cutepinkblob Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 Im a 17 year old girl who currently lives with her mum and dad, im going to uni in september away from home so i will no longer live here. I can tell that my mum is seriously unhappy, and it is seriously breaking my heart, she never wants to spend time with me and my dad, sometimes they seem alright but hardly ever. I've never seen any sort of affection between them, ever, and it is seriously getting me down. I don't want them together for me but i don't want them to split up. Any advice? Cheers x Link to post Share on other sites
Shindig Posted May 12, 2010 Share Posted May 12, 2010 My parent's relationship was on a downward spiral for about a decade before the finally divorced and it was the right decision for them at the time. It hurt me to see them unhappy and in the end I got caught up when my parents wanted to tell me all about how awful the other was. That was the worst part. It might not be what you want to hear but, their relationship is their business. I can't give you much advice except not to get involved. Link to post Share on other sites
Cinnamon2000 Posted May 30, 2010 Share Posted May 30, 2010 Im a 17 year old girl who currently lives with her mum and dad, im going to uni in september away from home so i will no longer live here. I can tell that my mum is seriously unhappy, and it is seriously breaking my heart, she never wants to spend time with me and my dad, sometimes they seem alright but hardly ever. I've never seen any sort of affection between them, ever, and it is seriously getting me down. I don't want them together for me but i don't want them to split up. Any advice? Cheers x Are they sleeping together? Do you think one or both of them are having affairs? Link to post Share on other sites
rina_r Posted June 8, 2010 Share Posted June 8, 2010 I lived in such family. My mother married my dad bc of money. It was a nightmare - they fought all the time, dad was abusive to her and me. I was 6, and i was praying for their divorce. But they did not divorce till i was 22. Why? My mother needed money my dad made. She obviously did not care how her dysfunctional marriage affected everyone around. Yes, it is their marriage and their business but when children, small children are present...mothers need to think about their child's well being. Link to post Share on other sites
candymoon Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 Im a 17 year old girl who currently lives with her mum and dad, im going to uni in september away from home so i will no longer live here. I can tell that my mum is seriously unhappy, and it is seriously breaking my heart, she never wants to spend time with me and my dad, sometimes they seem alright but hardly ever. I've never seen any sort of affection between them, ever, and it is seriously getting me down. I don't want them together for me but i don't want them to split up. Any advice? Cheers x I understand what you mean. My folks were like that too and even worse--abusive. Though, in a way, your mom's neglect can be considered a form of abuse. They are probably together for you and a couple of other reasons. Finances? Convenience./ Familiarity? But still, you can't have it both ways. If it is in their best interest to split fr whatever reason, then so be it. I wish mine had split. They waited til I was damn near 30. If they do separate, you might be surprised at how they change. Imagine your mom happy and living the life she desires. Your dad too. A bad marriage weighs heavily on everything and the partners' preoccupation with their unhappiness shows in everything we do and every relationship we have(trust me, I know personally). As another poster said dont get involved; however, I would suggest maybe saying something to your mom. "I see you're unhappy, if you two are staying together for me, dont because your unhappiness is hurting us all." But only if you mean it. That might lighten the load from her heart a bit. You never know. But don't let them drag you in, though it doesnt sound like they've tried to use you as their confidante (which is good). Good luck to you! Link to post Share on other sites
scatterd Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 Your parents might think you do not notice.Maybe you could talk them into going on dates together to strengthen their bond.Talk to your mom and ask her why she is so down maybe she is going through the change of life.If so ask her to see a doctor.I love my kids opinion and like to hear whats on their mind.Maybe they are feeling their little girl has grown up and moving away.Allot of parents have to adjust to their kids growing up and and leaving the nest.After they adjust they will be fine and could bond more.Try not to worry concentrate on your life and school. Link to post Share on other sites
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