unsureLP Posted April 14, 2010 Share Posted April 14, 2010 We had a good MC session today and I wanted to share something the counselor gave me. I think it's good regardless of where you are in the process. Actually, I think it's good for any individual in general. He calls it ACT: A - Accept your thoughts and feelings. Acknowledge that you are angry, sad, frustrated, shocked, or anything else you feel. Fighting your feelings or trying to suppress them will only make it worse and more painful for you. So just look inwards, identify what you are feeling and say "ok, this is how I feel. I don't like it, but I have to accept that this is what I am feeling right now. It will pass." C - Connect with your values. What would you like to be? What do you consider important? What kind of person do you want to be ideally? Visualize/write/rehearse the actions you would like to take ideally. T - Take effective action. While you feelings that may not lead you to your values, your acceptance and connection above allow you to make the choice that's closest to your values. Over time this should become easier. In our case this applies to the fights, but I really think that this could help in so many different settings. Link to post Share on other sites
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