would U think?

[WildWildWest]

Ok u are seeing someone and have been for the past 8 months... not a real serious relationship but you have both told each other your not seeing anybody else even tho u havent made it offical yet. And everytime U ask that person if they want to get together, that person always has an excuse, for whatever reason it may be, would u think they was seeing someone else?

[soulm8]

Ok u are seeing someone and have been for the past 8 months... not a real serious relationship but you have both told each other your not seeing anybody else even tho u havent made it offical yet. And everytime U ask that person if they want to get together, that person always has an excuse, for whatever reason it may be, would u think they was seeing someone else?

 

Why would you want to see someone who always has an excuse not to see you?

 

Please have some self respect and see how long it takes for that person to want to see you. Better yet, move on and don't look back. There are plenty of people out there who will not have excuses NOT to get together.

 

There are so many possible reasons he/she has excuses - it doesn't really matter what the reason is. The fact is... they're not into YOU.

[WildWildWest]

Since I am the one who is coming up with the excuses all the time... i really do wanna see him its just when he asks its bad timing... I am now worried that he gonna think I am seeing someone else since he already has trust issues.. or ur right, maybe he does think im not into him when really I am

[soulm8]

Since I am the one who is coming up with the excuses all the time... i really do wanna see him its just when he asks its bad timing... I am now worried that he gonna think I am seeing someone else since he already has trust issues.. or ur right, maybe he does think im not into him when really I am

 

In 8 months time? Seriously? Why are you so incredibly busy? Why not talk to him about it? When he asks... do you simply give an excuse or do you suggest a better time?

[WildWildWest]

we have been seeing each other for 8 months... we work together so we see each other at work.. but the thing is he works early in the morning and I work later in the evening so the work schedules during the week kinda conflict... Plus I am having car issues and us living 45 mins apart doesnt help the situation... he is very busy on the weekends... he is also a firefighter so during the weekends that is what he is busy doing... that is why he always wants me to come over during the week but by the time I get off work its late or lately I have been trying to get the car situation handled so when he asks I always tell him its not a good time... this hasnt been going on the entire 8 months... Actually its just been lately... after the fight we had almost 2 months ago... we havent spent any time together since the fight.. just speak to each other at work and thru txt... I just dont want him to think I am seeing someone else or that I am not interested in him... he already has trust issues, this is why we havent made it offical because he has been burned before and doesnt trust anybody... but all the excuses I give makes it seem like I am seeing someone else or really are not into him doesnt it?

[soulm8]

we have been seeing each other for 8 months... we work together so we see each other at work.. but the thing is he works early in the morning and I work later in the evening so the work schedules during the week kinda conflict... Plus I am having car issues and us living 45 mins apart doesnt help the situation... he is very busy on the weekends... he is also a firefighter so during the weekends that is what he is busy doing... that is why he always wants me to come over during the week but by the time I get off work its late or lately I have been trying to get the car situation handled so when he asks I always tell him its not a good time... this hasnt been going on the entire 8 months... Actually its just been lately... after the fight we had almost 2 months ago... we havent spent any time together since the fight.. just speak to each other at work and thru txt... I just dont want him to think I am seeing someone else or that I am not interested in him... he already has trust issues, this is why we havent made it offical because he has been burned before and doesnt trust anybody... but all the excuses I give makes it seem like I am seeing someone else or really are not into him doesnt it?

 

So, for the past 2 months you haven't spent time alone together? Ouch... yep, you need to talk to him about this otherwise, he will give up on you.

 

"It's not a good time" is all you say? Put yourself in his shoes... help him trust you

[WildWildWest]

in almost 2 months now... of course after the fight (which was my fault) he totally ignored me for a week... after that we started talkin a lil bit here and there... by the 3rd week things was pretty much back to normal... by the 4th week he was back to asking me when we was gonna spend some time together.. I actually thought that after the fight he wasnt going to want to deal with me again since he has trust issues... so I guess I have been giving him excuses for the past month... I explain to him why it isnt a good time... whether it be late when I get off work, or having important things to do, in which is all true.. I am not seeing someone else and I really plan to spend more time with him during the week once I get the car situated... I really think the reason we had the fight is making him believe I am seeing someone else... I have told him several times that I am not but I just feel that my excuses all the time is going to make him think that I am... Even tho this isnt an offical relationship... I do really like him and its hard dealing with someone who has trust issues.

[soulm8]

in almost 2 months now... of course after the fight (which was my fault) he totally ignored me for a week... after that we started talkin a lil bit here and there... by the 3rd week things was pretty much back to normal... by the 4th week he was back to asking me when we was gonna spend some time together.. I actually thought that after the fight he wasnt going to want to deal with me again since he has trust issues... so I guess I have been giving him excuses for the past month... I explain to him why it isnt a good time... whether it be late when I get off work, or having important things to do, in which is all true.. I am not seeing someone else and I really plan to spend more time with him during the week once I get the car situated... I really think the reason we had the fight is making him believe I am seeing someone else... I have told him several times that I am not but I just feel that my excuses all the time is going to make him think that I am... Even tho this isnt an offical relationship... I do really like him and its hard dealing with someone who has trust issues.

 

Perhaps making it official would help? Maybe it'd be nice to write/type him a note telling him all the things you like and appreciate about him and sign it as his girlfriend? Could be kinda cute... and he'd know where you stand...

 

Sounds like you need to get your car fixed as a priority. How late is late? Is it too late to invite him to stay overnight at your place? Or is that too intimate?

[WildWildWest]

I did do the note thing the week after we got into the fight and thats what helped getting him back to talkin to me... He has told me several times he hasnt been in a relationship in a long long time cuz he doesnt trust ppl... I know for a fact he has been burned at least once, and maybe times before that.. so I dont press the issue because I just got out of a terrible 5 year marriage myself and Im really not ready for something super serious... what we have is pretty much like a regular relationship just havent made anything offical... He really just has a problem trusting ppl.. I could tell even before he told me... I really do need to get my car fixed so I can be mobile... even tho he has picked me up several times in the past that was on weekends so it wasnt to bad but he would rather see me during the week since he is busy on the weekends... Late for me is 9pm... which really is late on a weekday because he has to be at work at 7am and if he would be the one to pick me up that would be a good 3+ hours of just driving... and very inconvient for him... and I dont invite him over to stay at my house because I live with my brother and since me, my bro and him all work at the same place I think he feels uncomfortable so I just go over his house since he has his own place alone... I have spent the night over his house several times but he has never been over my house, just to pick me up... I am really worried he is thinking I am seeing someone else or just really not into him because I just turned him down this past monday when he asked me if I wanted to come over and ever since that day he has been kinda distant... he just came in here and didnt even speak to me... like he is mad or something.. I know he had a bad day yesterday and that could be why he still seems mad.. but Idk if its that or me... and he is the type when he gets angry I dont even wanna talk to him cuz he is that bad.. haha... I just try and leave him alone... but it bothers me terribly!