bluz73 Posted April 11, 2010 Share Posted April 11, 2010 My ex lives 1 mile away from me and its just been seriously bothering more and more each day and its been 6 months since the breakup. I hate the fact she his 18 year old teeny bopper lives with him and they are all happy there enjoying there life and I am basically forced in a shell in my house not wanting to even go out to the local grocery store in fear of seeing them. So I go 10 miles away to shop or enjoy life cause I cant deal with this. This whole town is a memory and I hate her I hate him for hurting me and making me feel like crap. I was on a high last week now this whole week I feel this gut feeling that something grand for them is happening and its making me feel so low I just want to stay in bed again and I havent been eating again. Is this how heartache goes ups and downs. Hating the ex and his new lover? I am tired of feeling like this! How do u all cope with your ex living by you? And hearing news about them? Link to post Share on other sites
pgummins Posted April 11, 2010 Share Posted April 11, 2010 I hear you I suggest a holiday but see what others have to say. Link to post Share on other sites
Engadget Posted April 11, 2010 Share Posted April 11, 2010 Yeah and it sucks. I told her once I move that's the official end. It's hard to just stop talking now when we're so close. Link to post Share on other sites
Odyssey Posted April 11, 2010 Share Posted April 11, 2010 (edited) It sucks! I live in a small town so there's no avoiding it. The very thought of bumping into the ex in town doesn't bear thinking about in those early months. Eventually you'll have to force yourself to go out sometimes, you can't let your ex have a hold / claim on those places that you're avoiding like the plague! Could be worst.... you could be working with your ex. Imagine face to face every damn day?!? Edited April 11, 2010 by Odyssey Link to post Share on other sites
jude007 Posted April 11, 2010 Share Posted April 11, 2010 Its about as bad as it gets, I was with mine for 7 years albeit on and off - however my friends became her friends, her friends are all dating my mates... 3 of my best mates are engaged to her friends..... You just have to rise above any awkwardness - and get on with things.... what will be will be as they say.... I tried like hell to get back with her saw a councillor, as I wasnt good at opening up - i stupidly told her - she then told her friends, nice huh!.... Time can heal, but just concerntrate on yourself, get to the gym, learn to love yourself again - and get out there and show her what she is missing, if she comes back then she loves you, if she doesnt she never really did. Chin up mate! Link to post Share on other sites
machimoo Posted April 12, 2010 Share Posted April 12, 2010 I live in a small town AND work in the same small company as my ex....it can be hell! Everyone knows everyone else's business here and can make things so difficult, and yet I love my job and have worked hard to get where I am. I have to say that I'm currently reconsidering whether this town, let alone job, is the healthiest place for me....so I'm going away on a 2 month holiday and see how things go when I get back. For the time being, hang in there. Be aware that although you are doing things the hard way round, you are becoming so much stronger because of it! It is definitely good to get out of the area on weekends and meet up with friends. I sympathise with you though, I'm dreading the day I bump into my ex with a girl! Link to post Share on other sites
pgummins Posted April 12, 2010 Share Posted April 12, 2010 I live in a small town AND work in the same small company as my ex....it can be hell! Everyone knows everyone else's business here and can make things so difficult, and yet I love my job and have worked hard to get where I am. I have to say that I'm currently reconsidering whether this town, let alone job, is the healthiest place for me....so I'm going away on a 2 month holiday and see how things go when I get back. For the time being, hang in there. Be aware that although you are doing things the hard way round, you are becoming so much stronger because of it! It is definitely good to get out of the area on weekends and meet up with friends. I sympathise with you though, I'm dreading the day I bump into my ex with a girl! I'm trying something similar, best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Nikki Sahagin Posted April 12, 2010 Share Posted April 12, 2010 My ex lives about a 15 minute walk away so I 'live in fear' of bumping into him. We have seen each other a few times since the break-up but I still hate the thought of seeing him, as much as I sometimes want to see him. We live so close its inevitable we will see each other but we haven't yet - only at parties. He is more of a clubber than me anyway. He is going away over summer so at least I wont have to see him then. Link to post Share on other sites
br0ken_w0lf Posted April 12, 2010 Share Posted April 12, 2010 I live in a big enough city that I have yet to bump into my ex-wife (who left me for someone else). But, 2 1/2 years after she left, I still find it hard to be in "that" part of the city where I know she lives. It's hard staying in the same city; memories are everywhere and they just don't go away. Personally, I'm planning on moving in the next couple of years; I think it's the only shot I have at making a new start. Hang in there, wish I had better advice... Link to post Share on other sites
lisal0u Posted April 12, 2010 Share Posted April 12, 2010 Hi, I was with my ex 14 years and we live in a small town, all our friends are the same! Its really hard! We have a house together which is making it even more difficult! It would be much easier if I moved but I dont see why I should give up my life and friends. He wants to be friends but I dont know if thats possible after 14 years and I hurt so much?! I hope its possible otherwise its going to be awkward for a long time! Ugh! Link to post Share on other sites
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