Why we can't get over them.

[mikeymad]

I love this song, and used to rock out to it, until I heard it today and listened to the lyrics. Holy crap. This is probably how most of us feel when we're trying to get someone back who wants to leave. Questions? Comments? Leave em here, cuz this guy has got his self esteem back, and a date for tonight

 

I wrote her off for the tenth time today

And practiced all the things I would say

But she came over I lost my nerve

I took her back and made her dessert

Oh I know I'm being used

That's okay man cause I like the abuse

Oh I know she's playing with me

That's okay cause I've got no self esteem

 

We make plans to go out at night

I wait till 2 then I turn out the light

This rejection's got me so low

If she keeps it up I just might tell her so

 

When she's saying, oh, that she wants only me

Then I wonder why she sleeps with my friends

When she's saying, oh, that I'm like a disease

Then I wonder how much more I can spend

Well I guess I should stick up for myself

But I really think it's better this way

The more you suffer

The more it shows you really care

Right? Yeah-eh-eh

 

Now I'll relate this little bit

That happens more than I'd like to admit

Late at night she knocks on my door

She's drunk again and looking to score

Oh I know I should say no but

It's kind of hard when she's ready to go

I may be dumb, but I'm not a dweeb

I'm just a sucker with no self esteem

 

When she's saying, oh, that she wants only me

Then I wonder why she sleeps with my friends

When she's saying, oh, that I'm like a disease

Then I wonder how much more I can spend

Well I guess I should stick up for myself

But I really think it's better this way

The more you suffer

The more it shows you really care

Right? Yeah-eh-eh

 

Sorry Trippi, this song deserves it's own thread.

Edited April 16, 2010 by mikeymad

[lisal0u]

Wow a blast from the past! I used to love The Offspring!

 

Ive never been one to really pay attention to song lyrics but i notice them a lot more now! If it wasn't for heartbreak no one would have anything to sing about it seems!

[tnttim]

The offspring, good one. This was my song through out my separation:

Rise Against-Savior

 

It kills me not to know this but I've all but just forgotten

what the color of her eyes were and her scars or how she got them

as the telling signs of age rain down a single tear is dropping

through the valleys of an aging face that this world has forgotten

 

there is no reconciliation that will put me in my place

and there is no time like the present to drink these draining seconds

but seldom do these words ring true when I'm constantly failing you

walls that we just can't break through until we disappear

so tell me now

if this ain't love then how do we get out?

cause I don't know

that's when she said I don't hate you boy

I just want to save you while there's still something left to save

that's when I told her I love you girl

but I'm not the answer for the questions that you still have

 

and the day pressed on like crushing weights

for no man does it ever wait

like memories of dying days

that deafen us like hurricanes

bathed in flames we held the brand

uncurled the fingers in your hand

pressed into the flesh like sand

now do you understand?

so tell me now

if this ain't love then how do we get out?

cause I don't know

that's when she said I don't hate you boy

I just want to save you while there's still something left to save

that's when I told her I love you girl

but I'm not the answer for the questions that you still have

 

one thousand miles away

there's nothing left to say

but so much left that I don't know

we never had a choice

this world is too much noise

it takes me under

it takes me under once again

 

I don't hate you

I don't hate you, no

so tell me now

if this ain't love then how do we get out?

cause I don't know

that's when she said I don't hate you boy

I just want to save you while there's still something left to save

that's when I told her I love you girl

but I'm not the answer for the questions that you still have

I don't hate you

I don't hate you, no

[trippi1432]

 

Sorry Trippi, this song deserves it's own thread.

 

 

Just caught that...lol. Duly noted. ;)

[You Go Girl]

You know what that song says to me? That's she's playing him like a ping-pong ball.

And maybe that's key--for users, for abusers--

to reject, then take back, then reject, then take back...

keep them bouncing back and forth

and they'll never make a decision themselves--

because they're too busy trying to figure out if they're coming or going

too busy reacting--

instead of taking control of their own destiny.

[mikeymad]

Beauty over wisdom to fit in with the styles

Your Cinderella stories, for a price

Vanity's a business built to please the unique

Silicon and stars collide; the rest will fall in line

 

[Chorus:]

Just as beautiful as you are

Its so pitiful what you are

I should have seen this coming all along

 

Visually you're stimulating to my eyes

Your Cinderella syndrome, full of lies

Your insecurities are concealed by your pride

Pretty soon your ego will kill what’s left inside

 

[Chorus]

 

(Beautiful)

It’s so pitiful what you are (Pitiful)

As beautiful as you are

(Should have seen)

I should have seen this coming all along

 

You're everything that's so typical

Maybe You're alone, for a reason

You're the reason

 

So pitiful what you are

Should have seen this coming all along

(Beautiful)

Just as beautiful as you are

(Pitiful)

So pitiful what you are

(Should have seen)

Should have seen this coming all along

(Beautiful)

Its so pitiful what you are

(Pitiful)

As beautiful as you are

(Should have seen)

Should have seen this coming all along

[mikeymad]

ok, maybe 2 songs.

 

 

Came in from a rainy Thursday

On the avenue

Thought I heard you talking softly

 

I turned on the lights, the TV

And the radio

Still I can't escape the ghost of you

 

What has happened to it all?

Crazy, some are saying

Where is the life that I recognize?

Gone away

 

But I won't cry for yesterday

There's an ordinary world

Somehow I have to find

And as I try to make my way

To the ordinary world

I will learn to survive

 

Passion or coincidence

Once prompted you to say

"Pride will tear us both apart"

Well now pride's gone out the window

Cross the rooftops

Run away

Left me in the vacuum of my heart

 

What is happening to me?

Crazy, some'd say

Where is my friend when I need you most?

Gone away

 

But I won't cry for yesterday

There's an ordinary world

Somehow I have to find

And as I try to make my way

To the ordinary world

I will learn to survive

 

Papers in the roadside

Tell of suffering and greed

Here today, forgot tomorrow

Ooh, here besides the news

Of holy war and holy need

Ours is just a little sorrowed talk

 

And I don't cry for yesterday

There's an ordinary world

Somehow I have to find

And as I try to make my way

To the ordinary world

I will learn to survive

 

Every one

Is my world, I will learn to survive

Any one

Is my world, I will learn to survive

Any one

Is my world

Every one

Is my world

[You Go Girl]

It's the most painful and difficult lesson in life--all you wanted was somebody you could count on, and they let you down.

[tojaz]

It's the most painful and difficult lesson in life--all you wanted was somebody you could count on, and they let you down.

 

Perfect post!

[trippi1432]

It's the most painful and difficult lesson in life--all you wanted was somebody you could count on, and they let you down.

 

Talk about the hitting the nail right on the head.......I've come to know since childhood...the only person I could count on was me....time for bed.:o:o

[You Go Girl]

There. You wanted to count on someone. They failed you.

 

Now what?

 

Do you quit expecting that you can count on people? The answer lies in who you are talking about counting on. It's about reading people. Somebody can still throw you--no matter how wise you get--but, far far fewer can.

Then there's something else. What if you were just plain happy with yourself, and having a SO was secondary? And when it happens, it's icing on the cake?

Then, if it ever falls apart, you still have a strong base that is YOU there for you.

You don't fall apart when it happens. Do you expect less from others? Not really...but you're more accepting of when they do disappoint you.

Ah, what do I know. I might just have spewed a ton of bs your way. Twice jaded, what do you expect from me? lol

It's just where my head's at. I'm in my mid-40's, and little is going to surprise me completely anymore.

But I feel stronger than ever.

[Steadfast]

 

Somebody can still throw you--no matter how wise you get--but, far far fewer can....You don't fall apart when it happens. Do you expect less from others? Not really...but you're more accepting of when they do disappoint you...

 

 

Sounds like you've really grown. Those are words of strength and understanding, not hateful yet plenty of backbone. Very inspiring.

 

I head this song and thought of this thread. It's KWS's 'Blue on Black'

 

Night falls and I'm alone

Skin, chilled me to the bone

You turned and you ran

Slipped, right from my hand

 

Blue on black, tears on a river

Push on a shove it don't mean much

Joker on jack, match on a fire

Cold as ice, a dead man's touch

Whisper on a scream doesn't change a thing

Doesn't bring you back

Blue on black

 

Blind, now I see

Truth, lies and in between

Wrong, that can't be undone

Slipped, from the tip of your tongue

[You Go Girl]

Sounds like you've really grown. Those are words of strength and understanding, not hateful yet plenty of backbone. Very inspiring.

 

Steadfast-thanks-I paid very dearly for that growth.

 

I'd like to try to help others reach that point far more quickly--it took me too many years, and those years are so painful when you don't learn acceptance, and still hold onto expectancy.

Stop expecting others to think, believe, or act as you do, hold the same values, react to errors in the same ways.

Accept them for who they are the minute they disappoint you. That is who they are. You can't make them grow with guilt, or any other mechanism of taking on a parental role.

Acceptance. Then you can breathe again, take a look around you, decide life is beautiful afterall even in all its imperfections, and move along with who YOU are, what you believe in, what you hold dear, and expect absolutely no one on the entire planet to have those exact same values, because there is no such person.

There's plenty of relating to others though to be done--albeit none who are exactly like you--and the pressure is off to find something perfect, someone perfect, to be perfect. There's no reason to be lonely. Everybody has something to show that you can learn from, and you can relate to everyone on some level. But yeah, you're alone on this planet, and it's not a bad thing. It simply means everybody is unique.

[mimidarlin]

I really need to read this post at this exact moment. I can't help him realize the errors of his ways. Acceptance...I was there last week but today is rough. He attacked me verbally and hurt me a lot. Now I am feeling angry and resentful. I want to make sure he understands what he did to me. This isn't going to work....Let it go.

Thanks You Go Girl

 

 

Stop expecting others to think, believe, or act as you do, hold the same values, react to errors in the same ways.

Accept them for who they are the minute they disappoint you. That is who they are. You can't make them grow with guilt, or any other mechanism of taking on a parental role.

Acceptance. Then you can breathe again, take a look around you, decide life is beautiful after all even in all its imperfections, and move along with who YOU are, what you believe in, what you hold dear, and expect absolutely no one on the entire planet to have those exact same values, because there is no such person.

There's plenty of relating to others though to be done--albeit none who are exactly like you--and the pressure is off to find something perfect, someone perfect, to be perfect. There's no reason to be lonely. Everybody has something to show that you can learn from, and you can relate to everyone on some level. But yeah, you're alone on this planet, and it's not a bad thing. It simply means everybody is unique.

[tnttim]

There. You wanted to count on someone. They failed you.

 

Now what?

 

Do you quit expecting that you can count on people? The answer lies in who you are talking about counting on. It's about reading people. Somebody can still throw you--no matter how wise you get--but, far far fewer can.

Then there's something else. What if you were just plain happy with yourself, and having a SO was secondary? And when it happens, it's icing on the cake?

Then, if it ever falls apart, you still have a strong base that is YOU there for you.

You don't fall apart when it happens. Do you expect less from others? Not really...but you're more accepting of when they do disappoint you.

Ah, what do I know. I might just have spewed a ton of bs your way. Twice jaded, what do you expect from me? lol

It's just where my head's at. I'm in my mid-40's, and little is going to surprise me completely anymore.

But I feel stronger than ever.

 

A fcking men sister