somedude81 Posted April 18, 2010 Share Posted April 18, 2010 I see a cute girl, I want to get to know her better. If she's a cool person and I interact with her on a regular basis, I start to like her more and more, till eventually she's on my mind non-stop. I'd say from seeing her 2-3 times a week in a casual setting (work, school) I can have a crush on her in a couple of months, from when I first met her, then I'm completely stuck on her. Do girls (18-25) operate in a similar way or are they completely different? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted April 18, 2010 Share Posted April 18, 2010 I think it's pretty much the same. Unless someone else catches her attention in the meantime, or asks her out. Link to post Share on other sites
hermit Posted April 18, 2010 Share Posted April 18, 2010 Hey somedude. I think its more to do with personality than gender. If there's a guy I'm interested in and he's a nice guy I'll fall for him really quickly even if I don't know him that well, to the point where I'm completely disinterested in anyone else. However, I have loads of female friends who fancy several guys at once and don't seem that fussed about which one they end up with, or not ending up with any of them - they just move on to the next one, whereas I get really hung up on one guy and if nothing comes of it it takes me months or years to recover. I guess you also get female players who see men as trophys and just wnat to see how many they can get... If you're a genuine person looks like it's just a matter of luck to find someone who reciprocates your feelings and dosn't use them to walk all over you. Hope it works out for you, best of luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Eeyore79 Posted April 18, 2010 Share Posted April 18, 2010 I also tend to get hung up on one guy at a time, in a similar way to how you describe. If he isn't interested, eventually the crush goes away; if he is interested, I get totally smitten. Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted April 18, 2010 Author Share Posted April 18, 2010 Oh, I think I learned something interesting. So a girl can like a guy, but if he doesn't do anything she loses interest. If the guy shows interest in her, her interest in him can greatly increase? I wonder what the time table is. How long it takes for a girl to lose interest if the guy takes too long? And how long it takes for her interest to build up once the guy starts showing interest. Link to post Share on other sites
allanworks Posted April 18, 2010 Share Posted April 18, 2010 I see a cute girl, I want to get to know her better. If she's a cool person and I interact with her on a regular basis, I start to like her more and more, till eventually she's on my mind non-stop. I'd say from seeing her 2-3 times a week in a casual setting (work, school) I can have a crush on her in a couple of months, from when I first met her, then I'm completely stuck on her. Do girls (18-25) operate in a similar way or are they completely different? dude you sound like a girl. no just joking. i dont work like that after the 3rd date and she wants to still see me makes her my woman as now we have investid our time money and emotions.if by the third date you dont know if you really like her it wouldent have work out any ways.i know some women can fall in love instantly with a man sometimes but you have to be carefull as usally thay are like a rollercoaster.same goes for a few men but they end up clingy instead. Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted April 18, 2010 Author Share Posted April 18, 2010 Thanks for the input but I really wasn't talking about dating. I was talking about situations where you see them at work or school on a regular basis, before you decide to have a date. Link to post Share on other sites
allanworks Posted April 18, 2010 Share Posted April 18, 2010 Thanks for the input but I really wasn't talking about dating. I was talking about situations where you see them at work or school on a regular basis, before you decide to have a date. ooOOh OK i understand know Link to post Share on other sites
hermit Posted April 18, 2010 Share Posted April 18, 2010 I don't think the guy has to actively show interest... If feelings are strong enough, they're not easily "switched off" even if the guy makes it very clear he isn't interested. For example, there have been guys I've like who not only weren't interested, but also had girlfriends during the time I was into them - but in my eyes that didn't make them less nice/ funny/ charming/ attractive. There have been men that I was completely hooked on for several years without there being a chance of reciprocation. The less extreme version of this is uncertainty... I think this is in itself attractive. I'm in this situation at the moment: I really like this guy, and he's friendly to me but not overly so. Is he shy? Or just not interested? It's driving me crazy because I want to, need to know, but at the same time I don't want to know in case he dosn't like me back... This is dangerous territory though because it almaost always leads to obsessive thoughts..... Anyway, definitely a question on how interested a person is, whether you're just a fletting fancy or whether they realy like you. And again, depends on the person.......... Link to post Share on other sites
You Go Girl Posted April 18, 2010 Share Posted April 18, 2010 One bit of encouragement for you. It gets easier when you get older. You JUST KNOW. So does he. It's practically instantaneous. When I was young, I sometimes was a player. Couldn't decide, so went out with many at once, unbeknowngst to them. It wasn't just an ego trip--it was freedom. I couldn't go from being under mom and dad's control to being 'owned' by some guy. But when I did meet a guy and found him interesting with chemistry--I went for it on most occasions. Then there's also the guy in my senior high school year math class that I had such a huge crush on because he was so good looking--I couldn't even say hello, and never had a date with him because of it. Timid sometimes--upfront and assertive other times--the only thing that is sure about young people is that they aren't consistant. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 18, 2010 Share Posted April 18, 2010 I see a cute girl, I want to get to know her better. If she's a cool person and I interact with her on a regular basis, I start to like her more and more, till eventually she's on my mind non-stop. I'd say from seeing her 2-3 times a week in a casual setting (work, school) I can have a crush on her in a couple of months, from when I first met her, then I'm completely stuck on her. Do girls (18-25) operate in a similar way or are they completely different? I don't think most men even fall for women this easily. Link to post Share on other sites
Pedigree Posted April 19, 2010 Share Posted April 19, 2010 I don't think most men even fall for women this easily. That's what I was thinking. But then again, I can see where he's coming from, though. I'm like that myself. I gotta know them before I like them. Link to post Share on other sites
MichelleZB Posted April 19, 2010 Share Posted April 19, 2010 I'm not sure if there are any rules that work for an entire gender in terms of how they develop crushes. Just go with it. If you like a girl, ask her out, and if she likes you back, she'll let you know by dating you. Don't worry about how she went about liking you. It's probably a variation on the usual process--if she sees you around and talks to you a few times and gets to know you a little bit, and likes what she sees, that's how it'll happen. Exactly how it happens with you or anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
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