dyingtolive Posted January 20, 2004 Share Posted January 20, 2004 please reply to my question: if ur boyfriend compliments girls online and says he wants to meet up with them and i his girlfriend finds out and he denys ever meeting them, but just doing it out of boredom. he said things to the girls that hes never complimented me on and it hurt, but i love him im just scared i cant trust him and that hes a pervert who masturbates to woman online, were still young but should i go on even tho he lied and hurt me, does he deserve another chance or is he just a sex fiend who masturbates to beautifuler woman then me/ Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted January 20, 2004 Share Posted January 20, 2004 Well, I wouldn't call him a sex fiend or a pervert, but let's just say that his carnal thoughts are not directed solely at you. Have you considered asking him, in a neutral, fact-finding, non-critical way, why he does it? You might learn something that makes your decision a lot easier. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dyingtolive Posted January 21, 2004 Author Share Posted January 21, 2004 i try to talk to him but he doesnt like to talk and all he says is it is "boredom", he geats mad at me when i dont give him what he wants, he takes it out on me.....and as i type he says im lying, all he wants is sex and hes proving it. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 And you stay with this jerk because...? Link to post Share on other sites
Author dyingtolive Posted January 21, 2004 Author Share Posted January 21, 2004 i dont ****n know i cant let him go for some reason, i lost virginity to this guy, he claims to love me and when i try to leave him we always end up back together.... Link to post Share on other sites
spencer Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 Don't waste one more minute with this immature boy. He doesn't respect you, and you deserve to find someone who does. He is complimenting and showing approval for other women. This clearly is done to lower your self-esteem, in turn, you will feel worthless and not leave him. He gets mad at you when you don't have sex with him. This is bad and will only get worse. He is probably a sex-addict, and gets his self-esteem from having sex with you. Which is why he gets mad when you reject him. This is a cycle - your turn him down for sex- he feels worthless- he takes it out on you -trys to make you feel bad by praising other women, and withholding affection(not sex) from you- this makes you unhappy and puts you down - he feels better. Till you reject him again-(which most women would, when your not happy with someones behavior it is impossible to want to have sex with them!)- cycle repeats. You have to be the strong one and leave him. no contact don't take his phone calls. Do it quick and painfull like ripping off a band aid. You CAN someday be in a healthy relationship. Your are not in one now. You just don't know what that is yet, which is why your still with that bastard. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 He says he loves you but treats you like shXt. This is not love. Ditch the jerk. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dyingtolive Posted January 21, 2004 Author Share Posted January 21, 2004 thaxn Link to post Share on other sites
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