How important is the gift of gab?

[Disillusioned]

I bought a copy of "Rules of the Game" by Neil Strauss, and at the core of it is how to develop the gift of gab and use it to pick up women.

 

Well, shoot... I'm not the kind of person who'll strike up a conversation with a woman I don't know, gift of gab or no gift of gab. Still, I don't think I'm out of luck because of this... especially since it's official that I'll be one of a number of authors at the LA Times Festival of Books on the 24-25th. This will mean talking to agents, publishers, and yes, film makers (after all, what would movies be without trashy little plastic action figures?), AND regular folks who show up and want to read something interesting.

 

To get into the event, all of us authors needed 1. a copy of our book, 2. a bio, 3. a photo, and 4. a seller's permit. In the bio, I wrote that I never married but am open to the possibility. A lot of people are going to see that... it's like an ace up Father Time's sleeve.

 

BTW if you're in the UCLA area on those days, I'll be in booth #624 from 10 until noon. See ya...

[MichelleZB]

I've never read this "Rules" book, so I have no idea what the author means by "gift of gab". If he means know how to talk, then yes, that's probably a requirement. Presumably, being an author, you know about words and can use them to convey meaning, so you're set.

 

If he means that there is a certain way you need to talk to girls, then, no I don't think that's important. I've been charmed by many different ways of talking.

[Art_Critic]

Of course it is important, What woman wants to converse with a guy that only talks about the weather ?

 

A woman wants to know that if she goes out with a guy that she is going to enjoy herself and having the gift of gab is a good start.

Also don't underestimate humor, if a woman laughs at your jokes then she is yours..

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I bought a copy of "Rules of the Game" by Neil Strauss, and at the core of it is how to develop the gift of gab and use it to pick up women.

 

 

Hmmm.. since everything else seemed like an advertisement, I left that part of the quote out:cool:

 

However, to answer your question, it's really not the gift of the gab that gets the women - though it does quite help out a bit. Really, the whole premise of that book is a journey to having self confidence or at least portraying self confidence. To be honest, I've read that book, and I was astounded by all the "techniques", that he used. It wasn't that he used it, he used it with ultimate success, to the point, where he doesn't even know he was using it. It became him. That's where the confidence shows. Have to admit though, it was a good read.

[Disillusioned]

Also don't underestimate humor, if a woman laughs at your jokes then she is yours..

 

Maybe that's where I'm going wrong... my sense of humor is like my fiction, I get a kick out of making fun of human foibles. It feels a bit like taunting a stupid person... we know it's wrong and we shouldn't do it, but it's soooooooo enjoyable! Maybe it turns women off when I poke fun at people who do dumb things? I've noticed that women DO tend to be more merciful to stupids...

[You Go Girl]

There's nothing wrong with poking fun at the tragedy that is mankind--rather it's the most insightful we can be...just remember to be kind when doing so. No hubris allowed, in otherwords.