Should I trust him?

[spicyjan]

A friend of mine introduced me to her husband's cousin 3 months ago. He lives in another continent but my friend told me that he's always been interested in me but i was never single.

So we started communicating thru emails, then messenger and telephone. I kinda like him, he is very funny. Even though i've never met him I feel so comfortable with him, feel like I can tell him anything. He told me that he is single, has his own apartment and he is just waiting for me. He wants me to come and meet him over there as soon as I finish my college term. He is making so much plans for us, he wanted me to find a college overthere so we can be together. So a month ago he applied in a college for me and I got accepted for a 3 months exchange program.

Here is the problem, 1 week ago I called a girl friend of mine who knows him and she told me that he lives with his "ex" gf and he told her that they still sleep in the same bedroom but without having any sexual intercourse! He said that it is over between them for a very long time but he stayed because he was still looking 4 an apartment but now that he found one he will move out the end of this month. She told me also that he asked her not to tell me and he said that anyway I might be sleeping with someone here he would never know coz i'm so far.

I got so mad at my friend ( the one who introduced me to him), her husband told me that there is nothing anymore between the two of them and that he sleeps in the same room coz the other room is occupied by her son and she doesnt want him to sleep in the living room!!! My friend's husband added that his cousin really is in love with me and that he did not tell me that coz he is going to move out anyway.

I called his cousin later and he told me the same thing, there is nothing and bla bla bla.

Now, I'm kinda confused, this story does not make sense. I am not sure that i wanna start a relationship like that. I really like him and I thought that we were being totally honest on da phone but knowing that he lied to me already! He seems very serious with us but.... I mean who's gonna believe that he has been sleeping for months in the same bed with his "ex" and nothing ever happens! grrrrrrr I just don't know what to do... I'm not sure I can trust him. I dont really wanna leave my life here anymore for him but I'm scared to regret it if i don't.

Need advices please!

[TaraMaiden]

You guys are not in a relationship, you're not even committed, there is nothing between you two at all, and different people have told you the same thing.

Besides, if he's moving out at the end of the month, then that's a good thing isn't it? And if he HAS had sex with her - what business is it of yours?

 

He says he isn't, others have said he isn't.... why not just give the guy a break?

He's liked you a long time.... don't let him think that he's getting involved with someone who's so insecure, that even when you're not committed yet, you're showing signs of jealousy and resentment.

 

Incidentally, my current partner lived with his ex-wife for 2 years before he finally had the finances to move out. When their daughter came to stay with them for 2 months while her flat was being re-done, he slept in the same bed with his ex-wife..

Nothing ever went on.

I believe him, and I believe her.

 

I don't think this is really that big a deal, frankly.....

[spicyjan]

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[Deeblondie82]

I kinda would be little worried too. But since you two are just getting to know eachother and maybe start something I wouldnt worry about it. I would just go and enjoy the time its a traviling experence that will be something to remember. I mean if it dont work out there is always coming back. So I think you should just go for it... but go with your gut. It's always right.. oh and your heart! Good luck