Infatuation.. strong physical attraction/sort of a vent

[on_point]

So I have a girl in one of my classes at a university.. and she just captivates me every time i see, however i'm confused about my attraction to her. I've barely even spoken to her..

 

there are literally countless amounts of "hot" and beautiful girls at my school ( which I could care less about) but I find myself only wanting to win HER attention.. i'm not the type of guy who swoons at the sight of a pretty girl, i usually only find attraction after have engaging that person in conversation.. and in fact the girl that captivates me has a simple beauty about her..

 

she has a boyfriend.. maybe my infatuation is due to my perception of her being unobtainable for me.

 

is this foolish or naive to have this crush? a girl has never bothered or influenced me like this

 

I continue to date other girls and keep my dating life open, but a part of me really just wants her..

 

I basically just want to know.. has anyone experienced something like this and if so did it work out for you? and if so how?

 

thanks

[amagordos]

No its not foolish. It happens to me all the time, I always like the cute boys that don't even know I exist. I have some guys after me, but i'm set in my ways, so i reject them. It's just cool to have an impossible crush, as long as it doesn't interfere with your life.

[Ronni_W]

she has a boyfriend.. maybe my infatuation is due to my perception of her being unobtainable for me.

Maybe...but maybe not.

What's your best guess: Would you still have these feelings for her even if she did not currently have a boyfriend?

 

Sometimes it just is that we have a great attraction to another person, and all the other circumstances are quite irrelevant.

The few times in my life where it's happened to me, I just decided to put it down to some type of "aura-energy" thing going on between us...or maybe it was my unconscious "remembering" them from a past life...or maybe they were one of my 'soul mates'.

 

That is, just choose whatever 'back story' your logical mind can live with. Sometimes that's all we can do. What difference, really, if what we decide to tell ourselves about it is "true" or "not true"?

 

I hear that she currently has a boyfriend. But, if you feel strongly enough about her, I'd still ask her out for coffee. If she says 'no thanks' -- that could be what you need to hear in order to start letting your crush fade.

 

Or she might say 'yes please'. In your shoes, I'd want to find out either way.

[Disintegration]

I would highly suggest you not try and ask her for a date. She's in a relationship and you should respect that, don't cross the line. Put yourself in her bf shoes, you wouldn't want some guy approaching your gf if you were in that situation.

 

It's okay to have a crush but don't obsess over her. Like you said there are other countless beauties at your school, go for someone who is not taken.

[zebracolors]

Yes I am also crushing on someone right now. Its very normal and I think you can get them at any age. Like me at 34. My infatuation is to someone I really have only known for about five months, but all I do know is that (to me) he looks good, is funny and very creative, all of which added to the feeling.

 

Ronnie brings up good points. I am not sure what it is about this guy that caused this, when there are others in the same group that also are very funny and creative. It would be romantic to think this guy and I once knew each other in a past life or were destined to be together, but I need to keep realistic about this. And so should you On_Point.