sadgurl77 Posted January 17, 2004 Share Posted January 17, 2004 Lately I have been feeling very down in the dumps, to the point where I don't get too mcuh enjoyment out of life anymore, and don't really look forward to much anymore. I've struggled with issues in the past, and have had bouts of depression in the past, but overcame a great deal in my life and know that I should not be feeling as depressed as I have been lately (for example, abusive ex's, neglectful parents, insecurity issues, etc.). I'm married and have no complaints with my husband (He's a very loving husband), I am healthy and sorta cute, try to keep a spiritual life (go to church every week, read the Bible), I am gainfully employed in a decent profession (although I am looking to get a new position within the place I work), no financial problems, and I am going back to graduate school. People look at me, and on the outside it seems as though I have it all together. But inside, I feel my life is worthless, and that I am bound to fail someday. It seems like nothing makes me happy anymore, and to just get my mind off things I'll sleep my days away when I am not working. Some days I am feeling pretty good, others I just feel like crying. Maybe I am going through some kind of "1/4 life crisis" type thing, and sometimes I wonder if I should seek some kind of help about the way I feel presently. I've done the couseling before, and all I did was talk about my problems, and nothing seems to be ever really solved. Maybe life is just meant to be depressing...just look at all that is bad in the world today, what is there really to be happy about. Does anyone else ever feel this way? Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 17, 2004 Share Posted January 17, 2004 Have you tried talking to your doctor? You might be clinically depressed, and medication will help you feel better. Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted January 17, 2004 Share Posted January 17, 2004 i can very much relate to what you said - life looking good to onlookers, but feeling worthless on the inside. perhaps some more counselling would help you. i think overall, life IS pretty sad, unless you fill it with joy. so take up hobbies, make friends, enjoy your husband (bake him a pie instead of sleeping all day ). that's my 2c, -yes Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted January 17, 2004 Share Posted January 17, 2004 know that I should not be feeling as depressed as I have been lately Depression doesn't need a 'cause'. Your body chemicals could have gotten out of whack for any number of reasons. Sometimes, it isn't until after we've gotten out of the difficult situations that our bodies then suffer the effects. Plus, you're female - another whole set of reasons your internal systems can get out of kilter. Talk to your therapist or physician about this. You definitely sound depressed. Link to post Share on other sites
Vanetia Posted January 17, 2004 Share Posted January 17, 2004 I used to be depressed ALL the time in high school and earlier because my mother got very abusive with me after my parents divorced. I got a really poor self-image and so on. After I met my husband I thought all that was over. But I still get depressed every now and then. Especially when we fight. But sometimes for no reason at all. I don't think depression is something you can escape from very easily. Your best bet is to see a phsychiatrist or counselor about it and see what you can do. Link to post Share on other sites
silversoulfly Posted January 17, 2004 Share Posted January 17, 2004 No one should have to live with depression. It sounds like you might have a chemical imbalance and should see a doctor about it. As far as counseling goes... well, it didn't do me any good, but medication did save my life (literally). I'm not telling you that you shouldn't see a therapist- it's up to you to decide if you need that, and many people do- but you should definitely see someone about getting on antidepressants. It could make all the difference in the world. Link to post Share on other sites
longlegzs80 Posted January 19, 2004 Share Posted January 19, 2004 Depression is a horrible thing. And I experience it everyday of my life, and I sleep my life away and have no joy. The only thing that is different about you and I is that I am not married. But other then that, you have to make life worth living and find something that you could be interested in. Yesturday I signed up for an art session that will be at the end of March for a topic related to my art field. So, the only advice that I can give you is figure out things that you enjoy and just take little baby steps in doing them. You will then find things you enjoy and life will become worth living. Now, if this is something that has been several weeks or several months, then I suggest that you should see a doctor. Hey, that is something I need to do myself. Just hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted January 19, 2004 Share Posted January 19, 2004 It may also be a sign that you have a female organ dysfuntion or problem. Wacky harmones can really play with your emotions. Seeing a doctor for a check up is always a good idea if there is a sudden mood change. Keep us posted as to what you decide to do or find out. Good Luck!!! Arabess Link to post Share on other sites
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