ideas from anyone, but esp girls

[Mike]

My situation I guess is much more common than I thought, I figured that out by reading other posts on this board. My girfreind broke up with me. I was being too nice and not letting her live her own life, I tried to solve all of her problems for her. When we had talks about our problems, I didn't listen to what was important to her.

 

I know that the best thing to let her know I understand her now and give her some space. I have done that. After ignoring me for a couple months, she is at least starting to talk to me, but not that often yet.

 

I know what NOT to do (not to call her all the time..not to right away ask her to go out, not to pressure or smother her) but what I want to know is if there is anything (besides doing nothing) that I CAN do. Are there little things I can do that will help this situation out?

 

I'd certainly want to hear from anyone who has an opinion but in particular any girls---if you were in this situation and just wanted some time away from a guy, is there anything he could do that would make you feel better about him?

 

Thanks

[Tony T]

You ask: "Are there little things I can do that will help this situation out?"

 

I'm not a girl so I'll make this very brief. By asking the above-quoted question, you appear to be absolutely itching to go back to the same kind of person she disliked before. My vote as a guy is for you to lay low, turn things around, and YOU play the one that has to be worked for for a change.

 

Pardon the intrusion. That is all.

[D]

Men there are plenty of chicks out there....Let her go..please,find someone else, there are 2 billion women out there, you do not need to demean yourself, whatever,,,she broke up, bad for her, if she runs back to you, yeah, but otherwise, you are a MAN, not a pussy, so move on dude

You ask: "Are there little things I can do that will help this situation out?"

 

I'm not a girl so I'll make this very brief. By asking the above-quoted question, you appear to be absolutely itching to go back to the same kind of person she disliked before. My vote as a guy is for you to lay low, turn things around, and YOU play the one that has to be worked for for a change. Pardon the intrusion. That is all.

[billy the kid]

Mike,

 

not pressuring her is great. that shows you have some brains.. so lets talk for a minute.. when you call she has to talk or be rude and hang up. right? so try cards, ya see she doesn't have to talk to you yet she is still hearing from you.. try this for starters.. get a dictionary and find a copy machine. then in this order look up these words and copy the words and definitions.. "I" "MISS" "YOU".. then cut them out and put them on another sheet of paper and enlarge them. then just sign it, "Mike" and mail it to her.. little things like this are what they like most... leave the phone alone, let her use it..

My situation I guess is much more common than I thought, I figured that out by reading other posts on this board. My girfreind broke up with me. I was being too nice and not letting her live her own life, I tried to solve all of her problems for her. When we had talks about our problems, I didn't listen to what was important to her. I know that the best thing to let her know I understand her now and give her some space. I have done that. After ignoring me for a couple months, she is at least starting to talk to me, but not that often yet. I know what NOT to do (not to call her all the time..not to right away ask her to go out, not to pressure or smother her) but what I want to know is if there is anything (besides doing nothing) that I CAN do. Are there little things I can do that will help this situation out? I'd certainly want to hear from anyone who has an opinion but in particular any girls---if you were in this situation and just wanted some time away from a guy, is there anything he could do that would make you feel better about him?

 

Thanks