sherrylg7 Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 [font=arial][/font][color=darkblue][/color] I have been dating a guy for a couple of months and he is 21 years older than I am. I wanted more with this man but he is so set in his ways and does what he wants when he wants. I know that he cares for me but he can not love me completely. He takes caution when it comes to my children..I don't think he can except the package deal. I do love him but he's been gone so much out of our relationship that I turned to my exboyfriend. He is 7 years younger than I am and he is great with my kids. Now I am forced to make a decision between these two men that I truly love. Can you please give me any advice on this situation. Thank You Sherrylg7 Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 Your exboyfriend, whom you truly love and who is great with your kids...sounds like a no-brainer. What's the catch? Is he in the federal pen, or does he already have a wife and children of his own? Re the older fellow...he sounds a drip, frankly. Will only take care of his own needs. You'll never "get more" out of him than you're getting now. How do you make decisions, anyhow? You seem so confused, just like so many other posters. Link to post Share on other sites
jester Posted January 16, 2004 Share Posted January 16, 2004 Now I am forced to make a decision between these two men that I truly love What decision? The old guy rejects your children and the very notion of the family "package." He doesn't want your baggage. Plus, he's 21 years your senior. That's a significant age difference especially given males' shorter life expectancies. I see divorcehood and/or widowhood sooner rather than later. The other man is younger and is great with your kids. You also love him. Go with youth. Reject the selfish old codger. Link to post Share on other sites
locogurl Posted January 17, 2004 Share Posted January 17, 2004 I think you should forget both. If you aren't in love with the younger guy enough to not be tempted by the older guy who sounds like a real loser, then you need to let him go & find someone you'll really want to be with. Link to post Share on other sites
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