What do you call a person like this?

[dennisflorida]

a person that demands respect, that gets their feelings hurt

or feathers ruffled so easily, that has to tear other people down

or just not like them because they are slightly different, that has

hang ups with silly little things and take them personal and constantly

have to talk about the good they've done and tried to do for people

but always get the short end of the stick from people.

 

Yeah, i'm talking about my Mom. I'm also talking about an old

friend of mine who was like this who I don't talk to anymore. He

refused to admit that he talked down about certain people and

that he was always welcoming but always felt the need to prove

and talk about the good things he'd done for people in the past.

 

It's hard to deal with these people.

I don't feel the need to nitpick on people all the

time or talk myself up all the time.

 

Am I insensitive or do they have issues?

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They sound narcissistic to me.

 

I don't mean the whole " vanity" thing because in psychology the definition of narcissism is broad, but both your mother and your ( ex) friend sound like they possess traits of the inferiority complex.

 

The thing is, you're allowed to remove yourself from people that you don't agree with. However in the case of your mother, whom you have to interact with from time to time, unless you decide to become estranged from her, you can choose to accept and tolerate her. As frustrating as that may sound like, the best thing to deal with narcissistic is not get drawn into their dramas.

[dennisflorida]

They sound narcissistic to me.

 

I don't mean the whole " vanity" thing because in psychology the definition of narcissism is broad, but both your mother and your ( ex) friend sound like they possess traits of the inferiority complex.

 

The thing is, you're allowed to remove yourself from people that you don't agree with. However in the case of your mother, whom you have to interact with from time to time, unless you decide to become estranged from her, you can choose to accept and tolerate her. As frustrating as that may sound like, the best thing to deal with narcissistic is not get drawn into their dramas.

 

WOW. That is an awesome thought and explanation, sincerely.

 

It makes perfect sense. My mother at times can seem like she needs to

prove her existance, try so hard to be liked and sometimes, seems jealous that I (her son) have my head screwed on a lot better than she does. She's always gonna keep me in check that i should remember who rasied me to be the way I am, so I should respect her thru thick and thin, i guess even if she acts dramatic or crazy or judgemental towards others.

 

Same with my old pal. Once we finally came to that fateful last heated conversation years ago, it came out that he was hurt that some his friends that he introduced me to seemed to like me more than he, when they were HIS friends to begin with. He was always trying so hard to be liked. That makes sense now.

 

No one's perfect i guess, not even I. But I've been trying to figure out what exactly it is about people like this.

[You Go Girl]

They get the deserved short end of the stick from people because other people see them for what they are--insecure, and negative.

Everybody is at their own stages of development. Some people never get past some hurdles, and stay there forever.

We're talking about enlightenment to the human condition here.

You will meet, and have to interact with people who don't see the light on certain issues throughout your life. And others will see things in you that are less developed emotionally and less mature than they are.

The choice you have--is to not let it ruffle your feathers. If they're blind to something--just smile at them and remember to try to be kind.

It's not what you said that people remember--it's how you said it--the lasting feeling you leave them with. This is true even if they are in the wrong.