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Its been 6 months and I havent went on a date and I cant find the confidence yet. So say if I meet someone and like the person have some fun, we have sex eventually multiple times, continue dating etc...Will my ex disappear and I will get over him just like that? I have had a highschool heartbreak dont remember too much but this is truly my 2nd heartbreak in my life and I just want to get over him...Will this work?

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To put it bluntly, no it won't help. Some people use sex in order to bury feelings about past relationships and they continue to do so until it develops into full blown psychological disorder. Having that said, once you've solidified your feeling about an ex and are right track on healing, sex can be a great release and can quicken the healing process. Just be wary, because often times sexual partners can bring more drama/hurt in your life than you need if you're still in recovery from a past relationship.

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By the time you've started seeing someone else, and up until the time you have sex with that new person (considering it isn't a one night stand), all that time spent with someone new should help your recovery process. It isn't sex that will help you get over your ex, in fact, if you still have feelings for your ex, sex with someone new will probably just hurt. That shouldn't be your goal, or the end-all to your past relationship. It will help you get over your ex when you feel you've lost that old connection and made one with someone new.

 

Don't think about sex just yet, especially not when trying to heal, concentrate on moving on first, and then sex can come later. If you do that, you'll find that by the time you're ready to have sex with someone new, your old relationship won't matter anymore.

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Yeah it's great to be appreciated and have the attention etc...but it's all just a distraction. On the outside it looks like you've healed and moved on quickly (as i'd mentioned in my previous post to you)...inside you'll still end up thinking about your ex! ...why do you think i've put a hold on dating.

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alphamale

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...Will my ex disappear and I will get over him just like that?

pretty much yes

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pretty much yes

 

You are so funny!!!!!!!:laugh::laugh::laugh: That cracked me up! :lmao::lmao:

 

No it does not help but getting confidence and getting out there will help you bundles!

 

Just keep thinking of all the negatives about him, every little bad thing and how he has hurt you and you will get over him

 

One day you wont feel like this .... I promise!;)

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CLC2008

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Oh boy. There's not a soul on this planet who doesn't have "intimacy issues", how deep rooted they are is an entirely different story.

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*shrugs*

 

Not everyone uses sex to replace intimacy. But yes, it would be by degrees.

 

You are correct, they don't.

 

Some people just becoming overly controlling...

 

*shrugs*

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That's because more boys tie sexual conquests into their self-esteem. As well, boys internalize getting dumped as a major self-esteem hit.

 

People do all kinds of shyte to externally validate their self-worth.

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You are correct, they don't.

 

Some people just becoming overly controlling...

 

*shrugs*

Yes, don't they...

*laughs*

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bluz73

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I think it could make you miss them more.

 

So basically, when HE was on the fence between me and her and took months 2 deide and then chose the teenager, He now is with her for 6 months...And if this is all true dating someone else and screwing them daily doesnt get you over them its just a bandaid.

You all are saying "he also" my ex isnt over me He is using her to move on from me(quoting him"im using her tog et over you" "i will always compare other girls to you")??????????

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I slept with someone after my break up, drink fuelled - it made me feel 100 times worse the next day, and wouldnt recommend it. give yourself time.....

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You all are saying "he also" my ex isnt over me He is using her to move on from me(quoting him"im using her tog et over you" "i will always compare other girls to you")??????????
He might be, he might not be. It depends on what stage he was in, when the two of you broke up.

 

My advice was tailored to someone like you, who isn't over their ex.

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He might be, he might not be. It depends on what stage he was in, when the two of you broke up.

 

My advice was tailored to someone like you, who isn't over their ex.

 

I am not sure what stage he was on when we broke up, I wish I knew somehow.

All I know he was really confused. He said he loved me wanted to spend his life with me, but I hadnt moved back to his state just yet and he thought I never would and was tired of waiting when he met her 1 month prior and basically he was intimate with her and felt guilty.

By the time I got here she had her claws sunk in him wanting a baby with him and to live with him (yeah after a month shes a stupid 18 yr old)

He dumped her to get with me and 2 days later changed his mind.

I was so devastated and confused and I am still hurt. We put alot of time and effort in our relationship.

He did tell me that "he was sorry he couldnt wait anymore and everything was his fault" He never said he didnt love me anymore he just said He was bitter and angry It took me so long to come back he just had to move on and that I hurt him also.

I'd like to think Im in his heart, but since I havent heard from him and he is tangled up with her and her drama..I doubt it :(

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after you've broken up with someone its quite liberating to go out and have sexual relations with other unsuspecting victims. that usually the main reason i break up with the girls in the first place...

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I'd like to think Im in his heart, but since I havent heard from him and he is tangled up with her and her drama..I doubt it :(
I know it's really hard, and sometimes curiosity can get the better of us... i know it sounds harsh but you do have to think that it is totally and absolutely over! Kill the hope. If he comes back great, if not you're getting on with your life. Things will get better i promise. :) You just have to be a little patient Bluz.
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Its been 6 months and I havent went on a date and I cant find the confidence yet. So say if I meet someone and like the person have some fun, we have sex eventually multiple times, continue dating etc...Will my ex disappear and I will get over him just like that? I have had a highschool heartbreak dont remember too much but this is truly my 2nd heartbreak in my life and I just want to get over him...Will this work?

 

Mind blowing sex will definitely take your mind off your ex but in my experience the only thing that really works is unfortunately, time.

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