My best friend still hangs out with my ex girlfriend, should i be mad?

[thebear08]

about me:

second year college student, male 20, 2 weeks left till summer meaning i wont have to see her all summer, but it will be 2 weeks of hell till summer.

 

the situation:

about 2 days ago after 6 months of dating, my girlfriend and i decided to call it quits. after about 2 months of complicated "her not being able to decide if she still felt the same way about me or not", i realized it was over. I decided that i didn't want to see her, where as she is completely fine with seeing me and being friends. I want to be friends eventually, but for now if i see her, i instantly feel ****ty and start thinking about her a **** load.

 

however

 

She literally has 1 good friend here who is a girl, who happens to be a senior(about to graduate and move away, also her only roommate). All this year, she has pretty much hung out with my 2 roommates and I. One of those roommates is my best friend. She considers my self, my 2 roommates and her roommate (the senior girl) her only friends here. She makes absolutely 0 attempts at making new friends, and for the past couple weeks i had been really trying to make her hang out with other girls instead of hanging out with my roommates. I especially hate it when she is hanging out with my roommates when i wasn't there. But she is no longer aloud to come to our apartment due to us breaking up.

 

My best friend is still friends with her. i would like to add that I am not concerned about anything sexual or anything like that happening between them and as of right now they are just friends and only friends. But since her roommate(the senior) is always busy, she gets bored a lot. So she will invite my best friend over to her room to come hang out (to smoke weed, do homework) since i wont let them hang out here. So he will leave and hang out with her and i will just be sitting her hating my life till he comes back.

 

When he gets back i feel bad asking questions, but i cant help my self. I have to know if she is talking about me and what not, and if i ask him what they talk about he will say something indirect like "stuff." They didn't prior really talk about anything to do with me, and they usually would just talk about stupid **** that didn't really matter.

 

She doesn't see this as unfair or wrong. She thinks that she should get to hang out with her friends, and i shouldn't get to control who she hangs out with. She considers my best friend as one of her good friends as well. She has no other friends, but should that really be my fault?

 

My best friend respects my wishes of her not coming to the apartment, but i havent really asked him to stop hanging out with her because i feel like im not aloud since they are friends.

 

How am i suppose to forget about her when my friends still hang out with her? It is irritating me enough to the point that i am losing sleep and not being able to do homework. Finals month has already began, and its affecting it too much. What should i do?

 

Tell her to stop hanging out with my friends and get her own?

tell my best friend to stop hanging out with her?

not do anything and try and ignore it?

any ideas are welcome as i am going a bit insane.

[monkeymaid]

drop both of them. hes a ****ty friend and shes just a whore.

 

**** that guy, i would have beat his ass the first time he did it, then i would never speak to them efer again.

[thebear08]

well i cant really do that since i live with him and im living with him next year. and its not like he ****ing her or anything.

 

it just sucks cause they are hanging out together right now and i cant write this freaking paper cause all i can think about is what they are doing.

[2yearsNC]

your a fool.

ofcourse she's fawking him.

don't be stupid.

[thebear08]

these aren't exactly helpful answers