How do I approach an older man?

[ThisCharmingGirl]

Hi there, I think this is kind of silly, but I want to know some tips on attracting an older man. To start of, I am a very confident person, good self esteem, and very easy to get along with, and everyone around me knows that. I don't get into fights, because I avoid arguing as much as I can. I go out a lot, I am very social, and I don't just party on the weekends, but I also know how to be mature and take care of my business I have to take care of. Basically, I'm very outgoing, I am 19 years old, a sophomore in college, and I am happy with the way I look. The reason I'm stating this is because I want to avoid anyone telling me how there is a "self-esteem" problem with me because I like an older man (he's about twice my age, maybe older...) Honestly though, there isn't a problem!

 

I've met many guys, and am actually currently talking to one, but they are all young and immature, I want somebody different. I'm afraid to talk to about this with my friends because I don't think they will understand why I feel this way.

 

The reality is I don't have a problem talking and hanging out with guys my age, but I just don't know how to approach someone much older than me...

 

Like, hahaha what do I do?? When I see him, I blush and then I ask myself "omg why do I feel this way?" It's pretty crazy! He's a jerk, and he's always picking on me, but ohmygosh, not only is he hilarious, he's gorgeous inside and out! but anyways,... haha, I just would like some tips, haha to get me started.

 

Thanks!!

[Disillusioned]

As long as you don't act ditzy, you shouldn't have a problem... but if you really have your heart set on an older man, you better know what you're getting into.

[ThisCharmingGirl]

Know what I'm getting into as if I'll regret it? Or how do you mean??

[Ella whispers]

I'm in my mid 30's and I have been on and off dating a man in his mid 40's. He is the hesitant one, not me. He worries that when he is in his 60's and I'm in my late 40's that I will leave for a younger man. He worries about what other people will think and I don't.

The caution is that he has more life experience. Being 19, you don't know who you are yet. You figure it out in your 20's and usually by 30 you know who you are, what you want and who you are not.

Older men are for the most part more stable, not looking for the next best thing, and more understanding.

If he's into you then go for it. If you get hurt you will heal and be smarter because of it.

P.S., if he is married RUN.

[boogieboy]

Know what I'm getting into as if I'll regret it? Or how do you mean??

 

He might want to get married and have kids within the next 5 years, that might be where he is in life. Are you in that same place at 19?

[stillafool]

I am 19 years old, a sophomore in college, and I am happy with the way I look.

 

Thanks!!

 

 

Basically this is all you need. Just walk up to the 40 year old man you want and tell them "I am only 19 but I am so attracted to you". That should pretty much do it for you.