Chi-Wan 1 Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Ok, my Ex and I have been together for 6 months and it was the ideal relationship and it was all great, after the summer passed by we went back to school and had recieved four classes together... after one month of school she started to lose it for me. We broke up after everything went completely sour! It's been like 3-4 months ever since we spoke to eachother and we still have those classes together, we don't talk and we don't say a word to eachother... she told me alot of things that would get me thinking such as "I don't want to leave you cause my life would be boring without you" and other stuff like that, of course people can say that and it means nothing now... The situation I'm in right now is that I still care for her and I want her back! I truly do love her and this isn't that puppy love crap! It isn't lust! I know that she'd make me happy, I'm 16 and she's 17 but same grade... I see her in class and she's always trying to entertain herself with some friends that are after her for a different reason... To analyze her, she's not ready in the mind for a relationship like mine, she doesn't know about how the world is... You can look at someone and say "That guys after you, cause he likes you" but she's disagree and think he's a good friend... you know? She hasn't been through enough to know what's good and what's not! So what do I do? I want to get back with her, but I don't know how to approach the situation, I can't just pull her out of the blue and talk to her about it, cause that's walking RIGHT into a world of pain! She's somewhat stubborn at times and she's so confused! She's doesn't know what she wants! I'm not saying that I know what she wants, but she herself had said that I would be a great husband and father and all that! If she would've told me that she wanted a break cause she's not after that right now, that'd be great, but come on! She didn't say anything, she couldn't even tell me why she lost it for me! I had to figure it out myself! You'd tell me to move on and look for someone better, but I love her and I care for HER. The reason why I still stick by her is because I also fear that she's going to get screwed over in the world, take advantage of you know? I want to make sure that doesn't happen... but I can't just tell her that, she has to learn it herself... What do I do? Do I wait until she's definitely bored of the world? Or do I just intercept now? Cause I think she's getting bored, but not there enough to realize anything... you know? Someone please help... Link to post Share on other sites
dario Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 "I also fear that she's going to get screwed over in the world, take advantage of you know? I want to make sure that doesn't happen... but I can't just tell her that, she has to learn it herself... " You just answered it all in one piece. She's still so young - life beginning. She has to do her own thing. Link to post Share on other sites
ThisGirlNameKD Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 You say that she hasn't been through enough to know what's good and what's not.....and you do? You may think you're the best thing in the world for her, but if she doesn't feel the same it's not going to happen. That's something she's gonna have to want on her own. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi-Wan 1 Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 I stated already that I don't want to sound like I know what's for her... but I don't want to sound like a prick either... please understand that this is a situation in which one is ready and one is not... So what exactly do I do? I know she cares for me and loves me cause she has said it and has shown it, but when school was around she just changed her thoughts on love from the caring and all to the kisses and teenage hormones! And when that was lost, she just quit on me... I don't get her... And I DO NOT want to sound like I know everything, but this is my best assumption... she doesn't know what she wants, cause she's obviously not looking around for that someone and she is hanging around ppl that only want her for one thing... ::sigh:: Do I wait for her? Or should I do something NOW? Please answer me... Link to post Share on other sites
Steve2usa Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 CHI... Your story takes me back a few years to my youth when I was in love with a girl I went to school with. We spent every waking hour together planning for our futures and how we would achieve it. Yes we too were madly in love with one another, but things changed. She broke it off for no reason I could imagine at the time and I Pined to get her back all the time. What I did not know then was that she and I still needed to grow up and live and experience life to the fullest. I'm 37 now and have had my heart broken several times, including 1 divorce, but I have learned from each experience how to become a better person for myself and thus pass this on to the one I love. I realize that it's hard to let go of that first love, but it gets better as you get older and learn more about yourself (forget learning about the world, they have thier own problems to deal with). My advice to you is be her friend and leave it at that for now. You've heard it before and will hear again, if its ment to be it will. Go out and date other girls and experience different relationships and by all means have fun, your only young once and when its gone its gone for good and then all you can do is wonder why did'nt I enjoy my youth when I had the chance. For the record me and my old High school girlfriend still talk and are still very much friends and I would not trade that for anything. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Chi-Wan 1 Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Thanks a bunch man... Maybe it is meant to be and maybe it isn't... I'm not going to die everyday for it! Thanks alot. Link to post Share on other sites
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