I am just being paranoid?

[amazed]

I meant "Am I just being paranoid?"

 

Myself and my girlfriend have been going out for 9 months. I am 22 and shes 18.

 

I have a few things playing on my mind and would really appreciate some advice;

 

1. She went away to see her friend last week in a different city. While she was away she was texting me a lot that night, before this everything seemed great. When she came back I had waited in the entire day for her, she'd missed a train and her phone was out of battery. I was in a bad mood because id waited around all day and he was in a bad mood because her holiday at the weekend had been cancelled (due to the UK airspace ban).

 

I decided to take her home because she had asked me to, and we were both in bad moods, but i immediately felt bad and tried to call her. She ignored my phone calls and texts. Later on, online, I told her I was worried about her and she called me to say shes fine and just to leave it. Then the next again day she text me saying sorry. However, she was really weird for the entire weekend.

 

Now, whenever I ask her about why she was annoyed all weekend, she says she doesnt have to tell me everything. She's apologised for being weird but won't tell me why.

 

2. On a night out a while ago I got a little jealous about her talking to other guys, the night wasnt great and didnt end on good terms. The next morning I went to check the time on her phone and saw text messages from 2 different guys (both old friends of hers from school). One of them was being really flirty. The other was just her friend who she had asked for this other guys number and was warning her not to do anything stupid because "ur boyfriends a great guy". She told him she thought he was "jumping to conclusions" but it still freaked me out. Ever since, ive been really weird when this guys text' her. It's even led to an argument because i checked her texts, which i felt awful for. I later found out through another friend that this guy is possibly an ex boyfriend, which doesnt make me feel great.

 

At a later date i checked her texts again because i was getting paranoid about this guy texting her. She caught me and we fell out.

 

Now, shes going out with a bunch of friends from her old school, that other guys going to be there. I feel completely paranoid and wish I didnt.

 

3. Another thing ive noticed is. Her sex drive seems really low, I have been trying to encourage sex but it only seems to happen when she is drunk, which is rarely and has been once in the past month. We're going on holiday next month and really hope this helps with this. I want to discuss it with her but dont want it to seem like im being a complete sex pest.

 

I love this girl and want things to work more than anything. She's cute and makes me feel incredible.

 

I'm not sure if im being paranoid about nothing or if I have reason to feel uneasy just now. I am also scared shes considering breaking up... and me being strange just now and pestering her about what was up with her at the weekend probably isnt helping. I just wish I knew what was going on.

 

Right now i just feel like i want to be with her all the time but i know that if you hold someone too tight it can sometimes push them away. I am not a clingy boyfriend, I dont mind her going out with friends at all and will happily give her space. Until i have been given something to be paranoid about. As soon as i feel uneasy about something I think i become a bit clingy.

 

Any advice on what to do next?

Edited April 21, 2010 by amazed