jenny Posted January 24, 2004 Share Posted January 24, 2004 for all guys out there: longlegz is, indeed, very very hot. i have seen her modeling pic. my dear, you have absolutely everything to offer a guy. you deserve far better than your thought process would suggest. you're bright, articulate, and introspective. your sensitivity is rare, and beautiful, actually. any guy would be lucky to have you. i wish i knew how to convince you of this, permanently. i wish i could convince you to offer your heart and openness to some guy who would deserve it. i don't know what else to say; i think arabess is right on track. i'm glad you are assembling a network of supportive and positive female friends. you have so much more to offer than need. Link to post Share on other sites
danthegoodman Posted January 24, 2004 Share Posted January 24, 2004 Lets see a picture then. I'm sure you're right on. Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted January 24, 2004 Share Posted January 24, 2004 lol! this is the sort of fellow you will learn to avoid! dude, romance her a little first. hell, romance her a lot first. so very clumsy, are you. believe me, she's totally worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted January 24, 2004 Share Posted January 24, 2004 also, man, the thing is that hot girls are a dime a dozen, at least where i am and have been. the best thing i learned from teen modeling is that there is always someone prettier than you; always. it's a newton's law of beauty; hotness is not that meaningful at the end of day. it certainly has very little to do with whether or not you can score an acceptable mate, weirdly, but it does help hook the alpha men in general. finally the trick is to have, well, a trick. something that hooks the boy who wants more than appearances and general horniness. something like, y'know - intelligence, wittiness, a passion for *insert,* integrity, sensitivity, you know - those sorts of things. longlegz has all those things in spades, and beauty to boot. it's time she started owning up to her strengths. Link to post Share on other sites
danthegoodman Posted January 24, 2004 Share Posted January 24, 2004 I'm new to this site, sorry. (Its been a long nite of painting, and too much wine.). I'm gald most of the people on this site are educated and mature, given I'm only 26. lol. Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted January 24, 2004 Share Posted January 24, 2004 o, sweet, dude, you paint? what's your style? subject? i'm dating an erstwhile pollack-but-classically-trained bloke i recant previous statements now, actually. longlegz: this is a good one on the line! (visual emphasis now contextualized ) sorry for any offense, dan, just protecting vulnerable cyber-'homies'. Link to post Share on other sites
Author longlegzs80 Posted January 24, 2004 Author Share Posted January 24, 2004 Jenny I appreciate all the nice comments you have said about me, but I am not fishing for compliments. I could give a you know what if you think I am butt ugly or if I am beautiful. Sure I would just be repeating myself once again about the whole beauty thing. But I am going to skip it. I just have to stop being so desprite, which I sound so desprite on here and if you actually see me in person, I don't think I come off as desprite. But who knows. I just appreciate all the advice. Thank you for helping me out. Thanks for the compliments. SARAH Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted January 24, 2004 Moderators Share Posted January 24, 2004 Still, The guy in me wants to see Sarah's picture. I guess I love the female form. Forgiveness please Curt Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted January 25, 2004 Share Posted January 25, 2004 All the guys want to see her pic, but that wasnt why I was posting,lol, what I wanted to say was that is that sarah shouldnt worry about complaining to all of us, that is what we are here for. 2nd thing is that Sarah is everything that jenny said she is, is true. I know she isnt fishing for compliments, but it is hard to not give them. I know that if I lived in the same part of NY i would have asked her out a long time ago, but alas, im not sticking to the subject. Sarah, you need to help us help you, we are here for you. We want you to be happy and find what you are looking for. Link to post Share on other sites
befuddled11 Posted January 25, 2004 Share Posted January 25, 2004 There's many reasons why some women don't get asked out. Sure, it could be that there's something about a woman that men find intimidating. Sure, it could be that she's drop dead gorgeous and a lot of guys don't ask her out for fear of being rejected. But there's lots of other possible reasons. Afterall, there's lots of very attractive women out there who are getting asked out. Possible reasons men might not ask a woman out: -she gives off the air of being unavailable -she gives off the air of being high maintenance -she gives off the air of being a snob/b*tch -she is shy, but comes across instead as snobby/too good for everyone -she doesn't come across as approachable -she gives off vibes that she's not interested in being asked out Could be so many things. Could be that the places you go are filled with guys whose type you wouldn't be. A lighthearted example would be: don't go looking for a jet-setting businessman at a tractor pull or biker bar. get what I mean? Link to post Share on other sites
meanon Posted January 25, 2004 Share Posted January 25, 2004 Ask your male friends to tell you how you come across when an interested man is around. I know a couple of women who have so much going for them it's hard to belive they have such difficulties getting a bf. When they asked their male friends they said she gave off F*ck O** vibes whenever a fancyable man approached. Both had some bad experienced and it was a form a self protection that they were not aware they were doing. Even if it's not this - male friends who see you with other men may be able to help you figure it out. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted January 25, 2004 Share Posted January 25, 2004 well you could try asking some of your friends to hook u up with someone, that's always helpful... hope you realize what you're doing that sends the vibe of u being unapproachable..asap. Link to post Share on other sites
Author longlegzs80 Posted January 25, 2004 Author Share Posted January 25, 2004 I used to have male friends. I had this one that I was interested in me, and I did not see him as a boyfriend with me. But, him and I would go out everyweekend when I was up at college. Now that I am home, I have not got intouch with him, and he moved from his apartment so that is that. I miss him and I think about him so much. Anyways, as far as having one of my friends hook me up, I only have 2 friends, or 2 people I would consider friends. But, other then that, I just don;t do that. I will stay single, that is fine. Sure I bring it up that I am sick of being single which is true, but I am so used to it. So, whatever. Link to post Share on other sites
Jon S. Posted January 25, 2004 Share Posted January 25, 2004 That's a horrible defeatist attitude. Spend just *one* night out at the bar or club talking to guys and then come back to us if you want to complain. Trust me, you have to take a little risk if you want any return. Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted January 25, 2004 Share Posted January 25, 2004 Longlegsz, Post after post from you is about how much you hate being single, how much you wish you had a boyfriend/relationship, you never date, etc...even posts that don't start out on that topic! Which prompts the question...why do you tie up your happiness with being in a relationship? Do you think that your life will be that much better if you are in a relationship? You still will not have a job in your field, you still will be depressed...so why do you seem to so strongly feel as though a relationship will change all that? You do not need to be in a relationship to be happy. Write this out a hundred times a day until you get it. Look, normal, healthy men are attracted to women who are happy and secure with their lives. This is something you cannot fake. Perhaps if you work on other issues in your life, other things will also fall into place. Perhaps if you don't focus so much on finding a man who can "fix" you and your life and "make" you happy, you will find a nice guy. Focus on yourself. Work on your self esteem. Work on finding a job in your field. Work on moving out of your mother's house. All of these things will make you that much happier, and that much more attractive. Curt, Sorry...I just got around to reading this thread...but here's my response... I would never put my fragile ego on the line to ask someone out who wasn't almost a sure thing (with the exception of being influenced by alcohol). You girls need to take the initiative! Oh, we should take the iniative because you are too scared? Wahhhh....cry me a river, dude and grow some balls. Link to post Share on other sites
Vivid_29 Posted January 25, 2004 Share Posted January 25, 2004 Originally posted by longlegzs80 Okay, just a quick little question. Its about the being single thing. But I was just wondering, could guys not approach women because of her being really attractive and they might be intimidated by the way she looks? I been told I am attractive. I have been asked why I don't have a boyfriend? So I am just wondering if a guy thinks I am attractive could that be intimiting for him to ask me out or talk to me? I've heard that some guys are like that. I'm not. I'll hit on the sexiest woman in the club, cause I'm confident and got balls. If I get turned down, oh well, life goes on and I brush it off and move on to the next best thing! Ok, you've been told that you are attractive. What's the problem here? Do you want a boyfriend? I need a little more information! ~V Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted January 26, 2004 Share Posted January 26, 2004 Originally posted by clia You do not need to be in a relationship to be happy. Write this out a hundred times a day until you get it. That is very true. You have a lot of good qualities, just because you gon't have a boyfriend doesn't mean you can't be happy. You will find someone, just be patient and make yourself visible in places where there are guys. Link to post Share on other sites
Author longlegzs80 Posted January 26, 2004 Author Share Posted January 26, 2004 I understand what everyone is saying. I don't need a relationship to be happy, but it would be nice to start dating whether I am happy or not. I am working on myself, slow but sure, but it has been lonely. I can't tell you how sick and tired I am of being lonely. And going out and doing stuff by myself I do and I would say I have always done stuff by myself. It would just be nice for someone to accept me for who I am, and deal with the fact that I am not happy and that I am working on that part and working on the depression thing and trying to figure out my likes and dislikes. I just want someone who would listen to me, hold me, give me a compliment as much as I am weird and don't take compliments well, someone to go out with and have a good time. Just someone new in my life. I just don't get it. Can people date when they still have problems like depression and being unhappy? I know I have to work on everything, and I am slow but sure. But, I just feel like if I go through life doing stuff and nothing makes me happy I will always be lonely. I don't want to live like that. I am going out, but the bar/ club thing is not the greatest to meet people. Sure I dance with men, get propositioned for sex and that is not what I want. I want to meet someone decent, not some idiot who pays me a compliment and gets all touchy feely on me. So, I don't know. I am working on the happiness part. I know a relationship won't make me truely happy, but if I dated I would have someone who has feelings for me and cares about me and wants to do stuff etc. So, who knows. I agree with everyone, I need to work on myself. And no guy can change the way I feel about myself, I am just saying I don't understand why many women date whatever, and they are depressed or unhappy with themselves and life, and me who can't even date. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted January 26, 2004 Share Posted January 26, 2004 Oh, we should take the iniative because you are too scared? Wahhhh....cry me a river, dude and grow some balls. Quick, do that - and rush to ask women like this out; bet they're a barrel of laughs!!! (not) Yeesh!!!! Got issues, Clia? Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted January 26, 2004 Share Posted January 26, 2004 I don't have issues...I'm just not particularly fond of guys claiming that their ego is too fragile to risk asking a girl out. What's up your butt? It's no secret that I feel this way. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted January 26, 2004 Share Posted January 26, 2004 Not real big on 'live and let live'? Link to post Share on other sites
silk_sword Posted January 26, 2004 Share Posted January 26, 2004 much tension in the air! smile everyone. longlegz - clia is right. u should organize the rest of your life and things will fall into place. besides guys that don't approach u don't deserve u. u r radiant. wait until the right one comes by. that one won't be able to resist u (and vice versa). and to the rest of the conversations, everyone is allowed their opinions (well maybe not vivid!! just kidding papi ). let's not argue. we r all family, my fellow loveshackers! Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted January 27, 2004 Share Posted January 27, 2004 Originally posted by silk_sword much tension in the air! smile everyone. longlegz - clia is right. u should organize the rest of your life and things will fall into place. besides guys that don't approach u don't deserve u. u r radiant. wait until the right one comes by. that one won't be able to resist u (and vice versa). and to the rest of the conversations, everyone is allowed their opinions (well maybe not vivid!! just kidding papi ). let's not argue. we r all family, my fellow loveshackers! there are times where u shoudl just take initiative and GO FOR IT, longlegz.. dont wait..waiting/procrastination gets you nowhere in life. when your gut tells u to do something but your brain is nervous and wants to back away, go screw your brain and listen to your gut. besides...how long are you planning to wait for the right guy?? till your 50? no way! there r times where u just gotta take initiative in life, no one's gonna do it for you...only you can. Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted January 27, 2004 Share Posted January 27, 2004 Originally posted by moimeme Not real big on 'live and let live'? lol! kettle? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted January 27, 2004 Share Posted January 27, 2004 Was that Ms. 'let.it.drop.'? Link to post Share on other sites
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