My LDR Story..whats yours?

[Deeblondie82]

Hey! (cant sleep, I'm such a night owl:laugh:)

 

I was wanting to know whats everyone's story on their LDR! And maybe get some advice in return.

 

Okay here it is..... My guy I've known for 8 years and we have never met yet!!!! When I was 19 I wrote a letter (pen pal) to him since he's in the Navy and was stationed in Japan. He was always hitting on me and I just wasnt interested, saw him as a friend. We talked alot and thru the years we have talked off and on. More off but still catching up on life and whatnot. And of course he still was giving me those cheezy pick up lines and still just saw him as a friend.

 

Well this year (in Jan) he broke up with his gf and talked to me bout it. He started to tell me that for 8 years he has a crush on me and figured I'd never give him the time of day! That he cant believe that we known eachother that long and maybe "the one" was there all along... Well We talked alot everday, text, Facebooked and he kept spitting his game to me.. (he's a goofy, dork kinda guy) I never thought he was my type.. but I was wrong he grew on me! He wasnt my type normally but I saw past that to who he is. Sweet, loving, cooky-oddball!

 

I Plan to see him my birthday weekend on the days he dont work May 7th weekend... and I am soo nervous, excited and little scared because i use to be when I met someone in person things changed cuz on phone its diffrent and it just was weird. Anyways... If all goes well and I get to see him again this summer(he wants to take me to comicon) Then I am thinking about moving to him!

 

I need a fresh start. He wants the same things I want in the future (marriage, kids) and I am truly in love with this man! I can see forever with him! I know we arnt a couple just yet.(waiting for the meeting or maybe sooner then that who knows lol) But I havent been in REAL TRU LOVE in 10 years!!!!! Any advice is appreciated thank you!

[aerogurl87]

You're going to comicon! Grr, I'm slightly jealous, lol (I'm sort of a comic book nerd now thanks to my ex boyfriend, haha). But that's sweet.

 

My guy and I met online on a social networking site (and nope not facebook or myspace). Well it was a social network site/dating site. Anyway, I had just broken up with my ex about a month prior to receiving an email from him on the site. His picture wasn't the greatest, and at the time I was just looking for a friend, but what he wrote me caught my attention. So I wrote him back. We ended up emailing each other 5 times on there, then things went to msn messenger. We talked on there for about 5 days, until he asked for my number to text me. So we texted each other all day that weekend, and then I decided I wanted to actually talk to him. The only problem was, he lived in Canada and I lived in the USA so I couldn't just up and call him on my cell without incurring a huge cellphone bill. And that's where skype came in.

 

So I skyped him and we ended up talking for about 3 hours straight about random stuff. He told me about his life, I told him about mine and we got along great. So about one month in to our relationship he asked me to come visit him because as he put it "he thought I was someone special and wanted to meet me". So now I'll be going to see him for the first time next month for two weeks. I'm so excited because everyday with him he never ceases to amaze me and things keep getting better and better between us.

[Deeblondie82]

Thats great! Yea I am still getting use to the whole LDR thing and so is he... its taken a toll on us both and I am hoping he is willing to be patient and I am trying soo very hard! I get a little "needy" well I did get little to much a few days ago but I believe keeping things open bout communication is key. And I am honest and I know I am "needy" I have been since I was younger, I am learning to overcome that with him cuz I love him so much! And yes I might go to comicon if everything works out (travel wise) I am not a comic nerd but Im thinkin he is going to corrup me into the whole thing lol

 

But good luck with everything and let us know how it all went!

[kbh]

What a cool thread!

 

I met my guy when I was traveling last summer throughout Europe (he's from Portugal, I'm from CA) . I was couchsurfing to save money and me and my travel buddy were set to stay at his house. I thought he was really cute from his pictures and told my travel buddy this. So when we did meet, my TB made it really awkward for us saying things like we were going to end up making out etc...

But it was actually exactly what we needed. He's super shy and so am I... but we did end up together and I think it has a lot to do with her.

So anyways, we ended up staying with them longer than expected and I couldn't stand being away from him, so even though I was supposed to travel all of Europe I kept going back and stayed for a month!

We didn't think we'd be able to see each other for a whole year, but it ended up that we've seen each other a lot. Met in London once, went there and then he came here.

When he left here he broke it off with me because the distance was too hard, but in the past few weeks we realized that we were both much happier together and he has asked me to come out for a month in the summer again

 

Good luck with yours!!

[Citizen Erased]

Cute thread, we all love to gush about our other halves.

 

I met mine on LS. I always thought he was cute and we've always gotten along well but we were both with people and never occured to me what would happen. So October last year we started talking more and more off LS and it went from there. We arranged to meet in March for 3 weeks, I flew there (I live in Sydney, he's in the US) and things went perfectly. Whatever it is between us is very natural, like it was always going to happen. Especially in person. We became "official" while I was there, we've been making people on here sick for months and he has become one of my best friends...happens with the amount of time we spend talking I guess. I know a lot of people say "oh we have so much in common" but we've even got it down to similar childhoods, when we were getting to know each other more in the months before I went there we had so many "Me too!" moments.

 

I miss him like crazy but I'm seeing him again in July, which can't come fast enough.

[terra]

awe, that's so sweet..I've been kind of wondering what the story behind you two was. Thanks for clearing it up!

Cute thread, we all love to gush about our other halves.

 

I met mine on LS. I always thought he was cute and we've always gotten along well but we were both with people and never occured to me what would happen. So October last year we started talking more and more off LS and it went from there. We arranged to meet in March for 3 weeks, I flew there (I live in Sydney, he's in the US) and things went perfectly. Whatever it is between us is very natural, like it was always going to happen. Especially in person. We became "official" while I was there, we've been making people on here sick for months and he has become one of my best friends...happens with the amount of time we spend talking I guess. I know a lot of people say "oh we have so much in common" but we've even got it down to similar childhoods, when we were getting to know each other more in the months before I went there we had so many "Me too!" moments.

 

I miss him like crazy but I'm seeing him again in July, which can't come fast enough.

[aerogurl87]

Lol, LisaLee I read that link and that's pretty funny. I love this thread too, hearing how everyone met their SO is nice.

[Deeblondie82]

Yea I figured That Its a good way for people on here to get to know eachother and their mate. And maybe even give some advice in the process Im glad you like!!!

[Deeblondie82]

What a cool thread!

 

I met my guy when I was traveling last summer throughout Europe (he's from Portugal, I'm from CA) . I was couchsurfing to save money and me and my travel buddy were set to stay at his house. I thought he was really cute from his pictures and told my travel buddy this. So when we did meet, my TB made it really awkward for us saying things like we were going to end up making out etc...

But it was actually exactly what we needed. He's super shy and so am I... but we did end up together and I think it has a lot to do with her.

So anyways, we ended up staying with them longer than expected and I couldn't stand being away from him, so even though I was supposed to travel all of Europe I kept going back and stayed for a month!

We didn't think we'd be able to see each other for a whole year, but it ended up that we've seen each other a lot. Met in London once, went there and then he came here.

When he left here he broke it off with me because the distance was too hard, but in the past few weeks we realized that we were both much happier together and he has asked me to come out for a month in the summer again

 

Good luck with yours!!

 

Same to you!!! It sounds like and up and down battle but sounds like its up again!

[Deeblondie82]

Cute thread, we all love to gush about our other halves.

 

I met mine on LS. I always thought he was cute and we've always gotten along well but we were both with people and never occured to me what would happen. So October last year we started talking more and more off LS and it went from there. We arranged to meet in March for 3 weeks, I flew there (I live in Sydney, he's in the US) and things went perfectly. Whatever it is between us is very natural, like it was always going to happen. Especially in person. We became "official" while I was there, we've been making people on here sick for months and he has become one of my best friends...happens with the amount of time we spend talking I guess. I know a lot of people say "oh we have so much in common" but we've even got it down to similar childhoods, when we were getting to know each other more in the months before I went there we had so many "Me too!" moments.

 

I miss him like crazy but I'm seeing him again in July, which can't come fast enough.

Thats a beautiful story!

[Deeblondie82]

We met through manga and online friends. I am an avid comic book reader of all sorts, be it webcomic, real comic, graphic novel, whatever. I was frequenting a manga forum (Japanese comics for those who don't know) and became online friends with two posters who were friends in real life. In fact I remember sending a PM to one saying I would be visiting a school in his state and he said: "Drake goes there. You can go meet him!" and I was like "Why would I want to visit that guy? I don't even know him."

 

Later during a MSN conversation with the other friend he brought Drake into our chat session the summer of 2008. Drake said all of three words, and logged out without a goodbye. I told my friend he seemed like a jerk to me!

 

In March of 2009 the same friend brought Drake back into our MSN conversation. This time he was much more talkative, and I ended up adding him as a contact on my MSN. The next day I messaged him out of boredom, we ended up webcamming on skype that same night, and have talked almost every single day since. I believe there was two weeks where I had a lot of craziness going on in my real life that we did not talk. But since then we have been in communication on a daily basis in some way or another.

 

We started out as very close friends. He told me later that I became his best friend within a couple of months. We met for the first time in May, still just friends. I went back and visited again in August. It started off just as friends, but by the end of the trip we were both pining for each other, though we said nothing.

However, by the end of August we were a couple. I also found out he had liked me for quite a while but did not say anything. This pretty much sums up why he kept quiet: http://xkcd.com/642/

 

We see each other every 2 months. We are planning on moving in together sometime next year, though we have not narrowed down whether it will be in the beginning or middle of the year.

 

I like this thread. I like reading other stories and telling my own.

 

 

Sweet! I am going to try to make it to Comicon in the summer so I am being pulled into it all but Im thinking I will like it!

[bandits]

Cool thread.

 

Mine is so complicated...

 

We met 11 years ago when I was on vacation...our families know each other so we hung out with them. He's older than me, I was jailbait age then, and it was totally platonic. We had a lot in common, had fun together, and I never would've thought of him as anything more than a friend. We went back the next year & I saw him & hung out with him again. (We live on opposite sides of the country.) Again, totally just friends. Maybe a month after that, I got the internet (yeah that's how long ago this was ) and we stayed in touch & talked all the time. Still, just friends, it never crossed my mind as anything else. We talked on & off for years, losing touch now & then but always finding our way back. Then when I was 20, we started talking again after losing touch for a long time & things were different...I had feelings for him & vice versa. Really fell for each other. We were officially a couple, and we wanted to see each other again, but none of our plans to meet up were ever solid enough & it never happened. I broke it off because he was just too far away & the long distance thing wasn't working. We wanted to stay friends. We still talked for a bit, then lost touch for a long time again...a whole year I think...then we started talking again a couple years ago & we've kept in touch & gotten really close. I've only thought of him as a friend though because of the distance thing, though I know he's been in love with me. He's one of my best friends. I've dated other guys. Then a little over a month ago, I asked him to come see me, and he was really glad & jumped on the chance.

 

Now everything's changed again. I feel sooo strongly for him now. My whole 'let's just be friends' idea is out the window with him coming here, now that I know we can actually for once be more than that. I'll see him next week!! and he's all I've thought about for the last month. I told him that if we're going to be together, I want to live in the same state...so I'm hoping & planning that if all goes well with this, we'll move closer together.

 

Deeblondie, good luck to you. Your story sounds familiar...mine is also very into comicon & such, but I'm not either. I might get pulled into it too.

[Deeblondie82]

Wow! Mine does sound alot like yours! I never really was into him like that and this year is when it got more. Even tho its only been 2 and a half months that we started getting serious. Good luck with your guy.. I love ur story

[bandits]

Thanks!

[Romance]

2 Years ago this may, we began talking on a forum just as really good friends! we just agreed on opinions and stuff, no big deal. i even gave him advice on how to hook up with some girl hahaa. But eventually, after talking online daily he confessed he really liked me, i was SOOOO resistant to do it. i thought meeting someone online was sad and pathetic. but deep down i realized i really liked him too. so in september of 08 we began 'dating' then we met in Feb of 09 and have seen each other a lot ever since. I really really wish i wasnt so young (19) because i'd love for him to ask me to move in and go to college over there. i'd do it in a heartbeat, even my mom wishes it could happen for me. hes such a great guy and my relationship is the ONLY part of my life that makes me sad (when we're apart, i love every min we can talk and see each other)

[JellyPhish]

Well, I've been with my SO for almost 3 years now . We met on Runescape (makes us laugh to this day). His story is that he had planned on messing with me but I was "too cute". Our talking moved to msn and we were talking on a regular basis. Things happened and we didn't talk for 7-8 months. I ended up finding him again and we started talking again on msn and the phone, constantly. June 21st, 2007 we became official and have seen each other about 7 times now, each visit lasting about 2 weeks. I'm in Illinois and he's in Virginia. I'll be going to college in VA this fall and our relationship is stronger than ever .

[annie2710]

im so inspired reading ldr story where of course i can relate so much i also wanna share mine and so if you have time to check my blog site pls do.. thank you so much and good luck to everyone

 

http://wwwipinay.blogspot.com/

[Passionate1]

We met in college 20 years ago and when he broke up with me I guess I never truly got over him. I have always known that if he ever came back into my life that I would gladly go with him. I joined Facebook over a year ago to keep tabs on my teenage son. Once he showed me the ropes, I started looking for old college and high school friends. I never found him, but I did find his best friend and we became FB friends. Of course, he saw right through me once I asked about my old flame, and he quickly told me he was married with 4 kids. I thought...OH Well...it was worth a try.

 

Eventually, my old boyfriend did join FB so I took the plunge and "friended" him. He wasn't married (and actually wasn't when our mutual friend told me he was) and neither was I. We started catching up through email, chat, and phone. We finally decided to meet face-to-face last weekend and it was if nothing had ever changed.

 

For us, the distance works well because we smothered each other too much when we were in college.

[Itsnotme]

Wow Passionate1 I cannot beleive how similar our stories are. I posted mine yesterday. You can read it here.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t229115/

[NickiDee377]

My story is nothing like the others... My boyfriend and I met in highschool and I had the biggest crush on him but he didn't feel the same way. About a year later he finally came around and we started dating! We stayed together all through highschool and that's when the LDR started. He went away for school 6 hours away and I stayed behind. After 4 years of only getting to see each other every so often there's finally an end in sight! At the end of the month he will be finished school and moving back home for good! I'm so thankful for how much we both grew throughout our LDR and can't wait for him to be back.

 

♥

[Deeblondie82]

Everyones LDR storys are awesome!!! I love reading others relationship history

[Treble Clef]

Wow I can't imagine building a relationship like that! And for 8 years too? Your story is really inspiring:love:

[Deeblondie82]

Wow I can't imagine building a relationship like that! And for 8 years too? Your story is really inspiring:love:

Thank you! Its been hard and still is.. 8 dayz till im in his arms for the FIRST TIME!!!!!!

[Xelha]

My bf and I met in January of 2008 on a stupid website mostly full of 10-15 year olds. It was a website I knew from years before, and I realized it existed in other languages, so I started visiting the other versions to practice. I went on the Spanish one and my bf entered just one time(he lives in Spain). We talked, and he added me to msn, where we continued talking. For months, we were nothing but language partners. But in September when I was studying in Germany, my bf and one of his friends came to visit me for a couple days. At first we couldn't even understand each other, because I was too shy to speak Spanish, and we couldn't quite communicate in English, but it got better.

 

Then in October I went to visit him in Spain for 10 days, and we spent soo much time together sightseeing and everything. On the 8th day or so while we were sitting at the back of the bus on our way into the city, he told me he liked me and kissed me. It was both mine and his first kiss, so it was pretty bad(), but I still think it was romantic. Ever since that day things have been different between us.

[thisismystory]

We were actually in the same homeroom in high school but I never knew who he was until I dated his best friend. His best friend ended up cheating on me and he really wanted to cheer me up. (It didn't work. He sucks at cheering people up).

 

But either way...2 years later, he decided to visit Boston, since there are a lot of colleges in the area. He was gonna stay in a friend's dorm but turned out they had some weird policy where you can't have guests the first month of school. I told him he could stay in my dorm. He slept on the floor. Anyways, the next day, my alarm woke us both up and the alarm tone was apparently one of his favorite songs. We spent the day together and I showed him around my campus. After that...we just started talking a lot. And now...we're together.