werty Posted January 18, 2004 Share Posted January 18, 2004 a bunch of red & pink roses send for your "X-loveone" a day before valentines & a card... what do u say guys? go for it, or not.... your opinions pls... also as based on my situation, should i do this? Link to post Share on other sites
monkey Posted January 18, 2004 Share Posted January 18, 2004 Werty sorry i don't know your situation much, i'll scan your previous threads. I sent my seperated one a nice xmas present & i also wrote her a romantic letter with the 100 reasons i love her with nice romantic drawings. I had this image of her recieving them with a smile on her face & her saying to herself "you big monkey, you" as she used to. I want to get back together & i have told her i never say never & that i won't give up, but there's a fine line to be drawn. You don't want to be seen to be bribeing her or being OTT & in my case to show her that friends is what i accept, instead of showing her that i'm her boyfriend & she not wants it. Mabe a nice card would be sufficient, thats what i'll probably do. Be Cool. Link to post Share on other sites
Author werty Posted January 18, 2004 Author Share Posted January 18, 2004 this is goin to be the X dat broke up wit me and asked for a no contact.. ive bin successfull wit te no contact for a week or so... but i would want a to know or understand her final feelings after se would know that those came from me.. and also, what would i write or tell her????? Link to post Share on other sites
dario Posted January 18, 2004 Share Posted January 18, 2004 Don't do it, Werty. Leave it be. You should leave it be. I had a tough xmas. Very tough (as I imagine alot of people on the site did). I did send my ex her present (as I had already bought it)...but it just sends the door ajar for sorrowful communication (if that makes sense). My ex just basically thanked me with an sms followed by some stuff in an email and left it at that. I was expecting that maybe she had something for me...maybe it would make things better...maybe, maybe, maybe....depends of the situation... Link to post Share on other sites
lost_in_chgo Posted January 19, 2004 Share Posted January 19, 2004 A week??? A week is nothing. 3 months no contact here. Give it some time. You may find that time eases your mind. For some reason women think that not talking to you makes things easier on you. It doesn't, but it does make it easier on them. They don't have to face their feelings or the fallout. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey Posted January 19, 2004 Share Posted January 19, 2004 Chicago man you too right, this no talking sure helps them for what they want, but the poor soul that has to go through the mental torture of unknown answers to questions & emptyness. This is why the space thing, to me seems like a test, a chance for healing & mabe reconciliation. A 50/50 relationship doesn't seem to still happen when one wants the space. Mabe if a relationship had a pre-requisition that were one half wanted a seperation, the other half had as much a say, relationships would be worked on harder!! like a pre-nuptial without the nuptials. But i guess thats called a marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
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