whatwhit Posted April 5, 2010 Share Posted April 5, 2010 So, my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. We are currently in long distance relationship. He goes to school in another state, but we live in the same city so he comes home during the summer/holidays. He was home in the fall of 2009 due to some illness. Heres my problem. My boyfriend has a lot of friends that are girls. I have become friends with pretty much all of his friends, and talk to them on a regularly basis, some have become like my best friends. Both his friends that are in the same town we are in, and his friends at his school in the other state. My boyfriend has mention that his senior year he wants to room with 3 of his friends that are girls. This would be okay except for the fact of one of the girls. During the fall of 2009 he went to visit his school to rekindle friendships/ whatnot. During that time his dad started to observe one of the friendships my boyfriend had with one of his girl friendships lets call her melissa, he pretty much told my boyfriends mom who later told my boyfriend that his dad thought my boyfriend and melissa had chemistry. The only reason my boyfriend told me this is because he thought it was funny. He did not realize that I wouldn't think the same thing; typical boy. So, ever since that day I have felt uncomfortable around this girl melissa. She has no clue that I feel this way, nor do I let my feelings show. I treat her the same as way as all of his other girl friends, and like all the other girls/friends we talk on a regular basis. So my boyfriend wants to live with melissa, and the two other girls. This wont happen for another 2 years, so year him and I could no longer be together, and this issue won't even matter anymore. Should I be okay with this? We have a great relationship nothing is wrong with it except for this fact. Even if he does decide to listen to me (which he won't) how can he tell a person who is completely oblivous towards the situation that he can't live with her. I just don't know what to do about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted April 5, 2010 Share Posted April 5, 2010 So, my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. We are currently in long distance relationship. He goes to school in another state, but we live in the same city so he comes home during the summer/holidays. He was home in the fall of 2009 due to some illness. Heres my problem. My boyfriend has a lot of friends that are girls. I have become friends with pretty much all of his friends, and talk to them on a regularly basis, some have become like my best friends. Both his friends that are in the same town we are in, and his friends at his school in the other state. My boyfriend has mention that his senior year he wants to room with 3 of his friends that are girls. Is there a reason you are not going? Did he ask you to come along? If not....there IS a reason. See if you can go too. If he puts up a fight or acts weird about it, then there is your answer. I'm sorry, friends of the opposite sex are one thing. Friends of the opposite sex that hang out alone, or stay in the same room together, hotel, whatever, when the significant other isn't invited.....there is no such thing as "just friends" with scenarios like that. so again, did he invite you to go too? If not, then why? These are questions I'd be asking him. If I was going out of state, you better believe I'd be inviting my significant other to come along. If I didn't invite her and told her who I'd be staying the night with, I'd expect a well deserve slap across the face. Link to post Share on other sites
Enema Posted April 6, 2010 Share Posted April 6, 2010 Sooo... you don't trust him? You think if they live together that she'll "accidentally" let him see her hop out of the shower and he'll have no choice but to throw her down right there and have his way? If you don't trust him - you shouldn't be with him. Giving him rules and making demands is the fastest way to push him away. Link to post Share on other sites
cooldudeinberlin Posted April 7, 2010 Share Posted April 7, 2010 This wont happen for another two years? 100% Guaranteed you guys wont be together anyway... a LTR at you guy's ages? Id say you are both missing out on life and not doing any justice to each other.... and not to make you feel bad... but seriously... do you really think he hasnt at least fooled around a bit? its college... and he's like a little horny rabbit with all this freedom.... you do the math. Id cut my right hand off if I am wrong. You guys should let this co-dependency thing go and try to enjoy each other as friends and your lives apart... you both are way too young for this type of stress and drama. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatwhit Posted April 7, 2010 Author Share Posted April 7, 2010 Yes, I dont believe that he is being faithful! I am 100% positive! Not every guy needs to get their ding dong played with every day. Its also called a little trust! Just like what that girl was telling me earlier if you don't trust someone why are you dating them? The prime reason why they're so many divorces! Who cares if we are young and in a LTR its not of the norm! Ppl in their early 20s do have long term relationships! I didn't ask a opinion about if i should be in a LTR or not I asked about having girls are his roommate! Link to post Share on other sites
cooldudeinberlin Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Yes, I dont believe that he is being faithful! I am 100% positive! Not every guy needs to get their ding dong played with every day. Its also called a little trust! Just like what that girl was telling me earlier if you don't trust someone why are you dating them? The prime reason why they're so many divorces! Who cares if we are young and in a LTR its not of the norm! Ppl in their early 20s do have long term relationships! I didn't ask a opinion about if i should be in a LTR or not I asked about having girls are his roommate! Sorry if you dont like the response... sort of made some of your feelings surface, but dont be mad at me... you already had those suspicions.... if its all about trust and you are a 100% sure... then why did you even post this thread? never underestimate the power of denial... I guess the case is closed - everything is perfect in paradise, isnt it? Link to post Share on other sites
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