guest Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 i am torn right now. i love my bf to death, but i'm on the verge of leaving him. the things he has been doing while we are intimate, bother me, and i have told him so. whenever we have sex, he has to pull out a porn mag. i don't mind porn, but while we are doing it!? am i out of my mind for being upset? he says what is the difference, porn is porn.. whether you are alone or not. i don't think it is the same thing. he is busy looking at other women's pics while he is making love to me. is there something wrong here? i'd appreciate some opinions. thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 Perhaps you should discontinue sex with him until he is more considerate of you? Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 er..this is a tough one. first: how utterly tacky to do this while you are making love. but second: if you love this boy, then you can try talking to him about it more making sure to avoid accusing, blaming, crying or other histrionics. why does he do it at that particular moment? how would he feel if you needed to tape johnny depp's face over his while you had sex? have you tried watching porn movies with him as a form of foreplay? play-acted? tried public places or at new places? we need more information here, i think. Link to post Share on other sites
lostforwords Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 ok well if you dont mind porn.... then why not make videos accessible to him instead of mags.... that way not only do you prevent him from taking a break from reaching for the mag and breaking his rhythm but it also allows his hands to be free. Link to post Share on other sites
jester Posted January 21, 2004 Share Posted January 21, 2004 am i out of my mind for being upset? he says what is the difference, porn is porn Apart from the awkward mechanics of flipping pages of a magazine during intercourse, when those hands should be doing other things, I'm concerned about his "tough sh#T" dismissal of your response. Next time he pulls out a mag, stop f**king him , and tell him to go f**k the magazine. That should get his attention. Because he's certainly not giving you any attention (or respect) now. Link to post Share on other sites
wiseOLDman Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Me thinks this one oversteps the boundary of good bed manners. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 I'm not anti-porn, but flipping pages WHILE having sex? Sure, discuss it, but it sounds like the attempts to discuss it have been for naught already. In this case I'm siding with 'he's a jerk'. Link to post Share on other sites
metal_chik Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 That is sooo messed up...I totally agree with jester. If you've already mentioned it and it did no good, tell him if he likes the damn thing that much he can just keep it. Then pull out some gay porn on his ass....porn's just porn right dear? Link to post Share on other sites
Ring Out Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 First off, at least he could be considerate enough to put it up on the celing or the headboard, not be flipping through it like he's in a library. This might get me in some trouble but I'm just going to come out and say it. Totally wild guess here but here it goes. I don't think he's attracted to you. Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 my fiance and i never used to have problems in bed before. i admit, at first, i was not keen on the whole porn idea. ( he was always working and when he was in the mood he usually whacked off instead of coming to bed, so i gave him **** for it) then as of a few months ago, things seemed to get better. he was more attentive to me. every time we had sex, he would stop after i reached my peak. at first i thought he was just trying to please me and be selfless. but it went on like this for weeks. until he started bringing the porn mags to bed.. THEN he would let himself come. this is the story.. and ring out, he does find me attractive. he is always complimenting me. and no other guys seem to have a prob with the way i look. thanks for the opinion though. Link to post Share on other sites
doniker Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 my I ask your age height and weight? Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 doniker, what does it matter what my measurements are? attractive people come in all shapes and sizes. but if you must know... i am almost 21 years old. i'm 5'5 or 5'6 and i'm about 112. happy now? Link to post Share on other sites
doniker Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 just wondering. Well I have to admit I have closed my eyes and thought about other women while having sex with my wife....I guess in a way it's the same as looking at porn during sex. Your dude has no class and no respect for you to whip out a mag during sex. Link to post Share on other sites
wideawake Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Originally posted by guest i am torn right now. i love my bf to death, but i'm on the verge of leaving him. Come on...taking a porn mag out during fun and games and he knows it upsets you? Leave his lame ass already. That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard! I mean, if you guys were sharing it and it was mutual, than sure (hey, we've all been there...) but that is just too much to handle. Did you continue to fool around after he took the mag out? Just a thought - do you think he may need the porn to maintain an erection or something? I just thinking out loud here, becuase I just can not for the life of me imagine why any guy would do such a thing. It's pretty horrible. Take care, WA Link to post Share on other sites
steffany Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 I know we all control our selves but come on! If my man pulled out a mag and I just continued I am also to blame. For Pete's sake get a vibrator and every time he pulls out a mag pull out your rabbit and leave him to whack off! I think this is about the dumbest thing I've ever heard of a guy doing during sex and the stupidest thing I ever heard of a girl going along with! I mean you are letting him finish with the mag out right? What on earth has gotten into ya'll? Please speak and let him know how it feels! Don't accept this as OK behavior it definitely is not! Link to post Share on other sites
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