undisclosed Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 I feel like I'm falling apart, I let him be my support system and now I don't know how to handle stressful situations. I miss having someone to vent to every night and someone to just make me laugh and feel better after a long day. I realize it was so wrong to let myself become so co-dependant. I wasn't this way when we met (totally independent and okay with not telling everyone every detail of my life), but after so long let myself become vulnerable or just comfortable with the idea of someone you love being there to share your good and bad days with. I know I need to be alone right now and learn to just be me again, but it's a hard thing to get used to. It was so comforting to look forward to laughing and just cuddling with him after a stressful week and now I get so depressed and lonely. I have friends, work, and definitely plenty of studying to do, but I'm so sad that I let him be my only comfort and release. I just feel lost, can't sleep most nights, or concentrate. Friends are great, but you gotta admit they can tire of hearing the same old stuff & they have their own lives and relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 Be kind to yourself. All that you describe is what a relationship is about and what people have when they experence real intimacy. Opening yourself up to that is not wrong, that exposing of yourself is what it needed if you want a relationship of love and depth. Not everyone can or are willing to experience life at that level. It is obvious you have that strength you need to take care of yourself. But remember part of taking care of yourself is allowing yourself to grieve. Give yourself some time to heal. While you do, make sure your taking care of yourself; eat well, exercise as much as you can, write in a journal, lean on those friends and family. It does get better. Keep posting, nothing we enjoy more then a good rant! Link to post Share on other sites
monkeymaid Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 (edited) Keep posting, nothing we enjoy more then a good rant! this made me laugh ...HARD!!! you know undi, cloud is right, and when hes right, hes right, ...and him, hes always right! you have no idea the strength i ttakes to give of yourself like that. ...when you enmesh a life with someone, this is how you do it. in a few weeks, you are going to see that this is the thing that makes you capable of love in the first place. there are like 1,274,968/6,021,834,996 people in the world that are capable of feeling this. you are one of them. you are also going to realize that becasue you can feel this, you are a magnificent catch, and that makes you a-freaking-mazing!!! so he was a douche, hell realize it, but by then, you are going to be using your gift for far better purposes. i knoiw its hard, but use this experience to better yourself. ...for you! ..oh, and we will be your support system for as long as you want! if you read my thread about "that damn girl" you will see that clouds actually walked me through a few weeks! i dont think i would be where i am without some suggestions from him and the other members on this board! so post, post, and post some more!!!! Edited April 23, 2010 by monkeymaid Link to post Share on other sites
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