TooMuchPride Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 (edited) Hmmmm.... i think ive reached a new stage in my break up , atleast i hope i have , ive been alot happier lately , and i feel like ive began to accept my breakup ,i still seem to be thinkin about my ex all the time though and it seems to be only the good stuff , so i hope that im not deluding my self to believing we are getting back together and not even noticing it as the reason im happy , cause the fall from my recent "highs" will be a long one , but lately although i havent shed any tears and kept a smile on my face , i find a problem , im not trying to rebound but finding someone to shift my attention too will help out alot ,i still love my ex and hope it could work but he obviously feels different so i must try to move on , but it seems as though im no longer attracted to ANYONE , No matter what i jus cant become attracted to anyone, i found my self in a situation with a guy , he was giving me a massage and all i thought about was my ex , and we had a nice conversation and we clicked but , just nothing no sparks nothing , this could be that he wasnt my type to begin with , but no mater who the guy is , nobody is appealing to me anymore , it may be because im comparing them to my ex , who i obviously find quite attractive , but im sure there are plenty of guys who look better, even guys i liked prior to me ex..no longer attract me , is this because im not completely over it? or have i become completely shalow and my ex is now the sexiest guy on earth? ...and how long does this usually last , because the REAL sexiest man on earth could try to hit on me...and to me..he'd look like a frog ...not good. Edited April 24, 2010 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 Hmmmm.... i think ive reached a new stage in my break up , atleast i hope i have , ive been alot happier lately , and i feel like ive began to accept my breakup ,i still seem to be thinkin about my ex all the time though and it seems to be only the good stuff , so i hope that im not deluding my self to believing we are getting back together and not even noticing it as the reason im happy , cause the fall from my recent "highs" will be a long one , but lately although i havent shed any tears and kept a smile on my face , i find a problem , im not trying to rebound but finding someone to shift my attention too will help out alot ,i still love my ex and hope it could work but he obviously feels different so i must try to move on , but it seems as though im no longer attracted to ANYONE , No matter what i jus cant become attracted to anyone, i found my self in a situation with a guy , he was giving me a massage and all i thought about was my ex , and we had a nice conversation and we clicked but , just nothing no sparks nothing , this could be that he wasnt my type to begin with , but no mater who the guy is , nobody is appealing to me anymore , it may be because im comparing them to my ex , who i obviously find quite attractive , but im sure there are plenty of guys who look better, even guys i liked prior to me ex..no longer attract me , is this because im not completely over it? or have i become completely shalow and my ex is now the sexiest guy on earth? ...and how long does this usually last , because the REAL sexiest man on earth could try to hit on me...and to me..he'd look like a frog ...not good. It the smarter part of yourself telling the other part your simple not ready to date yet. You are one of the lucky ones at least you can hear the smarter part of yourself. Give yourself some more time. focus on be a better you and in time some who is gorgeous INSIDE and out will walk into your life when you are ready. Do not rush your crushes, you have time. Link to post Share on other sites
EthanH Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 I'm in a similar situation as you. I believe I can see my situation objectively. I do want a rebound. I am aware that I'm still in love with my ex. When I was with her, I found other girls attractive, but I liked my ex so much, my brain just switched off after I thought someone was hot, it never went onto the 'i wish' or 'what if?' thoughts. I was 100% into my ex. I know that in a relationship, I almost conditioned myself not to really pay much attention to the chance of hooking up with girls who I thought were hot. And it seems weird, but even know, having been single for over 2 months, I still feel like it is wrong for me to even look at another girl... I'm still in the mode of having loyalty to my ex. It is totally crazy, but the main thing is i'm aware of it. The other thing I'm aware of is. It is your choice not to feel attracted to guys. You CHOOSE to still be caught up with your ex. If you accept fully that it is over with your ex, you will begin to see other guys as something you want... of course you are going to compare every guy to your ex, it is a natural thing to do. If I were you, I would stop, not take a second look at other guys for a bit, and concentrate on yourself, put all the frustration of the situation, and channel it into your own ambitions/interests etc...you need to be happy on your own, before you can be happy with someone else. Stop thinking you are going to click your fingers and just be happy, a break-up is a massively destructive thing to the personality, it smashes your life apart. You need to give it some time to let yourself heal... and in that time, don't sit and feel sorry for yourself, do stuff for yourself, and in time, you will feel better. Link to post Share on other sites
EmperorR Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 you still have your ex on a pedastool and you think he/she is hottest thng ever when in reality there is a bunch of people hotter etc. I've been there. Link to post Share on other sites
You Go Girl Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 Just be careful what you wish for. If you really want to make the transition to dating again, you will get there, without much effort. But they too are just people, flaws and all. The danger lies is getting too high from a new relationship, only to be disappointed because you had unrealistic expectations. Link to post Share on other sites
ussy Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 Im in the exact same boat. I just dont feel attracted to any girls (no im not gay!) and i cant explain it..... I would be glad if someone could! Link to post Share on other sites
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