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11 months since. He's still in contact and I still can't give up hope. Why?!


cypresa

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Cyrpresa,

This might give you some more incentive to cut him off. I have been in a back and forth situation with my ex for the past 2 YEARS. I'm sure you don't want to still be getting mixed messages that cause you pain a year from now. I know when I type that it makes me aggravated at myself for letting it go on so long and for not putting my foot down. I think a lot of us have that feeling that we don't want to hurt the other person's feelings or cause them to be mad at us - part of this I think is that we still want them back and don't want to do anything to mess that up. I know for myself, and this is difficult and somewhat embarrassing to admit, when he contacts me or flirts with me I get a little rush that he still cares. But, if I'm being honest with myself I know that these are just crumbs and if he really wanted me back in his life he would take action to get me there (such as saying "I want you back").

So be strong. Let's all do this together. I'm a nice girl by nature and hate to have anyone mad at me. But it's time to be strong and stand up for ourselves.

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You need to go completely NC on his ass and start loving yourself. Love yourself more than him. Love yourself more than any guy in your future. And there will be other guys in your future. The sooner you end all contact with this guy, the sooner you can move on with your life.

 

We are here to support you. It will be hard but I know that you can do it.

 

You deserve it.

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