An Update

[TarnishedInequity]

So... I posted a few weeks ago about being caught up in a situation with a guy who had a girlfriend and I thought I would give an update.

 

Here's a quick bullet point play-by-play:

 

• We established limited contact, no sex after no contact failed.
  
• He respected my boundaries 100% - made no attempt at any sort of sexual relations.
  
• I got checked out for all STDs, all came back negative, so I am clean!
  
• I opened up to him about my miscarriages (I had two with him - I have an IUD in place!) and also opened up to him about being checked out; he was upset, but understood.
  
• Shortly after establishing just friends and sorting through my mixed emotions, my roommate introduced me to a wonderful new SINGLE guy who I recently started dating.
  

 

I want to thank those who commented on my thread and everyone else's stories... they helped me realize how toxic he was to my well-being.

 

The guy and myself are still strictly just friends, I've incorporated supervised hang-outs (meaning if we hang out, we're with a large group of people and/or never alone) because the sexual attraction between us is strong and I do not want to fall back into old habits - though there is no more emotional attachment outside of friendship. We will be having our first "alone" time hang out next Saturday after not being alone since the last time we had sex close to a month ago.

 

Either way, I am moving forward with my life and I am grateful myself and the taken guy were able to maintain our friendship. It's been a wild couple of weeks and I am glad my life is settling back down with someone who is SINGLE and has expressed sincere emotions to me!