TaraMaiden Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 That assertion is completely devoid of any medical understanding (. . .)... but if you don't believe me (and why should you? Like anyone else, I could claim anything on the internet) you're welcome to check it out with a proper, qualified doctor. I don't think it's a medical question here. I think he's an out-and-out liar and a cheat and a fraud. Frankly, I think nothing of the medical description because I do not believe it applies. LG - if you're not comfortable disclosing something here - then DON'T! You owe no one here - it's not up to you to convince the skeptics or win over the unbelievers. You need to protect your anonymity before all else - and TMI can be very very risky! DO NOT ever post more detail than you would be prepared to have your mother, your boss, or your BF read about you. You owe no one but yourself and your loved ones. Do not feel under pressure to respond! Your reasons are your own. You will never convince those who are unwilling to be convinced, so don't waste your efforts. And never compromise your anonymity because someone chooses not to believe something you say. Good point. fair enough... But I always find non-disclosure leads to biased and incorrect assumptions from others. Guilty as charged, if you like.... I'm going by what she tells us. |if she chooses to not elaborate, fine. If she chooses to elaborate, fine. But she will have to take on the chin what she gets, because it's down to what she includes. Or omits... I'm assuming you mean polygynist - nowhere has the OP said the MM was into men, of any number. My bad, you're quite right. Not the term I was looking for. I actually meant Polyamory. What's good for one, should be good for all.... Link to post Share on other sites
BB07 Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 And oh yeah- while you're at it, be sure and conveniently forget there's a BS at home who is unknowingly being forced to live a lie. I wasn't discussing the BS in my reply......I was giving my opinion regarding the OW's view. It doesn't mean I discount her (the BS) but the original post wasn't about the BS......now was it? So aim your arrows somewhere else. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 My H's last few years of M were celibate. Yes, but Lila's MM isn't. He is not being celibate, and neither does he seem willing to 'go down that road'. A man - just like a woman - "belongs" to whoever they've given themselves to, whosever they choose to be. A piece of paper is not proof of ownership, unless you live in a slave economy. Free will and the choice of the person in question is what determines which woman - if any - the man in question he "belongs" to. My H was still "my" man even when he was still M to his xW - it took him a while to untangle all the bonds to free himself of her, but he made it abundantly clear to everyone throughout that he was mine, and not hers. you're forgetting a minor detail. A Marriage certificate is a binding contract, hence the necessity to dissolve it through Law. As I have mentioned previously - ad nauseam - Desire is a natural trait, but commitment is a choice. if you're going to change a vow into a blatant lie - then either don't make the promise in the first place, or don't even marry. As is often said, "Can't do the time? Don't do the crime." he could easily resolve this. He has chosen not to. She freely admits that if she were to stop having sex with him, life would be so much easier and less complicated..... Lila is going to simply give up being so possessive and jealous. Like I said, it's part of the deal, until he says it isn't..... Link to post Share on other sites
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