazyhead Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Wait! I felt "movement".. Now to be completely off-topic, I have the tv on in the background whilst I'm working and I just heard that exact line on Scrubs as Carla showed Todd her pregnant belly. Him: Wait! I felt movement! Her: Todd, that's because you're holding you're crotch. Him: I know, and I'm loving it. (Followed with a wink. Smooth.) Ok... I know, back on topic...
whichwayisup Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Their divorce IS affecting me. I don't know why. But its like, "their divorce is OUR divorce". Because? You feel partially responsible.. It's time to let go and forgive yourself completely. Yes, it played a part in the big picture, but as you've said before, if he hadn't divorced her, there would be NO divorce. I don't expect anyone to understand what I mean, but yes, I have given myself a week (until tomorrow) to "mourn". Good. Let yourself truly grieve and then that's it. Remember the good times, keep it in perspective and don't allow yourself to 'go there' anymore. Life goes on and it's time to close the chapter on her.
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