greyskies Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 This is so messed up and I am so confused. My best friend and my bf get into a fight, because my best friend thinks he stole some information from her. And he did not. But when she confronted him he was like "you think I did what?" "Oh ok well sure if thats what you believe." And because he just agreed with her she flipped out. My bf has never lied to me or anything. She knows what an honest person he is. Well we all were living together and then she moved in with her mom and son. I then began to rent her house from her. Well after they get in this arguement she tells me I cannot have him in the house ever. So we begin to disagree on that and yesterday things got ugly. Her parents got divorced and bought her a new car. She gave me her OLD one and I am very grateful being that I didnt have a car. Well we went around and around about her telling me whom I can have in the home that I pay rent in. And finally we came to an agreement that if either one of them was here the other would not come here. Well that day before she agreed to this we got into it pretty bad and she took the car away from me. She still keeps keys to the house and the car. Then we made up and she gave it backto me. But that right there messed me up. We've been friends for almost five years. Yesterday my bf and I are sleeping and my best friend calls and says she wants to come by and drop off the phone bill. I told her my bf was here and she said she would just come to the door. I said cool. Well suddenly there is this pounding at my door. Its her brother I ask him to please not knock on my door like that. He proceeds to curse me out very loudly. I call my friends cell phone and she comes and tells him to stop. He then breaks into the rod iron screen door and trys kicking down the door. We have all been very close at one point and time so nobody wanted to call the cops on anyone. I call my brother and my bf mom to come over, because her brother had flattened my bf tires and then got the key to my car from my friend and left in my car. My bf and mom pump up his tires and leave, and I was told he would never return. Then my friend comes back and we fight and argue for hours. Me and my friend have never ever had a tiff before this and now this. Back a couple of years ago she had a bf and we didnt get along so she quit hanging with me all the time. I was cool with it cause I know how love is. But she was very happy to finally have him out of the picture. I am torn apart inside. He will not return here and is adamant about it. To much drama he says. And I agree. Should I move out and end my friendship to be with my man? Or stay here and continue to let this friend and her violent family members run my life. I dont know what to do? I dont really have anywhere to go but my brothers and I dont want to stay there its very far away. And I dont want to lose my friend or my bf. Link to post Share on other sites
Errol Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 Do you have a lease? Read it - take it to an attorney and find out what your rights are where you live. Do you have the pink slip on the car she "gave" you? Or is it just on loan? If you own it then she shouldn't have any keys to it. If you are borrowing it then give it back and get yourself a different car. If she, or her brother, vandalize any more of your property -- or your boyfriends -- call the police and file a report. I think you should get out of that house and find your own place. She doesn't sound like much of a friend if she is being so violent. Friends can argue over property and rents, etc. but the violence and desctuction of property is intolerable. Link to post Share on other sites
LEXY1786 Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 I agree with errol. You need to take legal action. U cant let people treat you like that. I would say move out and go with your boyfriend...... Link to post Share on other sites
Author greyskies Posted January 21, 2004 Author Share Posted January 21, 2004 There is no lease she is subleasing it to me and she claims she is going to sign the car over to me today. I just got a new job that I start on Saturday and I need the car to get there. Thats the only reason I applied for the job in the first place. Yeah, you could be right. Do you think there is to much that has happened between us for us to stay as close as we have been in the past? I mean we never even got into a disagreement in four years. Was it because we moved in together with my bf? She says he is the cause of all of this. And she thinks he treats me bad. He has never called me a name in a whole year. Nor has he lied or anything like that. She was mad too because I asked the landlord the price of the rent. Because I don't even get a receipt from her. And the landlord told her I asked and we fought about that too. I truly care about her I mean she has been like family to me. Link to post Share on other sites
LEXY1786 Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 i think u guys can still be friends but she has too much control over your life by u living there...move out and take it one day at a time from there....dont just drop her completly. I think u guys could continue a friendship Link to post Share on other sites
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