grounded Posted January 19, 2004 Share Posted January 19, 2004 Wow, she is definitely spineless. At least my ex gave me the pink slip over the phone out of the blue after 6 years. First love. totally shattered me at 32 y.o. I found it easier to move own by trying to not get mad at her for doing it that way. The more angry I got the more hard it was to get over. I am not there yet after one year. Whether it is healthy or not I am not sure, but I just accepted the fact that I was a hundred times the person she is, and tried to rationalize why it was good for her to do it the way she did it. I really had to use my imagination to think of reasons why it was good for it to happen that way, but it was either that or have a heart attack. I also tried to heal all past wounds that made me mad before and contributed to this anger. Sorry, guy. If time really does heal all wounds, try not to burn bridges even though she is trying, perhaps unintentionally. Link to post Share on other sites
Prettyangel Posted January 19, 2004 Share Posted January 19, 2004 I think this should have been done in person and it was cowerdly of her to have told you thisin an email. This is in your hands now and how you handle it will make the outcome of this. Not knowing all the details of your relationship I can't say to much more. You say you had a great relationship.........you say that! does she think so? than why does she need space? I can only speak for me, however, as a woman if I am in a loving and great relationship I would not need space. Now if I was torn between a new love and the one I have been with and need to make a choice.......I need space. Take care of you and let go for now. Link to post Share on other sites
gld84 Posted January 20, 2004 Share Posted January 20, 2004 I can only say that when it happened to me, I didn't feel like a person and I wasn't given the opportunity to understand why this was happening. There is breaking up and being allowed to understanding why which is really what you need for closure and there is breaking up and being told to go away. Email is telling you to go away, or at least that is what it feels like, even if that is not what they meant. Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted January 20, 2004 Share Posted January 20, 2004 I feel bad for you, but you deserve a reason WHY she ended it.. People don't end a relationship that is going good & strong. So you aren't telling us the whole story. As for my breakup w/ my ex-fiancee of 5 yrs. Email is bad, but mine was worse. We were in bed together, woke up in the morning. WHILE still in bed w/ each other she tells me she's leaving me and that she has feelings for someone else.. That someone else was my now ex-best friend of 15 years who I grew up with. Those two were talking, flirting, etc for the last 3-4 months of our relationship. Talk about someone who was freakin' out.. I was pissed! Link to post Share on other sites
Coffee13 Posted April 9, 2004 Share Posted April 9, 2004 Curious: Have you gotten back together? Link to post Share on other sites
pnut88 Posted April 10, 2004 Share Posted April 10, 2004 Nope! I didn't get back with her. I told her that I never needed to see her again. Currently, I'm involved with one of my friends from my college days. Its kind of wierd, because we were friends for almost six years now (we graduated two years ago) and she just called out of the blue and told me how she really felt about me. Things are going GREAT for me right now. Thanks for everyone's advice. And to anyone facing a situation like mine, no matter how much begging they do, don't take them back. Things will all fall in place in due time! Link to post Share on other sites
Coffee13 Posted April 10, 2004 Share Posted April 10, 2004 Wow. That's wonderful! Me? Still single, but you give me hope:) Take care. Link to post Share on other sites
pnut88 Posted April 11, 2004 Share Posted April 11, 2004 Originally posted by Coffee13 Wow. That's wonderful! Me? Still single, but you give me hope:) Take care. Trust me, it comes when you LEAST expect it. I used to think the same way. Your time will come. Just be yourself and it will all fall in place. Link to post Share on other sites
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