Mme. Chaucer Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 The reasons you are together should be more important than what your ring looks like I don't think she questioned whether she wanted to be together with her fiance ... the question was whether she could gracefully arrange to have a ring that suits her since she may wear it every day forever. Link to post Share on other sites
WhyYesThankYou Posted May 11, 2010 Share Posted May 11, 2010 Funny how a "simple" problem can be so complicated! I think many of the suggestions above are good ones. Another to add to the list could be - if the band is as large as you describe (it sounds enormous!), maybe you could use some of the metal from that to fashion your wedding ring to him? Like, say you love that he picked out such a beautiful ring for you, but that it's really too large to be comfortable, and you want to be able to wear it every day as a symbol of his asking you to marry him. Then you could have that ring re-designed into an engagement ring you like for yourself, and the extra metal used towards a wedding ring for him (or for yourself). A combination of symbolism and utility, you see. Just trying to find ways to get you a ring you'll like without completely getting rid of the ring he gave you. Link to post Share on other sites
MrSnufkin Posted May 12, 2010 Share Posted May 12, 2010 And I would hope that the connection she has with her fiance would definitely allow her to gracefully arrange that as you say (or at least dicuss it with him). Good luck with it in any case Link to post Share on other sites
VikingPrincess Posted May 12, 2010 Share Posted May 12, 2010 What is weird is my bf recently said he is going to pick out my ring all by himself without even asking me what I like because it would ruin the surprise. I said well what if I didn't like it? He nonchalantly said we could exchange it. I was thinking well that would make me feel terrible and wouldn't you rather just do it right the first time? Men sometimes I swear! I just couldn't understand what little sentimental value he would put on the ring to propose with. Link to post Share on other sites
MrSnufkin Posted May 13, 2010 Share Posted May 13, 2010 I don't know I find it hard to believe anyone can put any sentimental value on something as inanimate as a ring, although I accept that a lot of people do and I'm not having a go at anyone for it. Each to their own and that. When I proposed to my fiance she insisted she'd rather spend the money on something more meaningful if I was going to spend any. Her view is that us actually getting married was what we should attach the sentiment to, and that a ring would just be for show and not for 'us' so to speak. We thought about it and decided to get matching style tattoos of each others initials. So now we have something that will last forever and we're both happy with I'd say your best ploy is honesty (the bedrock of a good relationship) here. I'd advise being gentle with it though and bring it up in a sensitive way, especially if it was likely to be expensive. I'm sure the 2 of you can work it out between you and work out a sloution together Link to post Share on other sites
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