I Met A Nice Girl In a crisis recovery facility. What to do?

[IamSad]

Hi everyone. I've never posted here before but i have a problem with a girl and I havent quite given up hope yet...

 

 

I met a girl in a hospital... a locked recovery unit... or mental institution if you want to call it that. She was pretty level headed it seemed, she was there because she OD'd on some tylenol or something. I was in there for running away, but thats beside the point...

 

Anyway, we got along really well in there. Very obviously she liked me and I liked her, and tried not to show it too much - but some. It wasnt long after we met I asked another girl in here to ask her what she thought of me and I found out she did Like me and then the girl went ahead and got her phone number for me, too. So I was happy. And then things went well pretty much until we both got discharged... the day of discharge I gave her my number and said goodbye. I went home got adjusted to home life (all the while thinking of her) and waited until Sunday (discharged on a friday) to call her. In the late afternoon we talked for about 5 minutes, and then her dad came in the room and said something about Vacuuming so then she said "Can you call me later?" I said "How about you call me instead?" She said Ok, hung up.. and didnt call me again that night . But I tried again at 9pm that night and nobody answered. Also, mistakenly I told her I wouldnt be at home for the next three weeks.. but it turns out i didnt have to deal with that after all (a different issue). So I waited and thought about her and the current situation and gave her space until that next friday... So I called her again, I asked if she was home... her dad I think answers and says she isnt home. Im saddened and wait a whole day to call her again. So I do, and her brother picks up - she's gone skating.. I leave a message but he didnt sound like the type to deliver it. Again I wait a whole day, and I devise a plan to have one of my Girl Friends call her and tell her to call me.. according to this friend she sounded perky.. and eager too.. and even quoted "Ok, I'll give him a call" But she never did call. And it's been 12 hours exactly since my friend made the call to her...

 

I hope the situation is clear. I would just like to know if it seems as though she's giving off any signals that she's not interested... or maybe hopefully she isnt aware of what she's doing... or even more hopefully maybe she's purposely playing mind games. I am losing hope myself, though.. it seems like I should give up about it. I really liked her, and if you could have seen the way we acted around eachother... Hm.. very compatible. (constantly the staff of the hospital would tell us to stop with the Lovey Dovey stuff)

 

 

I dread I made the mistake of calling too soon, or too much.. or maybe I just shouldnt have called at all. Any input would be very much appreciated............. If I can tell you anything else please ask.

[ally000]

*****************WARNING SIGNS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Do you watch the OC?

 

One word: OLIVER!

 

You say she "only" ODed on tylenol or something right. MENTALLY UNSTABLE. Don't go there. Do you WANT to be hurt? What if things don't work out. Do you want to be the one responsible for her attempting to commit suicide again? Once unstable, always unstable. My family has a history of mental illness. You think it seems small, but thats only the begining. Trust me. Stay away. I'm sure shes nice and all. But everyone is nice. Especially ones who are in desperate need of attention.

[tattoomytoe]

i have been in and out of recovery places too. and all the friends i ever made(looking back now) They were facilitating my problems. We would hang out and compare who was doing what and what was worse....basically it was this competition to see who was the sicker person. Not that i want to tell you all persons that are there are nut jobs....i am not, but i was confused and didn;t understand how to show my feelings and things. DO BE CAREFUL ABOUT CODEPENDENCY!