guilt-ridden pervert

[griffinchicken53]

the title is a bit to the extreme. i wouldn't say i'm a pervert, i mean i look at porn, i'm sure most guys do. but i feel guilty afterwards, thinking of how much time i've wasted looking at pictures of naked chicks on the internet.

and then i feel guilty after.....ya know......i just think, wow, where would i be in life if i hadn't wasted so much time, could have read some books, cleaned the house, learned a foreign language, etc.

 

i just want to be different than this.

[tman666]

Dude, every guy ever participates in a "combat jack" once in a while, even those of us who get the real thing on a regular basis. It's part of having balls. Plus, who doesn't like naked chicks?

 

If you've got a problem though, try wearing woolen mittens 24 hours a day.

 

Ok, all kidding aside, find some stuff that you are passionate about. This could be anything productive: physical fitness, playing an instrument, playing sports, dancing, foreign language club, etc.

 

Give yourself a chance to "unwind" at the end of the day, but not until you've completed the other things that you wanted to do that day. To everything, there is a season.

[You Go Girl]

Well, from a woman, my words probably don't carry much weight. It's true we don't understand how serious you guys can feel about something that is zero connection with another person.

Maybe focus on that, the truth of it is that you have zero connection with another person with porn.

I mean, isn't it sad to think you're spending all that time sitting in front of a computer when REAL LIFE is passing you by?

Just a thought...you don't want to end up alone and 70, wrinkled and truly perverted, staring at 18 year olds.

How about this--porn or more productive activities--which will be more rewarding in the long term, instead of the instant gratification?

What activities would be more beneficial for you?

And remind yourself that a fantastic connection with only ONE woman blows away billions of naked women you'll never connect with....

[SaintDragon]

Just sounds like you're bored and the porn is keeping you content.

 

Hey man...I AM a pervert and a proud pervert lol.. I love all that stuff and I don't give a crap what someone thinks of porn. So what if it takes up a few minutes or whatever. Now if you're spending like 5 hours a day on it, then you probably have an addiction...you would need to see a sex therapist then as that would not be healthy.

[SouthernSunshine]

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[D-Lish]

I just went downstairs and had a little me-time in between posts here:p:eek:.

 

It's not a big deal. Looking at naked chicks on the net isn't a big deal either.

 

Find a good woman that understands porn. I get it, and it doesn't bother me. I watch it myself, and I like to watch it with guys I date as well.

 

It's nothing to feel guilty about!!!

 

If you're missing work or it's interfering with your relationships, then you might want to take a second look at the amount of time you're spending doing it. Otherwise, don't stress over it. It's 15minutes out of your day.

 

I guarantee I spend more time shopping that you do jerking off, and the pay off is much less rewarding.

[Green]

I'm still a real pervert but no longer guilt ridden. for the most part I actively avoid porn and try to limit the ammount I pleasure myself. I read books, go to the gym, and most importantly focus my perversions on my gf. I've put my balls in her mouth ect... great times.

[SadandConfusedWA]

I also don't mind men watching porn. I mean, it doesn't bother me AT ALL. Unless it's child porn or something completly illegal.

 

I watch porn myself, but probably around twice a week or so. I also have a collection of my favorites hidden in my apartment I have been single for a while...so you do what you have to do..

[shadowofman]

I find a interesting thing about my emotions an porn. If I am single and use porn to masturbate, I get extremely depressed afterwards. Maybe the oxytocin has no one to bond with even in my mind. I rarely masturbate while single for this reason.

 

If I am in a relationship porn doesn't have this effect on me. Dunno. It's just not as depressing when I have love in my life. *shrug*

[RainDown]

the title is a bit to the extreme. i wouldn't say i'm a pervert, i mean i look at porn, i'm sure most guys do. but i feel guilty afterwards, thinking of how much time i've wasted looking at pictures of naked chicks on the internet.

and then i feel guilty after.....ya know......i just think, wow, where would i be in life if i hadn't wasted so much time, could have read some books, cleaned the house, learned a foreign language, etc.

 

i just want to be different than this.

 

I think there is a deeper issue beyond simply "wasting time" here. Do you feel guilty after spending 2 hours watching a movie like Iron Man or Batman Returns? If not, why not? That's another wasted 2 hours of your life you'll never get back. We all "waste" time like that sometimes on pure entertainment. That's all porn is really - self-entertainment.

 

I don't think you feel guilty about the time wasted - I think you feel guilty about the porn itself. Do you want to talk about why that is?

[Green]

I think there is a deeper issue beyond simply "wasting time" here. Do you feel guilty after spending 2 hours watching a movie like Iron Man or Batman Returns? If not, why not? That's another wasted 2 hours of your life you'll never get back. We all "waste" time like that sometimes on pure entertainment. That's all porn is really - self-entertainment.

 

I don't think you feel guilty about the time wasted - I think you feel guilty about the porn itself. Do you want to talk about why that is?

 

How dare you put down Iron Man or Batman!

[dreamingoftigers]

Check out In the Shadows of The Net to see if you might have a problem, if you are feeling guilty and neglecting other facets of your life, you might just have one.

[RainDown]

How dare you put down Iron Man or Batman!

 

I LOVE me some Iron and Batman. I don't feel a bit guilty about it either!

[Ross PK]

the title is a bit to the extreme. i wouldn't say i'm a pervert, i mean i look at porn, i'm sure most guys do. but i feel guilty afterwards, thinking of how much time i've wasted looking at pictures of naked chicks on the internet.

and then i feel guilty after.....ya know......i just think, wow, where would i be in life if i hadn't wasted so much time, could have read some books, cleaned the house, learned a foreign language, etc.

 

i just want to be different than this.

 

How have you wasted time if it was an enjoyable experience?

[Els]

Exactly how MUCH time did you spend looking at pictures of naked chicks on the internet?

 

If it's like half an hour, you're totally overreacting.

 

If it's like 6 hours a day, I do agree you need to change.

[griffinchicken53]

southern sunshine, your avatar photo isn't helping me any.

there may have been a bored day that i was on the computer for four hours, but it wasn't just porn.

don't have much of a social life, i see myself as ugly (something else i could be trying to fix in time i waste on the internet) and i have a job where i am constantly working so not much time for a social life.

[amerikajin]

The rigors of modern living make it such that porn can become a surrogate for real-life interaction. Sometimes it's easier to just click, surf, and wank until 1 in the morning than it is to go out and find a woman. Anxieties and doubts about yourself don't help, either. Not lecturing, just saying that I can relate, because I've been there.

 

There's no real way to say whether you're watching too much porn. It really depends on what you're not getting done because of your porn and whether you're okay with that. If it's interfering with work, personal relationships, or limiting you in some way, then you might need to take steps to address it. But if you're thinking that you could be doing something else with your time, well, I guess we all could...

[griffinchicken53]

also, when i do masterbate, i'm not going for marathon times. 2-5 minutes, so i guess i feel bad like i'm messing myself up, having not had much sex at all, that when i do get to be with a woman i won't be able to last very long.

[ADF]

All guys look at porn. ALL GUYS. You're not a pervert, and don't anyone tell you otherwise.

[RainDown]

also, when i do masterbate, i'm not going for marathon times. 2-5 minutes, so i guess i feel bad like i'm messing myself up, having not had much sex at all, that when i do get to be with a woman i won't be able to last very long.

 

I wouldn't worry too much about that. I can come in about 60 seconds flat when I masturbate (I'm a woman), but it's totally different when I'm having sex with an actual other person. Masturbation provides complete control over the stimulation and most people can come quickly that way. I know men who can sustain intercourse for an hour or more, but still come within a few minutes when masturbating.

 

I don't think you're messing yourself up.

[RainDown]

All guys look at porn. ALL GUYS. You're not a pervert, and don't anyone tell you otherwise.

 

 

^^^ what he/she said ^^^

 

Many, many women, too.

[ComeUndone]

Why don't you just try masturbating without using porn for awhile and compare how you feel?

[shadowofman]

I know for me, masturbating without porn can be very frustrating. I tend to get stuck in mental loops during fantasies were a train of thought derails.

 

As if a porn video is playing in my mind, gets to the good part, and then skips back to the intro. Over and over. I can think about a creative sexual fantasy any other time. But as excitement increases, thoughts get more and more frantic and uncontrolled.

 

Just imagining a nude female doesn't do it for me like it did when I was 12. Now stimulation must include an action scenario and these are much more complex imaginings. Porn is more like actually having sex in the sense that visual stimulation is provided.

[Savanna-O]

I have to say- listening to shadowofman- I'm jealous.. men can get off so easily and turned on so easily, also, the way you guys can use your imagination is great! but like everything else, there is a down side.

 

I think everything in moderation is the key. I don't have a problem with my husband watching porn, it something you guys have did from a very young age, you don't even give it much thought.. it only becomes a problem when your spending too much time with it, which does seem to happen more often than not.

 

I know for my hubby ist's more a boredom thingy.. so I wouldn't feel guilty about it.. as I said, everything in moderation. I even offered to go down on my husband while he watches it (has happened yet, just on offer for the later stages of my pregnancy) it's perfectly normal.

Edited April 30, 2010 by Savanna-O