mr. confused Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 hey all, ok, my gf said she needed space bout 2 months ago, outta the blue! shes married to a refugee to keep him in the country while they were datin,she told nobody bout it. they were together for 3 yrs. he started treatin her like crap after that, nasty stuff, shes only 21! we met bout 3 months later and it was great, for 9 months we were so in love. i showed her how she should be treated. then she calls for space, she wanted to sort the stuff with her ex out. but then she started ignoring me, treatin me like crap! we broke up and i found out that bout 3 weeks later shes back with him, after rhe way he treated her. the worst thing was we had been talkin before that and were supposed tobe takin time out to think bout gettin back together. anyway again now we got back chattin and she kissed me and told me she still loves me, she says she wants to get back but wants to take things slow cos she still has to pretend to be with him so he can get his papers and they can divorce. seriosly messed up i know, any advice help! Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 ...she wants to take things slow because she still has to pretend to be with her refugee husband so he can get his papers and they can divorce... Well, of all the people who need space, this girl has got to have the most justification for it. Sounds like she needs to sort out her fraudulent, abusive, adultery-tainted marriage. I see no need for you to dive back into this marital margarita blender at this time. Maybe after they have completed their fraud with a final divorce. How much did she get paid? Link to post Share on other sites
MR. CONFUSED Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 no money, she thought she loved him at the time and then he started treatin her like ****. i just cant believe she went back to try make that crap work when i was treatin her like a princess. she had said she hated him and ruined her life because of him. soooooooo confused i am........... Link to post Share on other sites
mintjulep Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 Originally posted by SoleMate Well, of all the people who need space, this girl has got to have the most justification for it. Sounds like she needs to sort out her fraudulent, abusive, adultery-tainted marriage. I see no need for you to dive back into this marital margarita blender at this time. Maybe after they have completed their fraud with a final divorce. How much did she get paid? Yeah, that sounds a bit harsh. Good advice, but a little too much tough love on the girl. When you think you might be in love with someone who's about to be forced out of the country, you don't exactly have a ton of time to think things through. I do agree that she needs her space, though. Back off and let her sort things out. This is quite a mess, and she can't give you her all until she's completely separated herself from this sticky situation (just like any woman going through a divorce. A lot of times the love is a farce when it ends in divorce, regardless of the circumstances.) Link to post Share on other sites
Vivid_29 Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 Originally posted by MR. CONFUSED i just cant believe she went back to try make that crap work when i was treatin her like a princess. That's where you went wrong, dude. If you would have treated her like s**t, you wouldn't be in this bizarre, love triangle. Treat them like s**t and most of the time, they'll come back! Sounds like this broad is using you as a second resort. Find someone else. You don't need to put up with this crap! Just my 2 cents! ~V Link to post Share on other sites
Steve2usa Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 I disagree 100% with Vivid!!!! Nobody wants, needs or deserves to be treated like Sh*t, and Nobody deserves to be treated like a Princess or Prince for that matter. We are all people and just want to be treated as a person, with Love, Honor and Respect. As for Mr. Confused situation, you are in a sticky mess aren't you? If you really Love this girl and she really cares about you, then things will work out for the two of you in the end. But, now she has a mess to clean up, and she needs time to straighten it out. I don't think you need to follow the no contact rule, but I think you should at least set up some ground rules between you until her situation is taken care. I hope it gets resolved for you two quickly and please keep us updated. Good Luck! Steve Link to post Share on other sites
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