The Art of Infidelity...

[Lizzie60]

This post speaks volumes about some women on this forum...

 

most of you don't deserve support or respect if you look at this as a game..the lives you have damaged..it will all come back around.

 

I will pray for all of you:)

 

You don't know me very well.. if you think that I'm damaging lives.. and take this as a game.... If I was.. I wouldn't give a rat's azz if the MM get caught or not...

[lolapalooza]

If his wife never had a clue then he never even skipped a beat at home. Doesn't that kind of show how little you impacted his life? Are you with another mm now?

Oh, I'm pretty sure I had a deep impact on his life, no question.

 

No, he was the first and last MM, thank you very much. It was not a game to me. I did not want him to get caught. We did not set out to hurt anyone, we enjoyed being together.

[Lecturer]

Omg please please examine this. Is this really what you want?? A man who won't hold you at all during sex and just lays back because his WIFE might smell you? A man who cuts you off because you put a mark on him during sex? Southern sunshine you are beautiful. Why do you want to be treated this way? This is not cute or fun. This is totally disrespectful to you and shows he is thinking about his wife and getting caught while with you. The thrill of the illicit. This makes me so sad. Please see it please.

 

LOL.. She was cheating on her husband (or bf) to be with him, so I don't think she cared . Besides, affairs are not about the fairy-tale, hollywood-esk touching moments and loving embraces - its primal need fulfillment.

[SouthernSunshine]

Omg please please examine this. Is this really what you want?? A man who won't hold you at all during sex and just lays back because his WIFE might smell you? A man who cuts you off because you put a mark on him during sex? Southern sunshine you are beautiful. Why do you want to be treated this way? This is not cute or fun. This is totally disrespectful to you and shows he is thinking about his wife and getting caught while with you. The thrill of the illicit. This makes me so sad. Please see it please.

 

Aww.. thanks! I like the way he treated me. If he abused me in a way that I didn't like, I would have stopped seeing him. My H is very good to me, and treats me very sweet. So, it was okay for my lover to treat me dirty sometimes... I liked it. BTW: I haven't been with the guy (previous lover) for 2 years. I stopped cheating on my H.

[lolapalooza]

This post speaks volumes about some women on this forum...

 

most of you don't deserve support or respect if you look at this as a game..the lives you have damaged..it will all come back around.

 

I will pray for all of you:)

I am no longer in an A, but I appreciate your prayers.

[Owl]

You don't know me very well.. if you think that I'm damaging lives.. and take this as a game.... If I was.. I wouldn't give a rat's azz if the MM get caught or not...

 

This begs a question...

 

Would you care if one of your MM got caught? How deeply would you truly be affected if one of them were caught, and his wife went ballistic filing for divorce or any of the other numerous things that BS's tend to do?

 

Not taking a jab at you, Lizzie. Really curious if one of them getting caught would truly be an issue for you, given the emotional distance you maintain.

[Lizzie60]

This begs a question...

 

Would you care if one of your MM got caught? How deeply would you truly be affected if one of them were caught, and his wife went ballistic filing for divorce or any of the other numerous things that BS's tend to do?

 

Not taking a jab at you, Lizzie. Really curious if one of them getting caught would truly be an issue for you, given the emotional distance you maintain.

 

I meant that if I wasn't concerned... we (I) wouldn't take so much precautions... We are being extremely careful... with that said.. if he get caught... it will be HIS problems.. not mine.. of course I will feel sorry for his family.. more for the kids though.. because they had nothing to do with it.,

 

My young MM got caught once (cell phone).. she found my address and everything.. she drove by my place once or twice.. he wasn't careful enough back then.. now he ONLY calls from a public phone.. or if he calls from home.. he calls a friend right after to cover the tracks..

 

He even called me in front of her.. (she was listening on the other line) to say he wouldn't come over anymore (he told her it was for business)... he had called me previously so we could rehearse the call... she was satisfied with that..

[Lizzie60]

I am no longer in an A, but I appreciate your prayers.

 

 

I am still in As... but I'm not religious..

[Owl]

Thanks Lizzie...that did clear it up.

[Wileygirl]

It always strikes me as oddly neurotic for someone to lay blame on the OW than the MM.

[BlueeyedJonesy]

wiley girl did you read the whole post? I find it a little neurotic for someone to post "tips" on cheating and not getting caught and then placing all the blame on others..what did you expect?

[RobM]

Another Rule:

Always make sure to purge all electronic devices of texts, emails, call logs.

 

Such a simple rule, and always seems to get broken.

 

from all the posts I've read here I think it would be even safer to get a prepaid cell and never use your normal cell

[Wileygirl]

And had the article been read properly, it was obviously written by someone who is cheating, not pursuing a married individual.

[Lizzie60]

and probably the best rule of all...

 

if you know you're eventually (soon) going to have an affair... prepare yourself.. in advance..

 

slowly change your habits.. it can't be too obvious... start taking evening courses.. go to the gym... go out with buddies, etc.. get sexy underwear for no reason.. new cologne.. etc.

[donnamaybe]

Oh, great. Now we'll be seeing "premeditated cheating."

[donnamaybe]

I for one am not condoning affairs, but if a person is going to have one, they might as well be prepared so that people don't get hurt. It's kind of like giving your teenaged son a condom even though you don't want him to have sex in the first place.

 

Not saying it's right. These boards are filled with stuff that ain't right.

So here's a rule: don't wanna get caught having an affair?

Don't have one.

 

I see where you're coming from, but no. It's not like that at all.

 

And yes - these boards are filled with stuff that ain't right.

[JustJoe]

I really thought that this thread was a joke, too. All of these "rules", are laughable. It's kind of like a espionage course, isn't it? If people were to put as much thought and preparation into an honest relationship, there probably wouldn't be any adultery, to speak of. Thanks a lot, Liz. This was very entertaining.:D

[Ella whispers]

I found it entertaining. Strangely enough there are several details on that list that he told me. No perfume (in my case lotion) at least not the stuff I usually wear. No biting too hard or scratching.

I think that intuition plays a role in most women's lives. When you know you just know.

I still hurt every so often but it gets easier everyday.

[NoIDidn't]

I thought the list was hilarious.

 

Obviously, the author isn't encouraging the MM to fall in love with the OW or leave their families for an OW. Rule #8 was classic.

 

LOL.

 

Family bonding to cover an affair!

 

[always_searching]

wiley girl did you read the whole post? I find it a little neurotic for someone to post "tips" on cheating and not getting caught and then placing all the blame on others..what did you expect?

 

Just to be clear: I'm not having an affair. I was just posting a tip as that was part of the suggested activity within the thread (besides, let's face it: most OW know to be careful about getting their personal products that may be identifying i.e. perfume/lipstick on the MM clothes).

 

I understand your concerns, but if you didn't want to participate in this thread and it's suggested posts, why would you bother reading/responding?

 

Regardless, I have to agree with Wileygirl that it doesn't make much sense to place all the blame the OW, especially since these tips are all directed toward the MM, not the OW. I'm assuming that you're just upset the majority of posters giving the tips are OW; yet, that need not assume that OW have anything to do with the original 10 tips, or that all the posters giving tips are OW (viz. myself).

 

These are just some common sense suggestions. I don't see there to be good reason to get upset about it, even if you're a wife worried about your husband cheating. Just think: now you are on the inside track--start washing your husband's clothes, for example, and examine them for evidence! Anyone who is worried about her husband cheating, can use this as valuable information as to how he might hide his affair.

 

Even so, I too thought this thread was meant to be humorous...

[Lizzie60]

Yes.. this thread was meant to be humorous.. plus as someone said.. common sense..

 

I thought maybe some people would add some 'rules' that was kind of 'out of the ordinary' or personal to them...

 

Most people already know these common 'rules'.. the only thing is we don't always fall for the person who abides by all those 'rules"... that is the problem sometimes..

 

Have a great weekend everyone!!!

[Mimolicious]

Never say never... I would say that most MMs NEVER EVER get caught...

 

 

Don't mean to exhume this thread but it was linked from a newer one...

 

Really?

Maybe they don't always admit to society that they got caught?

 

If Tiger Woods wife didn't go spazzing out, most likely an "undisclosed" divorce settlement would have taken place with "irreconcilable differences" listed as grounds. A man may have the guns to cheat on his family but may not have the balls to really deal with the humiliation that getting caught may bring.

 

Does anyone really goe into an A thinking that 3 months from now you will be without a career, family, friends, etc? (Politicians are perfect example)

 

 

I meant that if I wasn't concerned... we (I) wouldn't take so much precautions... We are being extremely careful... with that said.. if he get caught... it will be HIS problems.. not mine.. of course I will feel sorry for his family.. more for the kids though.. because they had nothing to do with it.,

 

This is kind of contradicting Lizzie. You are being extremely careful because you are concerned but if he got caught that is HIS problem, not yours?! Ok...

 

You feel sorry for his family, but mostly his kids because they had nothing to do with it, but his W does, right?

 

There is tons of humor here... but like they say, behind each joke there is the absolute truth!

[Lizzie60]

Don't mean to exhume this thread but it was linked from a newer one...

 

Really?

Maybe they don't always admit to society that they got caught?

 

If Tiger Woods wife didn't go spazzing out, most likely an "undisclosed" divorce settlement would have taken place with "irreconcilable differences" listed as grounds. A man may have the guns to cheat on his family but may not have the balls to really deal with the humiliation that getting caught may bring.

 

Does anyone really goe into an A thinking that 3 months from now you will be without a career, family, friends, etc? (Politicians are perfect example)

 

 

 

 

This is kind of contradicting Lizzie. You are being extremely careful because you are concerned but if he got caught that is HIS problem, not yours?! Ok...

 

You feel sorry for his family, but mostly his kids because they had nothing to do with it, but his W does, right?

 

There is tons of humor here... but like they say, behind each joke there is the absolute truth!

 

Huh? can you name one politician that lost his career because of his affair... most of the politicians' wives stand by their man.. therefore these guys don't lose their career... their friends... or even their wife..

[herenow]

and probably the best rule of all...

 

if you know you're eventually (soon) going to have an affair... prepare yourself.. in advance..

 

slowly change your habits.. it can't be too obvious... start taking evening courses.. go to the gym... go out with buddies, etc.. get sexy underwear for no reason.. new cologne.. etc.

 

First, it's these humorous threads that almost make working on a Friday night tolerable. Only 1 hour and 15 minutes until this project sets sail.

 

But I have to say that having an affair sounds like a lot or work. It makes marriage sound easy. As far as gym, sexy underwear, cologne, etc., aren't those everyday life habits for many of us anyway?

[lilagirl]

But I have to say that having an affair sounds like a lot or work. It makes marriage sound easy. As far as gym, sexy underwear, cologne, etc., aren't those everyday life habits for many of us anyway?

 

An A is a ton of work. Always covering tracks, dying to see someone but can`t... Most recent fun one... BS threw out A-word... and PI in the same sentence... now I have to look for PIs everywhere I go, my MM is paranoid.