KRob18 Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 There is this cute personal trainer that I'm very attracted to at the gym I go to. I would like to get to know her but I'm very shy and I don't know what to say to her. I was thinking I could get her to be my personal trainer but I don't know if I would be able to concentrate. I wanted to talk to her the other day but when she walked by me I got cold feet. Any advice?? Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 sounds like you already know what you need to do. Just talking to her and saying the things you would say if you wern't affraid is probably the best idea. Hiring her as your personal trainer is probably a bad idea as it seems like a cowards ice breaker. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Personally, I would avoid this situation altogether...find another girl... There is an stunning personal trainer at my gym who is both beautiful and in amazing shape...and smart too...but I respectfully yield...I'm sure she gets enough attention as it is... But whatever you do, don't become her client in hopes of landing a date...that's just frowned upon... Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Personally, I would avoid this situation altogether...find another girl... There is an stunning personal trainer at my gym who is both beautiful and in amazing shape...and smart too...but I respectfully yield...I'm sure she gets enough attention as it is... But whatever you do, don't become her client in hopes of landing a date...that's just frowned upon... You both should hit on the personal trainers who caught your eyes. If you hit on a girl in a smooth way they take it as a compliment. If they think you are a creep so what. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 You both should hit on the personal trainers who caught your eyes. If you hit on a girl in a smooth way they take it as a compliment. If they think you are a creep so what. Well, don't get me wrong...I've already established a friendly repoire with her...we'll occasionally talk about work/school, workouts, or just random stuff if she's just training on her own or in between clients...but I wouldn't go so far as to ask her out...I'm good with that I've got...heh... Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Well, don't get me wrong...I've already established a friendly repoire with her...we'll occasionally talk about work/school, workouts, or just random stuff if she's just training on her own or in between clients...but I wouldn't go so far as to ask her out...I'm good with that I've got...heh... good with what? friendly repoire. If I were single and I saw something girl on a regular basis at my gym who was hot I would probably flat out ask her out and hope to god I got the chance to mess her up and do really horny things to her nice gym body. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 good with what? friendly repoire. If I were single and I saw something girl on a regular basis at my gym who was hot I would probably flat out ask her out and hope to god I got the chance to mess her up and do really horny things to her nice gym body. Hahah, actually, friendly repoire = nothing. Nah, out of my league. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Hahah, actually, friendly repoire = nothing. Nah, out of my league. there is no such thing as leagues. Link to post Share on other sites
Pedigree Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Don't worry, I've been in something similar. I was on a flight home by myself, empty airplane, and an air hostess/stewardess/whatever they call them these days who was in my age range decided to sit in the aisle next to me to have a chat. I thought the same way but backed out. I think it's not so much about leagues but doing something that would be out of the ordinary that'll distinguish us from the other guys (because there definitely would be) that has given her some attention. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Don't worry, I've been in something similar. I was on a flight home by myself, empty airplane, and an air hostess/stewardess/whatever they call them these days who was in my age range decided to sit in the aisle next to me to have a chat. I thought the same way but backed out. I think it's not so much about leagues but doing something that would be out of the ordinary that'll distinguish us from the other guys (because there definitely would be) that has given her some attention. Dude she totally liked you. I hate looking back and being like "damn I missed an oportunity." Great life lesson though being able to recognize that. I wouldn't have a gf if I had given up every shot at a girl I like because I thought she was out of my league or the time wasn't right. Go talk to that girl at the gym, and just ask her out. The worst that can happens is she says no and you are disapointed... just get over that though if it happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Pedigree Posted April 22, 2010 Share Posted April 22, 2010 Dude she totally liked you. I hate looking back and being like "damn I missed an oportunity." Great life lesson though being able to recognize that. I wouldn't have a gf if I had given up every shot at a girl I like because I thought she was out of my league or the time wasn't right. Go talk to that girl at the gym, and just ask her out. The worst that can happens is she says no and you are disapointed... just get over that though if it happens. Part of it was me being too chicken. Part of it was "How the hell do I stand out from other guys that made a move on her?". Overcoming fears is one thing. The technical aspects is another thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Samari Posted April 22, 2010 Share Posted April 22, 2010 (edited) Part of it was me being too chicken. Part of it was "How the hell do I stand out from other guys that made a move on her?". Overcoming fears is one thing. The technical aspects is another thing. You missed a GOLDEN opportunity. When a girl starts talking to YOU half the work is done. It's like a serial killer turning themselves in. There is no "standing out from other guys". I mean that in the sense that you don't have to have some unique and special ability that you can only possibly possess. Honestly, the best way, and I mean the best way is to talk to the girl in a regular manner. She obviously wanted to talk to you about something. You should have asked for her number after your conversation. You dropped the ball on that one my friend. there is no such thing as leagues. This. If anyone believes that one person is truly above someone else just because of their looks, then that is a truly sad mindset. That doesn't mean that we can't be attracted to people of different shapes and sizes, but we need to keep in mind that one human being is above or below another human being based on standards set by society. Edited April 22, 2010 by Samari Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted April 22, 2010 Share Posted April 22, 2010 Part of it was me being too chicken. Part of it was "How the hell do I stand out from other guys that made a move on her?". Overcoming fears is one thing. The technical aspects is another thing. You stand out from the other guys by being bold and asking her out. Putting yourself in a position to be rejected by a girl is the first step to getting her. If anyone believes that one person is truly above someone else just because of their looks, then that is a truly sad mindset. That doesn't mean that we can't be attracted to people of different shapes and sizes, but we need to keep in mind that one human being is above or below another human being based on standards set by society. Standard does set standards, but the individual should never build a prision and rules in their mind to keep them down. Link to post Share on other sites
Peaceful Guy Posted April 22, 2010 Share Posted April 22, 2010 There is this cute personal trainer that I'm very attracted to at the gym I go to. I would like to get to know her but I'm very shy and I don't know what to say to her. I was thinking I could get her to be my personal trainer but I don't know if I would be able to concentrate. I wanted to talk to her the other day but when she walked by me I got cold feet. Any advice?? nah, its not realistic.. its possible.. but just smile, maybe strike up a conversation if possible, nothing too forced.. maybe if you guys have a casual acquaintance/friendship you could invite her to a party, or let her know you'll be at a certain bar w. friends for a game.. maybe she wants to come? really though, don't hire her as a personal trainer.. if you've got a shot you'll be able to start having conversations naturally.. really, i don't think cheesy stuff like that works except in the movies.. AND when you both just really want to fuuuhhhh Link to post Share on other sites
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