MM left family for 2 days then went back to wife!

[Montclair0011]

Serving papers does not mean he's leaving for good. I found this out the hard way. Also, once he tells the wife about you--it will get worse.

 

You are young and can do so much better. run, run run.

[MizzBlue72]

Don't buy the email Katie.

He needs to leave for HIM not for you. If he does leave for you, and when you have bad days, he will always resent you for it.

 

Kudos for you on not seeing him until his D is final ... yeah!! And yeah - just because papers are served - it does not mean there are not a lot of trials and tribulations ahead.

 

Please take care of you. Try sleeping. Your mind repairs itself and energizes you when you sleep. You can't keep allowing this to ruin you.

[greengoddess]

Even if his divorce is final why would you consider seeing him? You would really give a guy you were only sneaking around dating a second chance when he lied to you about his wife being dead? Seriously? Why give this man a second thought? YUCK.

[bentnotbroken]

Thanks! You get it.

 

I swear to God and everyone on this forum, I will not MEET this guy ever again in my life unless he serves his wife papers. Otherwise, I will tattoo the word "stupid" on my forehead. I SWEAR!

 

 

Even if he leaves why would you go back to him? I have a feeling you will, so you need to make sure the tattoo needles are sterile.

[donnamaybe]

Even if his divorce is final why would you consider seeing him? You would really give a guy you were only sneaking around dating a second chance when he lied to you about his wife being dead? Seriously? Why give this man a second thought? YUCK.

 

I completely agree with this. To lie about his wife being dead is VERY ugly. INCREDIBLY ugly.

[whichwayisup]

I will not MEET this guy ever again in my life unless he serves his wife papers.

IF that happens and he does divorce - Then you OWN it all - Anything that happens is your own doing. Meaning, you would be knowingly getting involved with him as a free man, knowing his past, knowing what he's capable of, knowing that he's a good liar and a manipulator. Sadly, you may be that "dead wife" he talks about to another OW down the road. He's no prize.

[bentnotbroken]

IF that happens and he does divorce - Then you OWN it all - Anything that happens is your own doing. Meaning, you would be knowingly getting involved with him as a free man, knowing his past, knowing what he's capable of, knowing that he's a good liar and a manipulator. Sadly, you may be that "dead wife" he talks about to another OW down the road. He's no prize.

 

 

Who is now fat with a child trying to save her marriage and deserving the OW to drop her a dvd of the sexcapades her H is participating in.

[katiecox]

Apparently he left his W and moved to his buddy's. Came clean about A and she hit him full on several times. That's what I heard.

 

I refused to see him, but got some much deserved sleep last night! PHEW

 

Quit bashing me for things I haven't done. I haven't gone back to him and I made it very clear that we're broken up at this point. I told him to stay the f*ck away until he mans up to ONE decision and sticks to it. I am not sure what I want but I won't decide until I have some finality on their M. Obviously I have real feelings for him or I won't be this worked up.

 

Coincidentally, a guy I thought was cute but never pursued because of A with MM asked me out to lunch last night. I'm going for it.

[georgia girl]

Enjoy lunch and good for you. I am proud of you. When you feel a little better, destroy your sex tape. You seriously don't want that thing hanging around.

[bananalaffytaffy]

Katie,

I know you have feelings for this guy, but you have to admit that him telling you his wife was dead is just... creepy for lack of a better word. I mean that's not just a little white lie, that's a big black ugly lie. If your best friend told you that someone she was seeing told her that lie, wouldn't you be skeptical? You did right telling him to stay away until his $hit is settled.

 

Isn't it nice to get some sleep for a change?

 

I really think you should go out on the lunch date. Provided the guy is single

[fooled once]

Apparently he left his W and moved to his buddy's. Came clean about A and she hit him full on several times. That's what I heard.

 

I refused to see him, but got some much deserved sleep last night! PHEW

 

Quit bashing me for things I haven't done. I haven't gone back to him and I made it very clear that we're broken up at this point. I told him to stay the f*ck away until he mans up to ONE decision and sticks to it. I am not sure what I want but I won't decide until I have some finality on their M. Obviously I have real feelings for him or I won't be this worked up.

 

Coincidentally, a guy I thought was cute but never pursued because of A with MM asked me out to lunch last night. I'm going for it.

 

The dead wife who ambushed him? Please don't tell me you believe this from him? Please don't tell me you are falling for it? He is capable of WHOPPER of lies (my wife is dead) which shows he has no conscious about lying.

[her_halo_slipped]

Thanks. I am 25.

 

However, I do have guilt in doing this, which is why I'm asking for help on this forum before I do it - before sending it out.

Who are you kidding? You don't want help. Almost everyone on here is telling you NOT to send the tape but you are so clever you will do it anyway.

Sure, you can skip out and pretend the fallout for you will be minimal but sweeheart karma knows no geographically boundaries and comes around eventually.

Take a long hard look at yourself. No wonder the A ended.

Be bitter and revengeful. Come back and post. Let us all know how that works out for you.

[Enlightened]

You know, if you're seriously thinking of doing this...with a serious intent of trying to make sure his daughter hurts as well...then in my opinion he made the right decision to go back to his wife. If he ever knew you had such potential for vengeance against his own flesh and blood...who had NOTHING to do with your affair, mind you...girl, if I were him you'd rue the day you ever crossed my path.

[her_halo_slipped]

Come on, do you really think an 18 month old baby will know anything about a video? I meant that it will go to the wife's family, and she will take it out on her husband, her kid with him, and it will tear the family apart.

 

I've seen that done to me as the child of a cheating man, and I felt helpless in the whole situation. My mother was humiliated and she took out her anger on me, ALOT. I took a long time to forgive her, I didn't deserve that, and I told myself I would Never do that to another person, ever.

 

Now that I'm put in this situation, I understand how the other person feels as well. A part of me just feels as if the BS should know what is going on, because it's only fair that I'm suffering, to be lied to and bullied all this way when I begged to be let off this roller coaster long ago.

 

Another part of me just woke up and decided I wasn't going to be like my mother, to keep taking some sh*thead back over and over again. It's done. And to make sure he won't come back? The pics and vids could just be an *accident*, oops, lost my phone it got leaked on the internet, whatever. Forward them the link. Pretend I'm the victim in this too. Obviously I've contemplated this over and over again.

 

The bottom line is whether I want to do this to the child and wife. When my anger subsides, I think not. But if he does come begging and pisses me off again, I'm not so sure I care if my hard drive and phone both go *missing* at the same time... I live near student housing and these guys are eager to share porn.

You know what...you are full of CRAPPOLA.

I'm done reading your trumped up full of sh*t story.

I hope you get what you deserve.

[whichwayisup]

Apparently he left his W and moved to his buddy's. Came clean about A and she hit him full on several times. That's what I heard.

 

It's bullcrap. This coming from a man who lied, pretended he wasn't married, then told you his wife was dead. If you believe this and get your hopes up, then sadly, you're asking to be taken advantage of. EVERY SINGLE person who has replied to, has warned you. Fact that you're willing to wait (even if you date other guys) and hope that he'll divorce some day soon, just shows you don't see him as the real scumbag he is. Sorry to be blunt, I just wish you'd take the blinders off and realize the guy is a chronic liar and eemt to have many traits of a narcissist.