I don't know what he meant

[Passionate1]

Bit of background...there was a guy I dated in college and after a very intense but brief relationship, he broke up with me. Took me a while to get over him but I did. That was 20 years ago. I have always said that if he showed up on my doorstep that I would go with him. Well guess what...thanks to facebook he did. We exchanged emails, chats, phone conversations...whole 9 yards. We live 4 hours apart so we decided to meet half-way. Needless to say, it was fabulous. We fell right back into that same familiarity...in the sack and out.

 

My question is this...we were texting last night and the talk got a little racy. I asked what he wanted and his one word response was "Passion". Now, that can mean alot of things to alot of people...so I am confused. I took it in the romantic way...but was it really meant to be sexual? We have no problem whatsoever telling each other what we want in bed, which makes me think that this was meant as something deeper than the physical. He also changed from calling me "girl" to "girlie" yesterday.

 

I know, I am probably ready WAY TOO MUCH into these things because I want this to work this time so bad. We are both separated and have been for over a year.

 

PLEASE guys...help me interpret this!! It is driving me crazy...

[CodenameD]

It's hard to tell what exactly he meant by that... however if you knew him well enough (what's he like, what is he likely to think) you may figure it out.

 

It could be that he is missing you very much, in which case you would be right to take it in a romantic way. Or, maybe he was into something sexual. You can't tell that over text. However if you feel that there is something deeper in this, its probably nothing physical. It is probably he wants you by his side more than ever (or at least during that moment he did!)! He wants Passion, a very strong feeling, which he was probably experiencing at that moment.

[Island Girl]

Why don't you just have a conversation about it.

Ask him what he meant and when he tells you get to a meeting of the minds of wants and desires.

 

Be a little vulnerable and build some intimacy. This is one of those subjects that will do that. It will serve to bring you closer together which is what you want. And try talking on the phone instead of texting --- it is better to get tone and inflection from each other. The written word leaves a lot of room for interpretation and you guys are rebuilding. Don't leave an opportunity for any misunderstandings because of text.

[Itsnotme]

Wow your situation is so similar to mine. We got together via facebook too but our time apart was 25 yrs. This last six weeks have been a whirlwind. We are three and half hours apart.

 

I too have the awful habit of reading into things and I know how you feel. You start to over analysis and it drives you mad. I have already had this problem and asked him exactly what he meant by something he had put in a text. I asked in a very light hearted way and he was happy to explain. We too have had the racy texts and phone calls but I just know that its not all he's about. We, like you, knew eachother before and I honestly think that wanting sexual passion is no bad thing. Just be sure to find out that its not all hes after and the only way to do that is to ask him. Just be light hearted and chatty and ask.

 

Already in this short time that we have been together I have learnt that texting can be misconstrued and that proper communication is oh so important. Good luck.

[Passionate1]

OK...I feel much better today . Thank you all for your responses...and I agree about the texting and easily taking things out of context. I really miss his voice and can't wait to actually talk on the phone tonight. I was feeling very insecure last night, but he put my mind at ease today with just one simple text...hope you are having a good day. Then the follow up...miss me? I swear I wish I could jump in the car right now!