confussed-one Posted January 18, 2004 Share Posted January 18, 2004 I am stright, i have a girlfriend, i love her, but i do things that most guys would not usually do, i shave my arm-pits, paint my toe nails, exfoliate my skin, put on a facial mosturizer before bed, mosturize my hands, talked about triming my eye-brows, but my girlfriend said not to because they already looks shaped to 'well' to be no trimmed, and i care about clothing, how i look and stuff like that etc. And i am not afriad to admit it or talk about it. I think i am a nice guy too. Basically my problem is that my girlfriend knows i am not gay, i know i am not, but people sometimes say stuff to her about having to watch out for me becasue they think i am gay (not anything recently). It bothers her, and although it does'nt bother me that people say it, it bothers me that it bothers her. I am very conftable with myself and the way i am, and i really dont want to stop doing what i do, but i am just confussed as to why people make assumptions like that, and how i should deal with it, her and all that sort of stuff? Why are people so ignorant when it comes to guys who care about 'traditional female issues', and why is it such a problem, how do i deal with it? Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 18, 2004 Share Posted January 18, 2004 Don't get all self-righteous about it, you're different, and part of what comes with the choice of being different is rejection. It's a problem because of a need for straight guys to assert their heterosexuality by projecting an image of homophobia. Sounds bull-headed? It is. Don't let it bother you, ever. If it bothers your girlfriend, she obviously isn't the right one for you. This seems like a small issue to end your relationship with, but if she's so incredibly shallow that she can't accept you for who you are, you're going to run into this problem again and again. Find a girl out there who doesn't mind you being prettier than her, yeah? If this is truly the way you are, embrace it, don't try to change yourself. However, if you're trying to be a metrosexual to attract women (it doesn't sound like this is the case, but just in case)--don't. Only 20% of women, according to a match.com / USA today poll, would rather not date a metrosexual. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted January 18, 2004 Share Posted January 18, 2004 If you or your lady wouldn't go around telling people all the things you do that are normally associated with females, you might find people won't make those remarks. You are entitled to your privacy, you know. You aren't obligated to tell the world every hygenic thing you do. These are matters that are none of anybody's business! Now if they don't know you shave your arm-pits, paint your toe nails, exfoliate your skin, put on a facial mosturizer before bed, mosturize your hands, talk about triming your eye-brows and otherwise dote on yourself (and many other things most men don't do) and they still make those remarks, there's a good reason you need to look into. People are cruel when it comes to these things. Don't give people out there reasons to make comments. Keep your feminine side private between you and your lady...and don't raise your arms in public when you don't have a shirt on. If you don't have a deep voice, make one up. If all that doesn't work, whip somebody's butt once in a while. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confussed-one Posted January 18, 2004 Author Share Posted January 18, 2004 It bothers her slightly but not alot, all she said was that she didnt like having to second guess her decisions, she has no problem with what i do, and she does'nt think any of it is wrong or incorrect. THe only rreason it bother her was it was her best friend, and another persons who opionion she trusts. The people saying things didnt happen recently, really only when we started going out, she only brought it out because i pushed her to, while we were discussing other things. Link to post Share on other sites
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