ziggue Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 I am getting pretty tired of being single. Most of my friends have boyfriends, some have kids as well and I don't get to go out as much as I would like too because of that. I know there is the internet (which I have of course!) but I am kind of weary about actually meeting the people I chat too that I rarely know. Even if I do chat to them a fair bit on the net. (They seem nice enough). I guess the stories on the news about people/kids getting into trouble because of chatting to people on the net has gotten to me. Are dating websites safe from all that? Any other ideas? You guys can be creative as you like! . Link to post Share on other sites
ukgirl28 Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 I met my bf on the internet, but that was 7 years ago when the internet craze was still starting up! There were hardly any dating websites then either, so I guess i was lucky meeting my man in a chat room! lol I wouldnt say dating websites are 100% safe coz there are a lot of weirdos out there, but they do work, and you do get to meet a lot of people, but be safe and never give out your personal details.. Link to post Share on other sites
tattoomytoe Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 through friends, or maybe at the gym-or other place you frequent- but apparently that just isn't doing it. do something totally opposite of what you are doing now...like if you would never ever ask some chic her sign, do it....thats all i could think of...but do you get what i mean? be outspoken, pass out flowers with your stats on them. Link to post Share on other sites
NEONINK Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 Library Grocery Store Coffee House Bookstore Internet With elections coming up, volunteer for a campaign Work Church School Oh, and get the word out via friends... You are on the market again. Yoohoo... Link to post Share on other sites
silversoulfly Posted January 18, 2004 Share Posted January 18, 2004 I'm having the same problem. I live in a rather small "city" where there aren't a lot of places to hang out and meet people. Also, I'm a 23 yr old recovering addict, and it seems like most people around here that are my age use drugs, at least occasionally. My chances of meeting a woman that I have much of anything in common with are slim at best, so I decided to try the online personals. The great thing about them is that you can learn a little about the people by reading their profiles, and then decide if you might have a chance of "hitting it off". The downside of it is, you never know what you might really be getting yourself into. The picture you see may not be them, the things they say in the profile may all be lies.... There are a lot of psychos out there, so you have to be wary of meeting anyone on the internet. But, to be fair, you could just as easily meet and make a date with a psycho at a bookstore or coffee shop, so you have to be careful whatever you do. I did meet a girl online last summer, and we met at mall (always meet the person in a open, public place). We ended up really hitting it off well, and would probably still be together if she had not had so many issues. She is a wonderful person, but she had her head messed up too badly by guys that came before me (none of which she met online, mind you). In all honesty I sort of feel like a loser looking for a date online, but in my case, it makes sense, and there are a lot of good ones out there that are doing the same thing. So, I say give it a shot, but be careful. Don't ever put yourself in a vulnerable position when meeting someone. Always meet somewhere with a lot of people around, and take separate vehicles if you go anywhere together. It might be a good idea to carry a stun gun as well. LOL Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
nicolas465 Posted January 18, 2004 Share Posted January 18, 2004 ok, ok first i will ad that don't date ppl from the net, i've had two bad experiences... the first time i met a girl we talked on the internet almost everyday, and on the phone but wheni met her in real life... see was kinda odd... she kept insisting to go back to my hotel room and stuff and she wasn't the way she described her self... and she had a kid in her arms.. second time, i didn't even try to find someone, a friend of a friend saw me play a soccer game and got my e-mail thought her friend that knows me.. she was ok to talk to online... but then she started getting very scary, she'd just appear at my front door and demande that i go out with her and stuff like that and i coudnt' say no.. because well... she was a lot bigger than me... NO ONLINE DATING!! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted January 18, 2004 Share Posted January 18, 2004 Plenty of people have met plenty of perfectly acceptable people on the 'net. You just have to remember to either check up on the person however you can or else be sure to not give out any personal information until you've met them and checked them out in person. There is always a chance that a person is not as s/he seemed at a distance but, as silversoulfly mentioned, there's no guarantee a person you meet at a bar or in a bookstore is any more or less normal or wierd. You just need to be cautious at the start. Link to post Share on other sites
dsbs1939 Posted January 19, 2004 Share Posted January 19, 2004 what do you like to do in your spare time--any sports, hobbies, or interests that you would like to pursue further? Sometimes you can get so obsessed about finding someone you can forget that sometimes going out and doing what you enjoy the most can sometimes lead to meeting someone! Enjoy your life and interests! Link to post Share on other sites
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