SierraMist Posted January 18, 2004 Share Posted January 18, 2004 Hey people! im from california and yea i have another girl problem. To start out....this was my problem before http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t31170/ I took Confused_and_Worried's advice and i told myself i wanted closure...so i asked her out. She said she wanted to think about it. (I automatically assumed it was a no because girls who usually like you will say yes in ur face) so later on i asked her out to dinner, and she said she'd give me the answer at dinner. We ended up going to a fancy restaurant (Ned Kellys) and it seemed like she was having fun so i didnt bother asking her what her answer was. I took her back to my house to hang out, and then i asked her what her answer was. She said she'd tell me when she was ready...so im like ok? and there i knew it was a no and she just wanted to be nice. 10mins later we started cuddling and we started making out for a long long long time. While we were making out she said she liked me ALOT!....and wow am i confused!!!! so i called her the next day and she didnt pick up, i drive over to my friends house and BAM! i see her car parked at her ex boyfriends house....(It was late). I assumed stuff and drove away and told my friend im going home. So my question is...am i being used?? should i forget about this girl and move on? Whats her deal?? am i being played?? bcoz right now i am so emotionally depressed. I dont know whats going on anymore PLEASE I NEED HELP!! ANY!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted January 18, 2004 Share Posted January 18, 2004 She may very well like YOU alot Sierra.....but it seems as though she is in love with her exboyfriend - The Jackass - as you put it in the other post. LOL! I have no idea if that situation can or will change. Sometimes, when a person is really into someone, even someone who treats them badly (such as her ex), they really TRY to get over them by seeing someone new. Sometimes, it just doesn't work. She's probably been as successful getting over him.....as you are getting over her. You can try to remain a friend and see if her feelings change....but for your own sake.....you can't dwell on it. She knows how you feel....and either she will respond or she won't . There really isn't anything further you can do. Link to post Share on other sites
BlockHead Posted January 18, 2004 Share Posted January 18, 2004 SierraMist Whats her deal?? am i being played?? bcoz right now i am so emotionally depressed.Somebody is benefiting from the relationship and that person is not you. I like to think that loving and productive relations benefit both people. Ask yourself “Is she worth the trouble?” I think she is trying to get the emotional intimacy that she cannot get from her idiot boyfriend from you. Personally, I don’t see a future with a woman/girl like that. I recommend that you cut your losses and look for a relationship elsewhere. Link to post Share on other sites
annaM19 Posted January 19, 2004 Share Posted January 19, 2004 I think she is trying to get the emotional intimacy that she cannot get from her idiot boyfriend from you. I think blockhead is totally right. I am kind of in the same situation. I am still going to my jackass boy friend. Sometimes i turn to other guys because i am not getting the emotional intimacy from the jackass. Yeah call us stupid. Sometimes we want what we cant have. Who knows tho maybe she will make up her mind to finally get over her ex once and for all. Just give her some time and she will come around. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SierraMist Posted January 19, 2004 Author Share Posted January 19, 2004 wow...lol i guess nice guys do finish last. Is she worth all this trouble?? Ive been asking myself that question over and over again blockhead, When im not with her, It feels like im in a box and that i cant think straight..im always thinking about her and i always feel like **** coz i wanna be with her. But when im with her, it feels like all my problems are gone! its just me and her and time seems like it stopped everytime im around her. Yea i know what im saying might sounds unmanly and gay, but thats how i feel about her. I really want to get over her but she always finds ways to bring me back to her. Im thinking of just being an a**h*** from now some advice would be nice hehe Link to post Share on other sites
annaM19 Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 I feel the exact same way as you. I try to stop talking to him and sometimes i dont even think about my ex, but he always finds a way to come back. Dont be an a**h*** either. Trust me i tried today. I was mean to him before classes and well all it got me was leaving him a note on his car apologizing about what a bitch i was being. I just cant be mean. I think what you have to do is just make up ur mind to just forget about her. I know its hard and when ur with her things are great and everything seems to be fixed. Reality is tho that its not. Sometimes we just got to face the fact that it just wasn't meant to be and leave it at that. Sucks i know Link to post Share on other sites
Author SierraMist Posted January 21, 2004 Author Share Posted January 21, 2004 Ok...i think im ready to face reality and give up, im going to let her go and try and forget about her. So i guess me and her werent supposed to be. Big bummer haha I would like to thank all of u guys that have helped me. Theres really nothing mroe i can do...i tried everything, and everything i did to make things right, ended up being wrong. I know this will be a long and lonely road. Can you guys please give me suggestions on how i can get over this girl? Link to post Share on other sites
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