SteveMc Posted April 10, 2010 Share Posted April 10, 2010 Hey everyone, Just read my threads started if you would like to know more about my situation. Long story short we broke up in December, I begged until first week in February..... Said screw it and went NC since then (2 months). Yesterday, I get a text "Hey Steve....hope all is well." Just curious, from all of your experiences, what is the MOST LIKELY reason she did this and what does it mean? Like I said, I know it could mean a variety of different things, but I am more interested in what the most common reason is based upon your experiences. Oh BTW, the last time we met she told me she "saw no reason for us ever to speak to each other again" which is pretty funny considering she just texted me...All insight is appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
Sevenscars Posted April 10, 2010 Share Posted April 10, 2010 No contact always does this. Finally, when you're finished having them in your life, they feel the need to butt back in. After all, you had broken up... and she still had you on a leash, begging. This fed her ego. Once you disappeared, she most likely started wondering where you'd gone and what you are up to, and if you'd found someone else besides her. Jealousy is a strong emotion, after all -- dumper or not. She probably wants justification, to know you're all right so she doesn't have to feel so guilty about dumping you. Or she could be checking up on you to make sure you're still pining after her. After all, having someone want you is an empowering feeling, especially when you don't want them back. It all comes down to EGO! All of my ex's have done this. Once I disappeared, every single one came back to see where I had gone. With most of them, I've maintained very low contact and even told them I don't want to speak with them anymore, or denied meet-ups. With one ex, I remained NC from the exact day I decided to start it. She had cheated on me multiple times, so I felt as though she didn't deserve to talk to me. She kept trying to contact me for MONTHS, until she finally got the hint (and she hasn't tried to talk to me since last year). It doesn't mean anything that she tried to contact you. It doesn't mean that she still wants you, or even thinks about you -- besides the reasons stated above. Ignore her, and continue NC. If you break it, you will reverse your healing process and wish you had never talked to her again. If you don't believe me, read the hundreds of posts on here that say the same thing. If you don't believe them, then go ahead and talk to her and we'll see you back here in a few weeks, tortured and hurt. Just let it go, she's digging for anything that will please her. Stay strong and remain quiet, you'll find a better person out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SteveMc Posted April 10, 2010 Author Share Posted April 10, 2010 thank you sevenscars for your insight. I haven't responded yet, and really don't intend on it. Link to post Share on other sites
sugarmomma Posted April 10, 2010 Share Posted April 10, 2010 She's fishing. Don't bite the bait. Link to post Share on other sites
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